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I think long engagements are not too hard to bear as long as you taking the wedding planning slowly. It will build the anticipation!!!
I've been engaged since Sept. 2007, won't be married until July 2011. The engagement is waaaaaaay longer than I would have liked 'ideally' but when it comes to practicality, it works. We had things we wanted to do before planning a wedding/spending a butt load of money for one day.
We haven't bothered with planning anything really up until the last few months, now that we're a little more than a year out, it seems a better time to start brainstorming.
I was in the same situation. I had another year of graduate school but we had already been dating for over 4 years and felt ready to take the next step. We ended up getting engaged in Aug. of 2008 and are getting married on July 10, 2010. The first year of waiting is hard, especially when you haven't set a date. Then after the one year mark, time flies by! I actually enjoyed having almost 2 years to plan. It made things less stressful and I could do lots of research. Looking back, it is worth it now that we are both working full time and can actually afford (ha somewhat!) to pay for the things want at our wedding. Good luck!
I would have liked a long engagement, but certain circumstances prevented it. We got engaged in January 2010 and will be married June 2010. I just received my e-ring ring 1 week ago. So basically, I will enjoy being engaged with an e-ring on my finger for 3 months. 3 months! Wow, just writing it feels like a blink of an eye! We are having a very, very small wedding (10 people) on the beach, so it hasn't been too bad to plan. Actually, we got several things done (like, 80% of it) in a weekend. It may be because our wedding is in a beach town and only has so many vendors available. If the circumstances weren't present, I would have liked a 1.5 year engagement - then, we probably would be throwing a larger wedding/reception party because of more saving, and better-longterm- planning.
My fiance and I got engaged at the end of Feb. 2010, and our tentative wedding date is April 2012. I just finished my masters and he's finishing his PhD, and we both agree he should be working for about a year before the wedding. That way we won't be moving as the wedding approaches and we'll have time to save. Both big +'s. The downside is that it's only been a month and I'm already antsy :)
If you tend to over think things then do not do it!! i'm a bit of an obsessive and i think i could have saved myself some of the overthinking that comes along with wedding planning. I have an engagement of 15 months...I'm 10 months in...I think it would have been perfect at just this number!!
I had the 2 year engagement also. It really flew by fast so I didn't even notice it. But you know, it's a lot better because it gave us time to save up and now we are planning the wedding we wanted and the honey moon as well.
We've been engaged for 13 months, and it will be 16 months once we marry. It's driven me insane having an engagement that lasted longer than a year, but we really wanted to marry in the summer, and didn't want to pull off a wedding in 4 months to marry last summer. I'm getting so stir crazy with the legnth, but the past 13 months have flown by. If I had to do it all over again, I wouldn't be engaged for over a year.
Whan all's said & done we'll have been engaged 19months (Feb 09-Sept'10). I actually don't mind it since in that time FI has been laied off and then found another job, but it's given us tons of time to plan and make decisions as opposed to rushing and 2nd guessing ourselves or being in "wedding mode" most of the time.
We've been able to leisurely plan so far. I'm sure the last few weeks will be insane as always but up until now I've enjoyed thinking "meh, we've got time".
FH and I got engaged the December before our May college graduation. We will have been engaged for 19 months when we get married...so a year and 7 months. It wasn't really our choice; we would have preferred to get married the fall after graduation. It's just the way it worked out, and it hasn't been a bad thing. Definitely gave us plenty of time to plan!
Similar story for us, I think; he's finishing his business degree at Northeastern and I'm finishing my MLIS at Simmons, and we're waiting until we graduate to get married. We got engaged last summer, and are getting married December 2011, so...a very long engagement. We thought about getting married 6/8/12 to keep our dating anniversary, but for whatever reason, those extra 6 months seemed too long and we bumped it up to December.
