Long Island Bees– what was your wedding budget?

posted 2 years ago in Venue
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  • Post # 2
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    My fiance and I are in the same boat right now. and i see we are date twins too 🙂 We are trying to keep our budget around $18k as of right now and looking into several different money saving venues such as the Sons of Italy Hall in Deer Park and places like that. Its a gorgous hall with vaulted ceilings and a tremendous dance floor and its not more than $55pp with open bar. there is no way you will find a deal like that with any of the other “wedding factory” venues out there. What date are you guys looking at?? i hope we arent competeing for the same day 😉

    let me know the other places you are looking at to! Best of luck!!

    Post # 4
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    There is a wedding package at east wind for Monday thru Thursday night in the cottage all inclusive with dj and photographer 100 people $9995 + tax 8.625% + administrative fee 20% = $12,856 approx. if you want a fri night or sat day add $1000 onto the price or sat night for $2000 extra. Includes cocktail hour, 4 hour reception cake etc. limo or overnight stay. We are getting married at east wind may 30 2015 but we are getting married in the veranda not the cottage (it was too small for my guest list) and our cost for everything (dress, shoes, flowers, dj upgrades, lashes, makeup, hair, signage, etc.)are up to approximatly $34,000 but I want what I want and I’m not settling for anything less since it is my wedding and FI and I are paying for every red cent of it!  Try the med manor in patchouge they have amazing prices, not too bad a place for the cost!!

    Post # 5
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    Oops didn’t read your last post lol ok so I guess you know about east wind then lol btw they come with the centerpieces too but if you didn’t want to do the centerpiece a with the florest she will give you credit towards anything (bouquet, ceremony decor, invitations, etc.)  

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    mine’s around 20k. 

    Post # 8
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    jenny1217:  Speaking of Med Manor we just looked at it this past weekend and its beautiful! With an all inclusive package for florist, centerpieces, DJ, photographer, limo, amazing cocktail hour, 4 hour reception and 100 guests its only $12,300!!!

    colld88:  we are looking at May 22 so I think we are ok with our dates not overlapping Plus we aren’t set with any location yet lol I am sooo indecisive.

    Post # 9
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    Congrats on your engagement! My biggest advice is negotiate as much as you can, with pretty much all of the vendors. Ask about paying cash (if this is an option) and if that will save you on tax. I’m going to have 300 ish at my wedding, so it was much easier for me to negotiate with my venue, based on our guarantee. With less people, you’re going to have less wiggle room, but you can always choose time of day and day of the week to get a better price. Friday nights and Sunday day/night are cheaper than Saturday night. I think Saturday afternoon is also less but be careful with afternoon weddings, as the venue will put a hard stop to the festivities when they have to setup for an evening wedding.

     

    Your venue will be your biggest cost, but you mentioned you want a band, which is a significant chunk of change as well. Any thoughts about scaling down to a DJ and adding a live drummer or sax player or something like that? It gives you a fuller sound without the cost of a band.

    I really had no idea about costs when we first started, but these boards definitely helped (especially liweddings.com). Other costs to think about:

    photography, music, his tuxes (you didn’t mention in your post), transportation, save the dates, invites, thank you cards, gifts for the bridal party, rehearsal dinner (if you’re paying for it), flowers (you mentioned you’re doing centerpieces but what about bouquets, boutinnieres, ceremony decoration?), hair & makeup, favors (if you’re doing this), stamps, and other incidentals (we’re having a photobooth).

    And….to drop a bombshell (sorry!)…TIPS! I think we’re going to be handing out close to $2000 in cash tips (including the venue). I had no idea on the tips until I started reading the boards. You’re supposed to tip pretty much everyone (individual band members, photographer, hair and makeup, valet, photobooth attendants, etc etc). 

    All of these things add up to a significant chunk of change, so negotiate!! And good luck!

    Post # 10
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    We started our planning with the hope of keeping everything (minus honeymoon and rings) to $20-25K but now that we’ve gone through venue and vendor options I think we’ll be at about $30K. It’s mind boggling to see how much can add up and you don’t want to get caught up in spending extra on what you might not need but it’s hard not to…especially when you imagine your special day. 

    We’ve booked our wedding ceremony and reception at Crest Hollow after looking at 10 venues. I did some heavy negotiating to get the pp down to a manageable number and even got them to waive their outdoor cocktail hour fee and discount the lounge seating decor by 50%. I even got an extra speciality station thrown in for cocktail hour. All in all we are pleased with what we’ll be spending there because we absolutely love the venue.

    I did underestimate the cost of a photographer/videographer but at the end of the day, we chose one based on quality as my FI and I agreed that it’s the most important vendor (those are the memories you’ll have!). We were able to negotiate a bit and get some extras thrown in so I always suggest you negotiate. 

    The second most important vendor to us is the DJ and we are thrilled with who we have chosen – Tommy’s Tunes. Yes they are a bit more than some other DJ companies but we believe they are worth it.

    The florist and limo vendors were fair and we will see a savings there then I had originally thought.

    I plan on DIY on things like the save the dates and invites. 

    So if you can, set a budget and do your best to stick with it. However, also prioritize what you’re willing to spend more on. We’re coming in higher than my initial budget but I also did not know what the costs were for things and our guest list ended up growing. Things happen and if you can spend a bit more don’t be afraid to. The longer your engagement the more time to save up and make payments. Be flexible where you can (Fri or Sun wedding vs Sat night, etc) as well. Good luck!

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2015 - sandcastle

    My fiance and I are spending 30k-35k on the reception-thats for 175-200 people, 6k for the photographer and videographer, 4k for the Dj- this includes a percussionnist and photo booth- 2k for flowers- this is for the bouquets, boutineer,  corsage and church flowers- We are renting our centerpieces from our venu. I hope this somewhat helps you. Happy planning 🙂

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