Post # 1
I feel a bit silly becoming a bee as I’m not engaged and we aren’t even thinking about it yet but I have found myself slightly wedding obsessed lately!
Come this October, I will have been dating my long term boyfriend for 6 years (and I’m only 22!) This seems crazy to me and it’s funny how we keep going to weddings of those who are older than us but have not been together as long/ been through as much together. We always get jokes about when we’re going to tie the knot!
We are still in love and I feel that I love him more than ever at the moment. It sounds cheesy but I literally can’t imagine life without him. We have only ever dated each other because we met so young and there were definitely ups and downs (I had a minor glitch at University when I thought I had a crush on someone else), but we’ve survived them and come out stronger. The temptations (purely on my part) and time apart at University only confirmed that no one can match up to him and we are both in the same mind set that we’ve decided we are going to be married one day. Don’t fix what ain’t broke!
At 21 and 22, we still feel far too young to get married. In debt after Uni, and only on starter salaries, we’re still each living at our parents homes and saving up to hopefully buy a house together in a couple of years. Our families get on really well, we’ve all been on holiday together and live round the corner from them, so things are pretty perfect and its kind of a done deal.
We’ve spoken about not being ready for marriage yet and we’d much rather do it when we can comfortably afford it, so I think it’ll be in about 5 years! A part of me worries that 10 years plus is a long time to be dating and not engaged!
I was just wondering if any of you lovely ladies have had a similar experience – met young/ first boyfriend/ dating for aaaages?
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@SLfairytale: Yo! Fell in love at 17 and 19, getting married at 31 and 33! We are both very adventurous people and wanted to spend our 20s moving around, traveling, working all over, etc. When we hit 30ish, we settled into careers, bought a house, and are getting married. It’s not for everyone but it was great for us. We always felt like we were lifelong committed partners but just weren’t in the stage of life to “settle down” yet.
Lucky to find The One so early in life, right?!?
Post # 4
@SLfairytale: FI and I started dating the spring of our senior year of high school (I was 18, he was 17, almost 18). We just got engaged 2 weeks ago, the day after his 25th birthday! (I’m 25 as well). We’ve been together 7 years and 3 months, so totally long time coming! I was ready to get engaged after we graduated college 3 years ago, but FI wasn’t ready yet (he was smart about it lol). So here we are!
We plan to get married April 11 2015, 9 days after our 9th anniversary!
Post # 5
@SLfairytale: Hi!! I’ve been with my FI for 5 years, and we plan to marry on our 7th anniversary (June 2015). We go through a lot of what you two do regarding going to weddings and being together longer than the couple getting married haha! We just got engaged last month, and our wedding is only made possible by the (financial) contribution of my parents. When we get married we will be 21 and 25. The age difference does play a part because he is much older but I/we don’t feel that I am too young to get married… It’s all in how you feel, and the finances definitely play a part!
Post # 6
thanks for your all your replies, nice to hear about other couples in similar situations.
Post # 7
@SLfairytale: My FI and I started dating at 17 and 15. He is now 27 and I just turned 25. We are getting married 12 days before our 10 year anniversary! He proposed on our 9 year anniversary. We decided to wait as well until we had been out of college for 3+ years and had paid down a significant amount of our debt. So kudos for responsibility and maturity!
I became a bee about 2 months before he proposed. So don’t feel weird about joining before engagement.
Welcome to the hive!
Post # 8
@lolot: Your story makes me feel very hopeful! Sounds like you’ve had a ton of fun together along the way!
@ashleekathryn: Congrats! Yes, it definitely depends on how you both feel. I think I might feel totally different if my salary was 3 times as much!
Post # 9
@SLfairytale: Weclome to the bee. DH and I met at 16, started “officially” dating at 17, and got engaged 1 week before our 9 year anniversary. We waited until it was the right time in our lives for us – we were living together, both done will all our school (I went to grad school) and in “real” jobs.
I commend you – I think it’s great that you and your SO are self-aware enough to know that it isn’t the right time for you to get married yet. (Plus, waiting gives you plenty of time to save money and get ideas!)
Post # 10
@LadyBear: Thanks for your kind words, and everyone else’s comments, I feel even better about our relationship and future prospects!
Post # 11
SO and I have been together since we were 16. He is my second serious boyfriend, and I’m his first serious girlfriend (but we aren’t each other’s first sexual partner).
We have been together for 9 years and 18 days. We aren’t engaged (but will be getting engaged in the next 6 months or so, I imagine. I just need to decide on a ring design).
I don’t see us getting married until our late 20s or early 30s. Neither of us feel any urgency in tying the knot. I don’t know why, per se, but we aren’t having children, so that may be one reason we don’t feel like we need to get married any time soon. Plus, we want to do several things before we get married (like buy a house, spend the next year or so focusing on SO’s business he’s starting up) and we need to do that before we worry about getting married.
It also feels like we already are married, in a sense. We’ve lived together for 8 years, and we’ve had a shared bank account for 6 years or so. Getting married will be a fun, exciting next step, but we’ll get there when we get there. No rush.
Post # 12
Started dating at 20. Engaged on our 6th anniversary, and plan to marry just 5 days after our 8th!