We will have been engaged longer than not when we get married. Basically, we dated for about a year before I moved to Germany with him so he could finish his Master studies. Almost a year after living together he proposed and that was in August 2007. We set out date for 2010 intending to move back to the US at the begining of the year and then have 9 months to plan our September wedding...and then I started a PhD program. In the end, I'm still happy we have had such a long engagement, it really gave me time to get things done while visiting my family and follow up from a distance. I also feel completely ready to be married now and the additional time living together really helped us to get through some bumps in the road and reassured us of our decision to marry. I guess we could have waited to be officially engaged but then we would have been those not engaged people planning a wedding. The time also helped when we found out reception venue in 2008 but learned it was completely booked through 2009 but 2010 could not be booked until Jan 2009. The one huge benefit of a long engagement is we got to have furst choice in everything.
I just hit our 2 year mark and it will be 2 years and 9 months when we get married. We had to move to Germany for 2 years which explains the length. I just didn't want to rush a wedding in 3 months before we moved. It has gone by fast, I only hate that in a way I felt it was no longer exciting and that momentum kind of died out also in the meantime my brother got engaged and married. I know part of growing up is not being so selfish, but I kind can't wait til I am a month out and can finally openly be excited.
By the time we get married we'll have been engaged for a little over two years. Around 2 yrs and 2 months. When we got engaged we were both at uni finishing our degrees, I finished mine last year and have been working full time this year so it's been great cos I've now been able to save money and buy things for the wedding. The fella is still at uni this year - he finishes a month before our wedding. For us, a long engagement just happened. We didn't really get engaged planning a long engagement but once the fella had proposed we realised that we needed more time to get ourselves together (we've saved for a house, I've gotten my degree and have a full time job - that kinda thing!) and its all sort of fallen into place. A shorter engagement would have felt rushed I think! By the time we get married hopefully the house we're building will be finished and we'll both be working full time. Such big kid behaviour! LOL
I am 23, my fiance is 26, & we're having a long engagement... a little over 2 years. We decided to have a long engagement because I wanted to wait until I graduate nursing school, and we will be paying for the wedding ourselves so we need more time to save money. :)
I think the only real downside to a long engagement is the momentum of excitement. People are really excited for you when you get engaged, but it quickly dies down because the next exciting thing (the wedding) is so far away. And for me at least, it was the same way. I got engaged in Apr 2008 and didn't do a stitch of planning until Feb 2009 because I just had other stuff to think about and the wedding wasn't a top priority. Now with 50 days left the excitement has ramped and I can barely focus on the non-wedding things going on.
It is very comforting to see 2012 brides out there (And I'm in November!). I just got engaged about two weeks ago. I just graduated college and FI has been out of school for two years working. He bought a house six months ago. The wait is obviously for money reasons, as my mom and his parents will put a small fraction into the wedding. Peoples reactions are shock, however I feel like a 2.5 year engagement will be fine. I start my "real" job next month and I am looking forward to saving for the happiest day of my life!
We'll have been engaged for 14 months when we get married in September. We wanted time to save up and time to plan AND we wanted an 18th day (it's our anniversary) that was a Saturday and wasn't in the heat of summer.
The day of our wedding we will have been engaged just 3 months shy of 2 years and I cant even begin to imagine trying to plan this thing in any less amount of time. I am trying to help pay for as much of the wedding as I can and I've taken on quite a few DIY projects and I can't believe how quickly the last year and a half have FLOWN by! It truly does sneak up on you! I slacked off for a bit for about 4 months and I'm paying for it now!
I think it just depends on the person though...a lot of people have been like wow I can't believe you guys have been engaged that long why are you waiting blah blah blah!....because weddings arent cheap! :) I'm glad I waited though! It has made the blow to the bank account a little easier to handle!
