Post # 1
I’m just thinking about my head table…
I have a wedding party of 8 (including us) and was just thinking, we could do the typical long head table, where we all sit in a row, or maybe we could do a round table like everyone else (but with different linens to differentiate it).
I’ve only ever seen the long version, but having sat at two, I find it hard to talk to anyone but the people on either side of me.
Any thoughts? Anyone have the round table? Do guests like to sit and watch the bridal couple eat? Lol. I mean, it looks pretty, to have a long table all dressed up, but it’s not all that practical, no? I there another shape? I saw one that did a horseshoe type.
Post # 3
@HotnHollerin: We had a sweetheart table and then 2 round tables for our immediate family because that is how we had to do it for the shape of the room. However, if I could have done it differently I definitely would have gone for one long table so that we could all sit together.
Post # 4
@mylittleviolett: That makes sense. My concern is that at the long table, it’s hard to chat with the wedding party. Do guests want to see the wedding party displayed up there!? lol
Post # 5
Our venue usually does a long table, but I decided that it would be awkward with our particular setup and I’d rather be able to have a conversation with the other people at our table. Plus, that way when we get up the others can continue to talk to each other instead of being far apart. So we are going round. I do agree that the long table looks pretty.
Post # 6
We sat at a round table. It was so much nicer than sitting at a long head table with the entire room staring at you. We were able to talk to everyone at the table without the weird leaning over. I absolutely hated the idea of a sweetheart table because it felt like we were being put on display for the entire meal. Every time I’ve seen this done, it just felt so awkward.
Post # 7
@HotnHollerin: Haha yeah I get that too. But I assume because a lot of people do it and love it, it works? I didn’t do it so I can’t say but maybe it does …
Post # 8
We’re doing a round table. My Mum likes the long table but we want to be able to chat to the rest of the wedding party during the meal
Post # 9
I don’t like the idea of a head table…. I once did a study on it’s origin and it started in the biblical days, actually the people hosting the event weren’t the ones who were supposed to sit at the head table, you were supposed to let invited guest sit the table. Now for me personally, I think it seperates the bride and groom from their guests, that’s just my thought. We won’t do a head a table, but will have a little small round table the two of us can retreat to when our feet need a break.
Post # 10
I’ve seen (and will likley do), a combination of the two. A rectangle table with the bride and groom in the middle (to satisfy guests’ need to watch you eat ;)), but having the bridal party down the sides so they’re facing each other (harvest style)
Post # 11
Thanks for all the input!! I still have to think it through more.
Here’s the venue space:
Some people put the head table on the stage:
… but that’s more $$$ for decorations.
Others use the exposed brick and doors/windows along the wall, because it’s so pretty (imagine without backdrop… only picture I could find!):
I like the ‘focus’ of the head table.
Post # 12
I like the traditional head table, but not so I can watch the bride and groom eat.
It is nice to be able to see the wedding party and the people who are making speeches.It is also less confusing and less movement involved for those making speeches, as many of them are at the head table.
Post # 13
We sat at a regular round table in the middle of everyone, although we only had 90ish guests so it’s not like anyone was super far away. If you have a huge guest list it might be better to have the long table so everyone can see when giving speeches and such. I personally am not a fan of everyone staring at me, lol.
Post # 14
We are doing a round “head” table – with nothing to differentiate it. I was uncomfortable the last time I sat at a head table, and didn’t want to repeat that feeling on my wedding day. Also, talking was a challenge. We are sitting at one table with our parents, siblings, and their SOs. I’m going to have the bridal party sit with their friends/husbands/whatever.