Post # 1
I don’t know where to start! I got engaged a month ago and won’t be getting married until Sept 22, 2012. I thought it was a super long engagement, but really…it’s not that much longer than the average length. Anyway, my mom and I have been looking around and speaking with different vendors to get general ideas on prices so we can put our budget together. I’m the first one to get married in my family and circle of friends, so we have no idea what a wedding costs. Why is it, that when vendors find out that my wedding isn’t for 2 years, they don’t want to talk to me? Of everybody I have talked to, only 1 place was willing to spend time with me! Today I went to a florist (I know what sort of flowers I want) to ask about general prices and the lady acted like I was the dirt beneath her feet. She had such an attitude towards me once I told her when the wedding is. Is anybody else with a long engagement having this problem?
Post # 3
While it’s inexcusable for vendors to be rude for this, I do see where they’re coming from.
Keep in mind many venues won’t even book dates more than 12-14 months out. It largely has to do with the fact that plans can easily change. I know that right now, you don’t think it’s possible, but trust me … things change! I thought I had it all planned out before I even got engaged (hubs and I did some pre-planning), and once it got to be a year out (we had a 14-month engagement) so many things changed. It’s just the nature of the industry … people change their minds, once you book a venue, colors change, etc.
As a wedding vendor myself, I wouldn’t book a date more than 14 months out. One, because the likelihood of a bride committing to me that far out is very slim. Two, because I would expect things to change a lot between now and the wedding date.
I would suggest you just start e-mailing vendors and inquiring about their pricing ranges. An example would be, “Hi there! For my upcoming wedding, I’m looking to get pricing information for your services. To see if you’re in my budget, would you be able to tell me what range I can expect to spend with you?” I get these e-mails a lot, and I’ll respond with my base package pricing, and what the average bride spends with me 🙂
I hope that helps! Happy planning 🙂
Post # 4
Oh I totally understand that many vendors won’t book this early, but I’m still a potential customer. I was set on using this particular florist because all I hear is how great they are, but I won’t use them anymore. I work in a bridal dress shop and many times brides come in wihle their wedding is still far off. I still have to treat them as I would a bride who is ready to buy that day because if I’m rude, she probably won’t come back when she is ready to buy.
I am going to start emailing people from now on…thanks for your input!! 🙂
Post # 5
We had a long engagement too and we purposely put off booking anything until we were around a year out. I think that over 2 years is a bit far out to be planning for most things unless you want a super exclusive venue that books up way in advance. Especially since tastes change, you might not want to do the candy buffet anymore or a company could go out of business.
It isn’t right for them to be rude to you though. I just don’t know how to stop it unless you are vague about your plans.
Post # 6
So I am a little delayed in reading this but I saw you commented on one of my recent posts and are a fellow 2012 bride! I have realized that a lot of people actually have a 2yr+ engagement, but it still definitely makes it difficult to plan, etc, so far out.. I have been having the same experience with venues and vendors and it gets really frustrating, especially since my FH and I are on a pretty tight budget – that requires a little more research than someone who has access to a bit more money (from my experience). That being said, just keep looking. Getting engaged is AMAZING (congrats!) and you just want to jump right in; I sure did! We have actually already picked our venue and DJ (they work together a LOT) but will probably not be picking much else out until we hit the one year mark. I know it’s hard, but hang in there! That’s what DIY projects, blogs, and weddings mags are for 😉
Post # 7
i had a year engagement and still people would tell me, “you have plenty of time” and they felt like i didn’t have to make my decisions yet. i’m a planner, and i wanted everything done THEN! so i just told them, i know we have a while still, but i want to get it done.
Post # 8
@ILuvDance17: That’s really strange. I started looking at venues two years out and didn’t have that problem.
You’re a client. You’re willing to pay for what you want. Push back, and if you’re treated poorly, complain to management. You are just as deserving of time as anyone else.