Post # 1
Not the end of our relationship, but the end of our LDR! Two weeks ago, I FINALLY moved to Orlando to live with my FI after enduring seven months apart. That may not seem very long to others whose SO is overseas and whatnot, but to us it was torture. I am so excited to finally be with him, in person, every single day.
What changes did your relationship go through when the LDR ended and you got to be with your SO in person all the time? Everything’s been great with us so far, but I’d like to get feedback from others as to what I should expect! This is also the first time me and my FI have lived with anyone other than roommates or families.
Post # 3
I was away early on in our relationship for 2 months for a summer job, and it was the distance that made me realize that I was totally unavoidably in love with him and that we were going to get married. I had never felt that way before and had never in fact been homesick before. Yay!!
Post # 4
YAY!!!! Isn’t it the best? MY FI and I were long distance from June-06 to Nov-08. We were only 2.5 hours away, but I went to school and he worked so we only saw each other on the weekends (and not every weekend at that.) I’m sure you’ve already experienced this, but for me the best feeling was when Sunday came and for a split second I thought "I wish I didn’t have to leave" and then remembered "Wait…I don’t!" Just to know that you don’t have to pack you suitcase anymore. Amazing.
I don’t know what kind of couple you guys are, but don’t let your social life suffer because you live together. It gets really easy to say on a Friday or Saturday "Oh, let’s just stay in." I really believe it’s important to go out with friends, both as a couple and individually.
Also, don’t let your Twister game suffer (if you play.) You’re not an old married couple yet! This is something we’re still working on (we’ve been living together for almost 6 months now).
Most importantly, enjoy it!! As a long distance couple, you two have gone through something that many others never will and it makes your relationship very special. You know what it’s like to really miss some one. Don’t sweat the small stuff 🙂
Post # 5
Congrats! you must be so excited! Because you asked for what you might be able to expect, I’ll share a little: When my fiance and I moved in together after being apart for 2 years, it took a little while to get used to each other again. Like all of a sudden there’s this person in your apartment all the time. We had to learn that you need to call the other person when you are going to be late and other little stuff like that that comes with living together. For him, cleaning up the sink after he shaves. For me, i had to try and not kill him when he would do my laundrey and put sweaters and stuff in the dryer. (I think this is called learning patience – I’m still not very good at it!) You will also probably annoy each other & get mad at each other from time to time, which you don’t really experience fully when in a long distance. Just remember it doesn’t mean that the relationship is not as good as you thought and don’t worry that you made the wrong decision – it’s just all part of being in a normal relationship!
But now for the awesome things to expect: One of the best things was having someone to crawl into bed with at night and wake up next to in the morning. It was also so great to be able to have normal conversations and go to the grocery store together (although, I now am on my own on that one!) or go for a walk. You’ll also probably discover cute little habits he has. (I learned about my fiances adorable habit of making up lyrics to songs and his hilarious sneezes) In summary – ENJOY! Just to be a normal couple is the greatest thing. 🙂
Post # 6
My fi and I started out long distance. He was in school at Rockford, IL and I was at UAB in Alabama, that was simply awful! After a year or so he was in Orlando and i was in Savannah (4.5 drivable hours, much better!) Then finally we both moved to Birmingham AND moved in together. It is such a big change seeing someone every day and learning all of their home habits (clothes, dishes, etc) But how can I complain after living apart for over 2 years!!! 🙂
It is an absolutely amazing feeling and I am so happy for you!
Post # 7
Honestly, when I moved in with my hubby (he wasnt hubby at the time) a year ago, we fought LESS than before we lived together! We had a long distance relationship for FOUR YEARS before we could be together all the time. We’d only get to see each other maybe 3 or 4 times a year (holidays, school breaks type of thing). It really sucked major. Whenever we were together, I felt like I was always mad at him! To this day I still don’t know why I acted like that (maybe the stress of knowing it’s not going to last [we generally got about a week together] and we’ll have to go back to miserable reality. Plus, he usually came to visit me with all my family around, never got alone time, etc). But, I’m really glad he didnt dump me for being a crazy psycho or anything and we really are happy together. I definitely enjoyed not having to pack my bags back up! I also enjoy just the little things, like us being in the bedroom doing our own thing, but still having each other as company, watching tv next to each other, being able to just go sit on his lap whenever I want, I even like cooking dinner for him!! Even if we aren’t doing anything particularly exciting, we still have fun with each other.
