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    Nat_the_cat    March 26, 2011   Warsaw, In

    My name is Natalie and I got engaged over Christmas 2009, due to my age (19) We are waiting until April 23, 2011.

    Just wondering if anyone is in the same boat. I want to start planning now. Is it too early? When do you send out save the dates and things.

    Plus my soon to be hubby isn't excited about the wedding, he likes the idea of being and getting married, just not the spot light wedding part. He doesn't want to hear hardly anything about my plans. :(  Just wanting some friends and support!

    Thanks

    Nat_the_cat

     
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    His Barista    September 4, 2010   Spokane, WA

    Welcome! = ) My FI is 19 (will be 20 in June) also.

    I think now is a great time to begin looking at what you want the wedding to feel like!

     
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    cardigan    January 7, 2011   Austin, TX

    I don't think it's too early to start planning! We're getting married in January 2011, and we started planning stuff in August right when we got engaged! We booked the venue VERY early, and because of it, we were able to get a great deal on it! I wouldn't make too many decisions yet, because you'll probably change your mind, but it's definitely not too early to start looking at stuff and making some decisions!

     
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    europomme    September 17, 2011  

    I would definitely secure a venue right away because you'd be surprised how fast that type of thing fills up.. from there, you can possibly book a photographer if you're picky about that, and then just do things little by little from there.. it's better to start looking now so you can get the best prices and shop around!

     
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    mimosa    May 29, 2010   NC

    Same boat, got engaged December 2008 getting married May 2010.  We enjoyed the long engagement!  It's nice to just be engaged.  I would say the earlier you can lock in your venues, photographer/videographer\, and DJ.. the better.  Those were the first things we did.  Our save the dates didn't go out until the next November.

    You'll find a lot of the FI's aren't really into wedding planning and honestly.. a lot of us like it that way!  You'll see lol  Welcome to weddingbee, you can really learn a lot from here :0)

     

     
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    Nat_the_cat    March 26, 2011   Warsaw, In

    Thanks!! I appreciate the advice. I am going Staurday to look for a dress. Just look and have ideas and make sure I really want it!I am so excited! I didn't realize the cost of everything!

     
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    gidgett    March 13, 2010   Nashville

    I got engaged at 19 in 2007...the wedding is next month. :)

    Definitely do as much research as possible. If you know what you're looking for, it'll make everything easier.

    And do as many projects in advance as you can. It's best to be prepared! (at least, that's what this chronic procrastinator learned...)

    And congrats on your engagement! :)

     
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    MissDW    November 25, 2012   Colorado

    I will be engaged sometime this semester- early june, but will probably wait 1.5 years or so to actually tie the knot. We are starting to gather ideas and will book our venue pretty quickly upon the engagement!

     

    Why not start planning?! The more time you have to plan the more detail you can put into your special day to make it perfect!

     
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    Ms. Caniche    September 18, 2010   Orange County, CA

    You have sooo much time and I think that it is a wonderful idea to have a long engagement.

    Buy wedding mags!  Styles will change in the next few years so you definately will not want to committ to anything now.

    Start working on a guest list... you will be surprised how long this will take.

    Work on a budget... things are expensive... more than you think.

    As for Save the Dates... most people send them out 7-9 months before the wedding.  Mine went out a little earlier because of the people coming from out of the country.

    Enjoy being engaged... This time goes by so fast. 

    Good Luck!

     
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    maisymay    December 19, 2009   morgan hill, ca

    Congrats and Welcome! My fiance was a few months over 21 when he proposed, so it's okay. I was 22. That was November of 2007. We got married in December. There's nothing wrong about finding and enjoying love when you're young!!!

    Do lots of research now. Wait until 1 year before to buy a dress, otherwise styles may change and you may regret a descision. Also, save the dates should go out 6-8 months ahead of time, not super super early. Congrats and welcome again.

     
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    maisymay    December 19, 2009   morgan hill, ca

    Oh, one thing I forgot to say: with some vendors, you can get a discount if you book early. Our DJ gave us 20% off since we booked him 8 months before hand. Ask!

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    My husband and I were engaged on my 19th birthday (June 06) and got married right before my 22nd birthday (June 09) so I know how you feel!

    Truthfully, it was pretty impossible to plan anything more than a year out because of changing prices, trends and situations.

     
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    krissybee    October 15, 2011   :: chicago IL ::

    got engaged Dec 08, wedding is Oct. '11. I've booked the church and reception venue and i'm working on nailing down the catering and photography over the summer. I'm taking things slow but not hesitating to book the major vendors.

    along the way i'm working out the details and "look" that i want. I may start dress shopping this summer too.

    happy planning!!

     
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    Nat_the_cat    March 26, 2011   Warsaw, In

    I do like having time. I looked at the church yesterday and am looking at the reception area within the month. 

     
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    laural    September 24, 2011   Louisiana

    I got engaged on Christmas Eve 2008 and I am getting married in 2011. I have been a full time student and so has FI the entire time. And that is the entire reason that we have waited almost 3 years. And yes at times it is miserable because you hear all of the bees planning and getting venues and making invitations that you want to be doing the same.

    I have spent a lot of time thinking about what I want my wedding to be and what the feel should be. I have definitely gone thru many revisions. But now I am getting to the part where I am reseraching vendors and I am so glad I have plenty of time. I want to get the best deal possible!

     

     

     
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    Soon2BNJersey    September 10, 2011   Destination Wedding - Ocho Rios, Jamaica

    I am also involved in a long engagement prb the longest... our date is Sept 10, 2011!!  No worries, it gives you more time to save, to plan and look around. 

    Sorry to hear about your soon to be hubby not gettting excited, he will as it gets closer, maybe find a way to incorporate something that he loves in the wedding... hang in there you got a long wait like I do, so don't u start getting stressed lady! smile:)

     

     

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