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I think if your ceremony is at 7pm and the guys are wearing tuxes, I would go long. And if it's black tie - definitely long.
Based on the formality of your wedding, I would go with the long ones. I think short would seem too casual. Even though you want them to be able to wear it again, in all honesty, there's a good chance they won't. Love the color you chose!
I think long is by far more formal looking. We're doing long as well. The only drawback I've had is the added expense. But to help my girls out I'm picking a dress that comes in both long and short, so they can have the bottom cut off to make it into a cute cocktail dress post-wedding.
@ Appleblossom-ha, you're totally right re: rewearing dresses. I think it's every bride's hope that the BMs will rewear them. Unfortunately, that probly doesn't happen too too often. And thanks for the color love--I'm excited about it too!
@soonerpsych: I thought of that as well, altering it to be short after the wedding. I guess it's just difficult to know how it would look short if it only comes in a long version. Like the long dress I posted a pic of--I think it might look funny short, even though it looked good on them long. But it's great if it works for you--it's like two dresses for the price of one! And funnily enough, the long dress is like half the price of the short dress, which is a nice bonus if we end up doing long.
long is more formal which might be more fitting but you are right that typically your girls can wear their dresses again if their short.
I think the short dresses you've picked are still fairly fancy-looking, so you could still get away with it as long as their shoes and accessories are formal. However, as everyone else points out, long dresses are much more formal. As a bridesmaid, I would rather have the short dress!
I've been on both sides of this so here's my (probably unhelpful) feedback.
From a bride persepctive: if the groomsmen are in tuxes the BM dresses should probably be long.
From a BM perspective: I hate buying long BM dresses.
I went to an uber formal wedding last year and the BMs dresses were knee length. I think they went fine with the formality of the wedding. So if you like the knee length I say go with that!
We went with long b/c I don't like the pics of the BMs all lined up with their legs all bare. It can look like a multi-headed, many-legged monster! Haha. I know I am wicked self-conscious of my legs (they're kinda stubby) so when I've been a BM I've preferred the long dresses.
I think black tie definitely means long dresses. It makes more sense to match the dress to the formality of the event than to the off chance they may wear it again. Rewearing really never happens.
@brianalaura and kittyachi--if I were a BM I would way rather have a short BM dress as well. My BMs are wonderful and all say that whatever dress/length I end up choosing is fine with them. If only they had a stronger opinion one way or the other, lol...
@mandalynn17--I know I've seen it done where there are short dresses with tuxes, but I can't find any pics of those weddings or the BM dresses. Does anyone have any they would be able to share?
We are doing short since it's a June wedding and keeping the dress code Formal or Cocktail attire. Even if you say Black Tie, guests are going to wear short dresses anyway so short Bmaid dresses are fine.
Here they are!
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@moderndaisy--priscilla of boston, right? :) That's where my short dress photo is from. My girls actually tried on your dress, but they weren't a fan of the bow, even though I thought it looked so cute. What are your groomsmen wearing?
I think that tea-length can be formal enough, and are far more likely to be worn again! Just my two cents :)
when i see something saying black tie or black tie optional, i generally read that as meaning i need to wear a long or at least tea length dress--if i were a guest at a wedding that said that and then saw that the bridesmaids were wearing short dresses, i'd honestly be a little peeved since i have more short dress options in my closet and would rather wear them! so, in my honest opinion, if you're asking your guests (and groomsmen) to be formal, your bridesmaids should be even more formal. maybe i'm wrong about what black tie optional means, but that's just how i would read it as a guest.
if you want a formal look but don't want it to look "stuffy," what about pairing the dresses with fun accessories? like a sash with flowers or hairpieces? or funky jewelry?
I say long. Realistically, unless they pick out whatever dress they want, even if it's short, the VAST majority of bm dresses never get worn again. That shouldn't be a huge deciding factor, IMO. :)
Because of the time I would say long. I had the same dilemma since I really wanted the girls to be able to use them again, so I went with long. One said she might have it cut and altered to be able to wear it again.
The long dresses are beautiful, but I prefer short. I think it makes a nice destinction between you and your BM. I also think that short dresses can be very formal looking. Our wedding is in September also, in MT, so the weather may be cold!, but my BM are wearing short dresses reguardless. Possible mean of me! but I like the short better!
Long is more formal. Mine is going to be an evening wedding and my BM's dresses are long.
Having been a BM, I vote short, that way your at least a little more likely to wear the dress again, vs. it being long which, in most cases, will never be worn again :)
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Hello bees! I could use some opinions here...I'm struggling with whether to go for long or short bridesmaid dresses. I originally wanted short, then decided on long, and now am back to possibly prefering short! I need some outside help! :)
Some info on the wedding: It's going to be Sept. 24th, a 7pm ceremony. It's going to be fairly formal (groomsmen will most likely all be in tuxedos). We haven't decided on whether or not to make it black tie--we'll most likely go with black tie invited/welcome or some similar wording.
My thoughts were originally that short dresses in a fancy fabric, like satin, would be formal enough to walk next to tuxedos. I also think that if they're short, the girls could wear them again. But my FI thought that the short dresses looked too casual :/ I also had trouble finding one that I loved that came in the right color. So then we looked for long dresses and found one that looked good on all of them. But they'll most likely never wear it again, and I don't want them to look too...stuffy? If that makes sense? I want to wedding party to look formal but also fun and fresh, since we're all fairly young (mid 20s).
I'll try to upload the pics of the two dresses that caught our eyes--one long and one short, both which come in the right color--a pewter-y gray.
Any opinions or advice is welcome! I would love to hear how you all made your decisions :)
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