Oh, and one of my FAVORITE things is weekends where we get to sleep in and once we wake up we just lay in bed and mess around (not even Twister). It’s amazing.
But, I will admit that we play Twister much less than I thought we would…
Also, I miss him EVEN MORE when he’s gone now. It doesn’t seem possible after you have been apart for so long, but he went away for a funeral for a couple of days and I was just sooooo sad and miserable! Part of it is because I left all my family and friends behind in my home town when I moved in with hubby, so for the first time, I felt really 100% alone. I didn’t even expect to be so sad, I just thought "ok, he has to go, its not like he’s out having a crazy good time, its a funeral for gosh sakes, and it’s only 3 1/2 days" but as I was getting ready for work in the morning that he left, and nobody was there to tell me to have a good day at work, and when I had to lock the top lock for the front door (hubby usually leaves after me so I leave it for him to get), water works just started and I had a really hard time holding back my tears all day while at work. ALL day! Then when I got home I just totally bawled my eyes out.
Post # 8
Yay! I’m so happy your LDR is "finished"… we’ve been at it for 3 years now & our finish line in next July. I live in Canada & he lives in the US. On our wedding day I’m not going to cry because I’m getting married: I’m going to cry because finally the torture of an LDR is over!
Post # 9
Aw, congrats! My FI and I have been doing it for about a year and still have almost two years left to go 🙁 I keep saying I can’t wait until we can live together without an expiration date.
Can’t wait til I’m in your position. Enjoy every awesome second of it!
Post # 10
Thanks so much for the congrats, ladies! I’ve found that he does have annoying habits (like leaving wet towels on the floor and talking really loud in public sometimes) but also charming, amazing ones (taking a moment to hug me in the middle of the hallway and complimenting some part of my body or outfit on a daily basis) that make up for the mildly irritating ones. It’s so wonderful to have him here, all the time- just getting to have conversations with him face to face is priceless. I hope that we can always remember how hard it was to be away from each other and the simultaneous joy and horror of the airport. I’m happy in retrospect to have gone through the LDR, but at the time…not so much. 🙂
Post # 11
That’s so exciting! My FI and I are hoping that our long distance relationship will be "over" by the end of the summer. I am terrified that the romance in our relationship will suffer. Right now, we have this dramatic dynamic of good bye’s and reunions. He brings me flowers all of the time, we go on exotic dates, and we constantly talk about how much we love each other. I know that these things will be less frequent when we are together, I just hope that they don’t disappear completely! In your experience thus far, has the romance vanished?
Post # 12
Well,we’ve only been living together for 2 and a half weeks now, so no, the romance hasn’t vanished entirely- we’re much more homebodyish than we were when we only saw each other once a month, but we’re quite happy doing that! We’re trying to watch our budget since we had to spend a bit of money moving me here, getting stuff for the house, etc…so we won’t be doing anything too terribly exotic for a while. I’m planning a picnic for his birthday next Sunday, and we have plans to go to Disney World at least once this year…gotta take advantage of living in Orlando!!
Post # 13
That’s good to know! In all honesty, I cannot wait until we are able to do just regular things together everyday….cook dinner, share the newspaper, etc. At this point, I can’t think of anything more "exotic"!
Post # 14
My FI and I have been LDR since Feb 2007. We went to the same college, and then I graduated and moved to Texas. He graduated this past May and got into a Masters program in Texas. This program will allow him to get his teachers certification and work at a school here. There have been a few complications with the program (very unorganized) and he is a little nervous that it might fall though. I know he wants to be secure in his future plans, especially with our wedding coming up. But I really want him to move here despite everything, because this LDR is killing me.
Now he just told me that his mom has been talking to him about entering into a Masters program in his hometown, in which he can go to for free and have a guaranteed job in his home state. He’s asking me what I think, but I really want to scream "We already have plans".
I feel like I have a great job and I shouldn’t have to leave it, and that he can get his Masters here. I also want to be supportive though. We discussed continuing our LDR even through our marriage, but I don’t know if I can make it two more years. Is anyone else out there having a similar situation?
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2008 - Imperia Hotel (modern chic hotel)
That is awesome!!!! You must be sooooo excited.