Post # 1
Some of you might have ready my story back in Oct. about me not inviting my cousin….I will do a quick recap though for people that don’t follow me(I’m guessing no one really “follows” me LOL).
So I have this cousin that is nothing but drama. When I say drama I mean she steals from family, has a drinking/drug problem, gets in fights when she is drunk, um lies all the time, and the list goes on and on. She called the cops on me 6 years ago. I really do not get along with her but when I see her I can be civil with her. To be honest I think she is one of the few people I can truly say that I HATE (strong word I know). I decided that I didn’t want to invite her to the wedding just because she is family. I didn’t want the drama or added cost and I had major worries about her causing a scene. I told her mom that I wasn’t inviting her and she then told my other two cousins and the three of them have decided not to come (fine with this their choice).
Well today I get another email from my Aunt begging me to change my mind and think again. To be honest I really just want to avoid drama all together and am starting to wonder if I should just say fine.
However, my question to you ladies is at this point in time I am sure that said cousin has been told that she is not invited by either her mom or her siblings.
Would you go to a wedding if you knew that you had originally not been on the guest list and your family begged for you to be allowed to go?
Post # 3
No, and I don’t get this. Not being invited to someone’s wedding isn’t a tragedy and if the two of you have a history of not getting along, or she has a history of causing drama, I can’t imagine anyone is really that shocked that she’s not welcome.
If you really think she can come and behave herself, you can relent if you’re comfortable with that. If not, stick to your guns. If your other relatives choose not to attend because she’s not invited, it is, as you said, their choice.
Post # 4
This isn’t about her and her feelings. It’s about you getting married and celebrating that day. It’s your choice who you want to celebrate that day with.
I wouldn’t invite her. You don’t get along with her. Also, just because she’s family does not mean she should be invited. Your other family members should respect that choice.
Best of luck.
Post # 5
No way in hell would I invite her. Sorry…I’m sick of people’s drama (in my own life that is lol)…I say don’t do it.
Post # 6
“Would you go to a wedding if you knew that you had originally not been on the guest list and your family begged for you to be allowed to go?”
Nope…I sure wouldn’t. I wouldn’t have my family calling around trying to “score” me an invite either. Why does your cousin even WANT to go? So that she can say she was there? I mean I am assuming that you guys haven’t been getting along for a while so why would she even think she would be invited in the first place?
Post # 7
I wouldn’t invite her either!! I don’t think you should have to invite ppl just because you are related to them. If I wasn’t invited to a relative’s wedding, and then my mom begged them to let me come, and I got an invitation, I don’t think I would go. Two of my cousins got married, and I wasn’t at either of their weddings and I didn’t take offense to it. You have obvious reasons why you don’t want her there and it’s YOUR day!
Post # 8
Don’t do it. It’s not worth it. My only worry (in that case) is do you think this cousin is vindictive and henious enough to try wedding crashing? (sorrym, I may be being a bit paranoid)
Post # 9
Thanks ladies for your input. I personally don’t get why she would even want to come. I wouldn’t go to her wedding if I was on the guest list and I would NEVER want my to get me the invite.
The question really was would you go to a wedding that you knew you had originally not been invited to? I sure as hell wouldn’t!