Post # 1
FI and I are having a long engagement. We won’t be getting married until May 2015, most likely. Heck, there isn’t even a month board for me yet. There are a lot of reasons for this. I will be graduating college Dec. 2014, and my parents really want me to have my degree before I get married. So does my FI for that matter, haha. FI just graduated a few months ago and is in the process of getting his first big boy job. We are paying for the wedding ourselves, so it will take a while to save up. We could probably save up the money for our small wedding by next year, but we wanted to start paying down his student loans in a big way. Blah blah blah responsibility.
I know it is right to wait. We will be much happier for it in the long run. It is just difficult sometimes. I have all of these plans that I can’t even begin to execute now because it is far too soon. We have about 5 weddings to attend this year, and I get to see a lot of updates about these brides booking all of their wedding things. I can’t help but be a little jealous! Hopefully being able to help with a few of these weddings will cool my jets!
I just wish I could plan, know a budget, know where it will be happening, know how many people to invite, be able to scope out prices for things. I wish I could just get the ball rolling already!
Any other bees dealing with/have dealt with a long engagement? How did you cope? Or if you just want to rant about it the process, please do!
Also: A poll, because who doesn’t love polls
Post # 3
@MarshmallowLatte: I’m having a long engagement too, for similar reasons to yourself. It can be hard sometimes to temper your excitement with practicality, but whenever I think about how much weddings cost, it makes me so grateful we have a long time to save? How long have you been engaged so far?
Post # 4
@wubewe: That is one thing I am very greatful for. Plenty of time to save! I just got engaged NYE, so I’m sure it is just the newness and excitement that comes with the first few months of being engaged. I know I will be content with the timing soon enough. I just needed to let it out in some form… and what better place than the Bee!
Post # 5
I’ve got a decently long engagement, almost 2 years. My mother loves it and FI and I are dong fine with it. My mom thinks planning will be a cakewalk because we have so much time and we’ll be able to lock in our first choice vendors, so far she’s been right. I think it helps us cope to know that we’re waiting for a day that has special meaning to us. We’re getting married on our 8th anniversary. I also like the amount of time we have to save because, like you, I just graduated from college and FI is graduating this fall.
Post # 6
@Eckle: Yeah, I think it will be better once I can get a few of the important vendors booked. I think in May FI and I will look at a few venues and narrow down the type of wedding we can have. I sure we will have the pick of the litter 2 years out :). I just wish I could have a budget set, so I can know if I have to give up my dream photographer or not. It is the not knowing that drives me crazy!
It is so awesome that you guys are getting married on your 8th anniversary! Congratulations!
Post # 7
@MarshmallowLatte: I wish I could come up with a budget too. I could lose my job at any time because my lab is out of funding, so it’s really hard to project what our income is going to be. My parents are paying for the venue and the food. Since I’m planning long distance they’ve been doing the leg work. We put down the deposit on our first choice venue (the only one they toured) a few weeks ago and finalized the custom menu yesterday, so at least we know where, when, and what’s for dinner 🙂 My mom is getting weirded out that this is too easy.
Post # 8
I have one and it’s awesome. We have had so much time to budget, plan, start paying things off, save money, slowly accumulate stuff, etc. And honestly, it goes by fast! Our engagement period will be 22 months, and we are already 8 months away.
Post # 9
FH and I got engaged in September of 2010 and won’t be getting married until March 2014. I will be the first to admit that there have been plenty of times that I wanted to rip my hair out because I felt like I couldn’t plan or do anything. But now that the wedding is quickly approaching, I’m actually pretty thankful for a long engagement. I’ve had plenty of time to refine the small details, we’ve had time to save for things and I didn’t spend my entire engagement planning a wedding and being stressed out. I can plan now without all the hassle because I had so much time to put things together, all I have to do now is make some phone calls.
And honestly, it’s gone by a lot faster than I ever would have imagined.
Post # 10
Phew! I had a short engagement (only ~7 months), but I can definitely see why yours will be longer since you are still in college, etc. Seems like you are doing the right thing by waiting 🙂
Post # 11
What do you consider a long engagement? Ours will be about 23 months, and it feels like foreverrrrr, especially because by the time we marry we will have been together 7 years.
Post # 12
My engagement will be almost 3 years. Honestly, I am not in a rush to get married. I am beyond happy where my life is right now and my FI and I are taking things slow. Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely cannot wait to marry him… but I also know that neither one of us are going anywhere and I want to make sure that we are both in a good position before we settle down. He just got a job and I have been working for about a year to save some money. I’d rather be in a good place financially then rush getting married and have problems down the road. No engagement is too long if it’s what works for you guys 🙂
Post # 13
@MarshmallowLatte: I really recommend booking your venues early. That’s basically all I’ve done so far (engaged 9 months out of a 2 year engagement), but we were able to lock in 2012 prices for a 2014 wedding (prices typically go up every year), we signed during a short-term promotion my venue was having, AND we had our pick of June dates at a very popular venue.
Post # 14
Whats defined as a long engagement anyways? 1 year? 2 years? 1.5 years??
Post # 15
@MarshmallowLatte: I’m right there with you, mama. I’m getting married a whole month before you, lol. It does sound like a really long time, but guess what?
You do get to plan.
You get first dibs on your date.
You don’t have to pull your hair out planning a wedding a year away. You can take a few months off if you’d like.
If you’re trying to lose weight…you have two years!
You get extra time to do any DIY projects.
If money is tight, you can work out an installment plan with your vendors. Bam!
I’m having a 2 year, 3 month engagement. Do I wish sometimes we just had enough money to get hitched next year? Hell yeah. But it’s nice to know that I have time to plan the wedding we want on our time. We’ll be getting married on our 6th (!) anniversary. We might as well make it a big party. 😉
Post # 16
@MarshmallowLatte: The time goes by very very quickly. We will be engaged for 25 months and it’s been 5 months already. My plan is to have all necessary deposits put down by the 1 year mark.