Post # 1
Hi Bees! I am running into a dilemma and I cannot find any advice on the internet (shocking!!) so I am turning to you for help! My fiance and I are getting married on the east coast, where our friends/family are from, but we recently moved out west. We are flying in a few days before the wedding, leaving the day after for our honeymoon (international flight), and flying from our honeymoon back to our house on the west coast. In addition to the struggles of planning a wedding from 2500 miles away we are facing something we didn’t anticipate- how to handle gifts?! We did register, but due to the logistics we have not shared our registry on our website or invites. Now that we are gettign RSVP’s people want to know where we are registered. Truly, we feel awkward asking for gifts in the first place and we are mainly excited for our families to unite and to spend time with them (especially now that we are so far away!), but neither of our families are the type to show up empty-handed, so we are trying to come up with a solution that is easy on them and us.
Should we add something about our registry to our website? Is there a tactful way to ask people to ship them to us here? If we do receive gifts there, has anyone else ever dealt with a similar situation? What did you do??
If you have any ideas for us please let us know! Our wedding is 7 weeks away and we are clueless!
Post # 2
bride2be831: In cases like yours, it is easier to not have a registry. In that case, guests most often give cash. If you do have a registry, establish it at a store with a good return policy, so your parents or other close family could return the gifts for cash/credit for you to re-purchase when you get home. Or they could ask that the gift be delivered from your local store after you return from your honeymoon.
If anyone asks your family, they could remind people of the difficulty of taking gifts back to the west coast and suggest that they arrange to have gifts shipped to your west coast home.
Post # 3
We planned our wedding from abroad and we choose not to register. When anyone asked we said there presence was enough of a gift! Most people took the hint and gave us cash. Most people even the elderly guests seemed very understanding that we couldn’t return with physical gifts and we couldn’t have them mailed to us!
If you want them to buy off your registry I would probably suggest putting it on your website and making a note that instead of bringing it to the wedding they could purchase online and have shipped to your home or the nearest store to you.
Shipping will probably cost you a fortune if lots of people bring physical gifts to your wedding!
Post # 4
No one brought a physical gift to our wedding. We registered, but most shipped the gift to our home straight from the website.
Post # 5
If you are going to make a registry, I would send out an email abd ask for things to be shipped to your west coast address. I don’t think it is that big of a deal, people will understand, and be inclined to bring a cash gift.
Post # 6
We’re also having our wedding out of state. Our registry can be accessed online and all gifts are shipped to us after the wedding. Can your registry shop offer something similar in way of one big shipment?