Long rant. ..nosy SIL… I've about had it..

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

@katiecat08:  If you don’t want people to comment on stuff, don’t post it on facebook for them to see.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@katiecat08:  Why don’t you put her on limited profile or something then

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

@katiecat08:  put her on limited profile view so she can’t see all the things you post. I also believe that if you don’t want people to comment then you shouldn’t post it. Next time send a text to your SO saying that you two are blessed instead of putting it on facebook. Putting *anything* on facebook opens it up for people to comment on it. If she comments on everything and asks questions and you know this then take some steps to avoid it.

ETA: Also, what does her height have to do with anything? or any of the personal things you shared about her like her health issues or percieved health issues or the kids situation? Your problem seems to be facebook and her comments and questions. What does the other stuff have to do with anything? im confused by that.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Hide some or all of your posts from her.  It sounds like she may have some intellectual problems (and maybe even a developmental disability) so she doesn’t know how to behave within normal societal parameters.  It doesn’t help that she was homeschooled in an unsocialized way (there are plenty of homeschool programs where the kids where the fmailies interact and the kids get properly socialized.)

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Agree with pps. If you’re posting on FB, you’re asking for public comment. Cryptic posts like “feeling blessed” are pretty much begging for public attention and follow up. Otherwise it should go in your own personal journal. She’s trying to be engaged in your life and you’re giving her opportunities for that. 

And and like others said, you can change your privacy settings to exclude her – but expect her to find out and be ready to deal with the fallout from that. 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

@Strawberryfarmer:  Completely agree about cryptic messages.

If you don’t want people commenting or asking questions I would leave it off facebook. I honestly can’t stand those kinds of messages. If you are so blessed put down the computer and tell your man how blessed you are, why put that out there. Your SIL sounds more lonely than anything, and is probably commenting just to get to know you better. Nothing she has written sounds offensive at all. If you really can’t stand it though either adjust your privacy setting or quit posting.

 

 

Post # 11
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Worker bee

@katiecat08:  so you put post about your relationship on fb, she (and everyone else of your friends) reads it, she comments on it and you ask why you don’t get any privacy???

she is nosy because she reads all your posts (that probably is showing on her new feeds), then I guess a lot of people are nosy since I guess most of us are reading our new feeds. 

Well the only solution I have to someone that actually wants privacy is to just not post anything private there that you don’t want people to read or comment on.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

Oh and what does her height have to do with it?

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

Hide your posts from her. 

@ieatunicorns:  +1 to all of this!! I roll my eyes so hard when I read posts like that! 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

You can easily hide some or all posts from her. This way you don’t have to unfriend her which might offend, but she doesn’t see things.

To hide all your posts go to the Privacy Settings (lock symbol in the upper right corner), select “Who can see my stuff” and then “Who can see my future posts”, then “Custom” which will let you block her.

To hide some, each time you post something click the drop down menu next to the post button, where you again can click the “Custom” option and choose not to share that particular post with her.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Definitely go for the limited profile.  I feel bad for her.

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