Post # 1
So, FI and I are planning on getting married in Fall of 2015. He doesn’t want to start planning until October, so it’ll be roughly 2 years exactly. Still plenty of time, but I hate not being able to do anything wedding related in the meantime. Any suggestions of things I can do? I can understand his hesitance to sign anything yet, or make something permanent, but I can’t even look at smaller details without him getting anxious because I’m looking at things that won’t be relevant for some time. How can I make the time pass faster? I do go to school, so I’m not sitting around like a bump on a log or anything. I just want to be able to do something productive.
Post # 3
@notestasiskis: That is a bit of a long ways off but having time is a good thing honestly. I wish I had more time to plan.
- You could start by figuring out what wedding ideas you like. Start playing around with color palettes and themes.
- Start researching your wedding venues. Some wedding venues book a year out or more so you have time now to go around and look.
- You can actually even start on working on certain DIY projects like a brooch bouquet or making your own veil or garter. I wouldn’t work on too many DIY projects bc there’s so much time you may change your mind.
- Research which flowers are in season come time for your wedding.
- If you know what centerpieces you want and they call for specific things like blue vases, you can start scouring flea markets for them.
- Figure out your budget and start proactively saving.
Post # 4
Our engagement will be just under two years, and I just did a TON of looking at inspiration type pictures. I pinned things to Pinterest alllll the time, and cut things out of magazines. Of course, things I thought I wanted changed over time, but it was still fun to think that it was actually making decisions about things. I think finding ideas or inspiration might be okay, since none of those things requires any kind of commitment. You can change your mind about colors and flowers and dresses as many times as you like when you’re just finding pictures! :]
Post # 5
@notestasiskis: Our engagement will be two years at the time of our wedding so I totally get how you feel!. Now were 5 months out from the big day and most of the planning is done!
These boards kept me entertained and Pinterest was huge help especially in that first year. I kinda planned multiple weddings(diff themes etc) through pinterest, it also helped me decide what kinda things I really wanted.
Hope that helps =)
Post # 6
Do SO MUCH research. Find a million things you like, see what he likes too. And the best part is, because you have extra time, you don’t have to bombard him with stuff or drown yourself in making decisions in a short period of time! Olive12 has a little better of a plan than what I say (which is some great stuff!) but really, just take the time, since you have it, to look through wedding blogs, Pinterest, here, everywhere, to see what you like. And if there are some things you decide to set your heart on, you have time to make it (if you want to DIY something) or save up for it/ find it cheaper/ wait for a sale (for an extra special splurge item). I’m getting married at the end of next year but can’t start really planning until sometime after SO graduates which will leave me with a little less than a year. I’m collecting all sorts of ideas and getting it down to my favorites and the ones that go together.
Post # 7
@Olive12: Thanks for the suggestions. I know that 2 and 4 are a no, but the others I could probably work with. He doesn’t want to mess with venues until June at the earliest and doesn’t want to buy things as we see them because, “We’d have to store them somewhere and what if you change your mind and we could just save up and buy everything at once.”
Post # 8
Our engagement will total 33 months so I totally understand where you’re coming from!
First and foremost, I know it doesn’t seem like it now, but the time will FLY!!!
Second, do as much research as possible. Start with what you THINK you want. Then look into it, think about it financially, logistically, etc. Then if it’s too expensive or creates logistical problems, you can explore other ideas.
You can also save save save. I don’t know if you’re planning on paying for the wedding on your own, or if you’ll have help from parents/other relatives, but one of the best parts of having a long engagement is that it’s SO much easier to pay for things in small chunks over a long period of time instead of having giant payments to make.
You can also pretty much have your pick of vendors. Now might be too early to actually book someone, but if you’re truly set on a particular caterer, venue, or photographer, call them and ask them how far in advance they book. That way you’ll know how soon you have to put a deposit down in order to get first dibs on their services.
Another good thing about a long engagement is that you can take breaks if you get frustrated or overwhelmed. There were nights when I couldn’t sleep because I just couldn’t stop calculating costs of floating candles and matte vs glossy invitations. When it gets to that point, you can just stop for a day or two or even a week or a month. You can relax, breathe, and then get back to it once your head is clear.
Post # 9
We just got engaged and are looking at an engagement of 2-2.5 years. I’m planning to save up, get inspiration, and get some awesome deals to save on everything. I know after Christmas everything goes on sale, so I plan to buy a ton of stuff next Christmas probably. Also when seasons end, lots of stores have end of seasons sales, so you can save that way too. I think at this point you could probably play around with a guest list and see how many people you might be inviting and then match that to venues who will hold the amount of people you plan to invite.
Post # 10
Pinterest is always a great way to start getting ideas and inspiration and well… blow time. Researching venues, making a budget to save money for the wedding, research honeymooons sports and working out are all ways to feel like you are working toward your wedding day.
Post # 11
I know what you mean – we got engaged March 2012 & the wedding isn’t til next June, so that will be a 27mth engagement by the time we get there.
Like the PPs have said, absolutely research, look, pin etc. Absorb all the inspiration & pretty you can, then when the time comes to really plan, you can start to narrow your vision. If you’re anything like me, I was so overwhelmed & had SO MANY IDEAS. But I think having that breathing space lets you absorb the ideas & figure out what you really want, rather than get swept up on something that later you feel a bit “myeh” about.
Post # 12
I’m also getting married in 2015.
Im using this time to research, play with my budget,
Find inspiration etc. Pintrest is a great place for you to start
There are so many wonderful ideas there.
Post # 13
I’m in for a long engagement too. Marking this to look at as more comments come in!