Post # 1
FI and I are paying for our wedding almost entirely on our own. I am torn though. Should I settle for less (buffet, cheap photographer, etc) and plan for a wedding in June 2014. Or should I make my dream wedding a reality and wait until June 2015. By that point, we would have been engaged for 2 years and 8 months! Crazy, I know. However, we will have saved almost double our original and very small budget! This will reduce the stress of making all our deposits. This will also give us the option of paying for everything AHEAD of time. I never knew planning a wedding could be so expensive (especially in Boston). Any advice? Thanks bees!
Post # 3
I personally would never be engaged that long. Then again, 2 years and 8 months ago I hadn’t even MET my husband yet, and we’re celebrating our second anniversary in July.
Post # 4
@MrsDrift: i am going to be with FI for 6 years by the time we get married and engaged for 2 years and 4 months! I would go for the longer engagement…you’ll be able to have the day of your dreams.
Im loving getting dibs on my date and having the time to pay everything off. Who cares what people think?
Post # 5
I would wait and save if it makes more finacial sense to you and cause you less stress! We will be having a long engagement too, about 2 years 3 months, together 11 years by the time we get married. There’s nothing wrong with a ‘longer’ engagement 🙂
Post # 7
If waiting means you having your dream wedding, then wait. FH and I got engaged in September 2010 and we aren’t getting married until March 2014, so that’s a little over three years! But, we’ve had more time to save, and now my parents have offered to pay for the wedding, so everything is working out a lot better. Plus, you’ll have more time to plan things and make everything the way you want it.
Post # 8
I’d wait and save. We just got engaged last month and just set our date for April in 2015. If we would’ve gotten married next year, we would have had to settle too. But by waiting, we’ll get exactly what we want. And you only get married once (hopefully), so why settle on your big day for less than what you want?
Post # 9
It depends on what is most important to you. I never intended to wait this long to get married. We dated for 6 months prior to getting engaged and we will have been engaged 2 years when we finally say I DO. This was due mostly to wedding plan after wedding plan getting scrapped due to family members having negative comments and such about the plans and I kept buckling under the pressure. I have started planning 6 different weddings trying to meet everyone’s needs. I really never thought I would have been engaged longer than we had dated before the engagement. Do what is right for you & don’t worry about anyone else. If it is important to get married sooner, then do that. If it is important for you to have all the stuff involved, then wait. I personally wish we would have eloped right after our engagement, but I am just as happy with my life now as I would be if we were already married.
Post # 10
@WannaBeeMrsB: +1 I agree
OP: i Would wait if its your Dream Wedding you want!
Post # 11
I don’t really know what to tell you, but being a 2 year bride, I HATE it!! It was nice being able to have dibs on the date and venues we wanted as nobody else had booked that far out, but I wish we could just be married already. I hate seeing all these couples get engaged after us and married before us. It sucks! Although, what I really want is to live together and have a home together and we still have to wait a bit for that. If you’re already getting the fun of living together, I would say wait and have the day of your dreams!
Post # 12
I don’t see anything bad about long engagements! Wait if you want your dream wedding 🙂 You already have your love, why rush it?
Post # 13
We decided to have a wedding half the size of the one we originally planned so we could get married a year earlier!
We’re really excited to buy a house/start a family, so we really wanted to keep the wedding/honeymoon below 10k!
I also have a friend from work who just had her 30k wedding, and is SO pissed she spent that much in her “wedding fever”!
Post # 14
I would wait. We’re probably going a bit longer than originally planned in order to save. Originally were thinking a year and now it’s at almost 2. It’s smart IMO as weddings are stressful enough! lol
Post # 15
I’d wait, if I were you. FI and I were engaged in December 2012, are getting married December 2013, and I feel rushed even with a year to plan. The more time you have, the more relaxed you’ll be with planning and with finances. AND you’ll get everything you want. If you do decide to go with the earlier date, though, I’d recommend not going with cheap photography – It’s the only thing that lasts beyond your wedding day and it seems that you really do get what you pay for in that respect. You don’t want to go with a cheapo deal that won’t preserve the memories of one of the biggest, best days of your life.
Post # 16
I would prefer to have it sooner, but that’s just me. My engagement will have lasted 1 year and 7 months by the time the wedding rolls around, and I am seriously so impatient!