We have been together for 7 years now and we got engaged a little over 2 years ago. The engagement and wedding planning process have been really smooth because we never felt rushed. Now that we're 3 weeks away from the wedding there's hardly anything to do but be excited about it! I'd definitely recommend a long engagement. It's nice to be able to enjoy it and show off your ring. :-)
My FI and I dated for over 3 years before we were engaged July 2009. Our wedding date is set for May 2011. Why the long engagement? We both were in school getting our masters, ( I graduated in August, and he will be in August this year). We decided to foot the bill on our own for the wedding, so now it is out to the work force to made the money to pay for our wedding. It has been worth it to us to have a long engagement, and not go into debt over our wedding. Plus, we have been able to take our time in making our decisions. We have a better idea of who we are as a couple, and what we want together. This wedding is not all about me ... it is about us!
Our engagement will have been one year and three days long:) It's been a lot of fun, but sooooooo long to me! I think it's a little harder for us because we're waiting to get married before we have sex. In some ways, it's been difficult not to attack him with my hormones, but I'm really glad we've been able to be together when we knew we were both committed enough to get married, but sex not being a factor in our committment or closeness. It does make me feel more confident about us. (This certainly isn't to judge anybody who DIDN'T wait...every relationship is wonderfully different!)
This will definitely be logistically difficult in some ways because of the timing of our wedding...I will just be starting grad school when we get married and he'll be working a tough new job, but I don't want to wait any more! Not JUST to have sex, but to be able to accomplish these life goals with each other through the closeness marriage brings.
We've been together for 6 years and recently got engaged and are looking towards a May 2012 wedding. We're waiting two years because I want to finish grad school first (December 2011) and want to allow myself a good six months of pure wedding plannning bliss and/or diy madness . Seeing as we'll be paying for our own wedding, two years gives us plenty of time to save too. And it's great because we haven't experienced any backlash from anyone when we tell them we're going to wait awhile, which I definitely appreciate :)
well my fiance and I got engaged on february 13th of this year 2010. we will be getting married on October 19, 2012. 2 Years, 8mths, 6days. Its going to be hell waiting that long. We can to this decision due to the fact that I am a perfectionist. It gives me more time to figure out exactly what I want without having to stress about it, plus saving more money to give us the wedding of our dreams doesn't hurt either! I am also hiring a wedding planner to make sure everything is perfect and gets done accordingly!
Mr.TKE and I hit our 2 year anniversary of being engaged in Feb and we have no plans of a wedding coming up. It may be another 2 years. It really doesn't matter all that much to me. I love him, he loves me, that's what matters.
Our engagement will be over 19 months long...8 months down and 11 months to go. We're in our late 20s so school isn't an issue. However, we are paying for the entire wedding (including our parents' trips for our destination wedding) ourselves so we wanted to make sure we had enough time to save. We want to pay for everything in cash (debit or CC but so we have money to immediately pay off) and not have the wedding put us into debt.
Ideally we'd prefer to be married by now but we both know that this decision makes the most sense. Additionally, the long time frame also gives our guests more time to plan/save.
Our engagment will be a little under 2 years. We chose to do to wait so long because I am still in graduate school and we are saving up to pay for it all ourselves. The negative is that I don't wait that long!! But it does take the pressure off and allow me to take a break from wedding stuff when school gets really busy. Do what works for you! If you are in school I recommend the long engagement because it gives you more flexibility in planning.
Being engaged for almost 2 years was the best decision we made. It's been virtually stress-free. We have time to do one thing at a time, so nothing is rushed and it's all still fun. It's been great to save money too.
The only hard thing is being patient. I'm very, very, very excited.
So. FI and I have been engaged for a year already (05/06/09) and will probably be for another 5 years. YIKES. That's a 6 year engagement.
I just finished a diploma in Law Clerk and have been accepted to University for a BA - FI is also studying for his CGA part-time right now. So there's no wedding planning going on right now, just a LOT of dreaming...
we cannot afford to host a wedding while relying on student loans and part-time jobs, and neither set of parents can pay for a wedding either. So thats 1 year already gone, and then 4 for the BA, and another to plan & save = 6 years.
Although, I think of it this way - we're going to be together no matter what, for the rest of our lives, so whats 6 years? A blip. A really long, depressing blip that makes me wince with how long it is. Ouch. :)
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