Long Distance Valentines-Am I being ridiculous for being upset that he went out?

posted 3 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

If you had set skype plans and he ditched- you can be totally upset

if you just kinda wanted to skype and didn’t tell him- maybe let it go, Valentines day probs just isn’t that important to him 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think you’re being a little too dramatic. There’s nothing wrong with him wanting to go out if the two of you can’t be together.

Post # 5
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Helper bee

@accorn:  i know to most females, valentine’s day is a huge deal so i can understand why you would be upset.  but, having said that, what makes today really any different from yesterday or tomorrow?  you can always skype with him tomorrow or any other day.  he is probably just trying to keep his mind occupied.  fwiw, i am in a LDR and it’s been 3 months since we’ve seen each other, with another month or so to go till we see each other again.  we skyped last night….i’m sitting on my couch drinking wine, and he is on a plane to go somewhere for a boy’s weekend.  i’d rather he be entertained than sitting around and missing out on things.  

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Well, I’m married and long distance and I’m sitting on weddingbee and watching Amazon prime videos tonight. If I hhad a card game I could be at – I absolutely would. But we’re celebrating V-day tomorrow. Did you guys discuss how and when you would celebrate V-day? If not, i wouldn’t be bad that he didn’t anticipate that you’d want to Skype. Just set up a romantic Skype night for another night! The actual date doesn’t really matter.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@accorn:  Me and DH do not have a skype date planned so I will go out tonight. If he calls and gets upset then OH WELL because there was nothing planned! It will suck to miss a call but I can’t mope and wait on him all night! 

It is a little different for us since his valentines day was yesterday….

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper

@accorn:  He’s probably totally bummed you can’t be together, so decided to hang with his friends to take the edge off. I was in a LDR with hubby before we got married. Skype would not have been an adequate replacement. Its even harder of guys. They have a harder time processing these kinds of feelings, and look for distraction and mask them instead of ruminating on them like women tend to.

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