Post # 1
Right now I am trying to make a very important decision and I need your help!
I got engaged in March. I cannot wait to marry the love of my life. He is currently not living in the same city as me and I plan to move there after we are married. I really want to marry him in January! That would give us less than a year engagement and I think that is perfect. But I can’t get over the fact that the weather will be cold (I live in the south and it might not snow but still get icy), my out of town northern relatives may deal will flight delays, and we will have to live in his apartment for a few months before his lease is up.
The positives are that we are married that much sooner and I just feel that the excitement and stress will not be super drawn out.
Now the current plan is to marry on May 2015. It just feels like too much time. I am doing this 100% because of the weather and the flowers. I thought a wedding venue with an outdoor ceremony and indoor reception area would be perfect for the summer. Also, his lease will be up and we would have bought our home to move in automatically. I really like that feeling.
I AM JUST SO TORN! What would you do?
This topic was modified 2 years, 10 months ago by ruphiolis.
Post # 2
I’m planing to marry may 2016! So 2 year engagement for me! A year and 2 months is not a super long time! I would do with more time to plan.
Post # 3
LittleE3: True! Extra time to plan is a huge advantage as well. A lot of people I know are marrying in 3-8 months now. I wish I could organize in that time!!!
Post # 4
ruphiolis: I’m a medical student. So my choices are like this December or may 2016. And I’m not officially engaged yet so 8 months from not ain’t gonna cut it for me! If you are a super organized low stress person that go for January but I couldn’t do it. I’m a neurotic crazy lady and I want my two years
Post # 5
ruphiolis: Our engagement will be about 20 months, and a large part of that was because we both wanted to get married in the warmer months. We felt that this summer was too soon (we got engaged in October of 2013), and so we just had to wait another year. I don’t LIKE waiting this long, but I think it has been good. It’s allowed us to get (so far) everything we want, and to really take time to think about what we want our wedding to be. If we had gotten engaged and started planning in a hurry, our wedding would be very different than what it is actually going to be like, because we initially thought we wanted something entirely different. For that, I’m glad we took our time and really weighed the pros and cons of a few different options, because the wedding we’re going to have is so much more “us” than anything else we considered.
Also, I think I read somewhere that the average engagement is 14 months long – so you’ll be right on track with that! AND you’re still getting married before me (we’re in June of 2015).
Post # 6
We had a 2 year engagment but lived together. If you two are planning to live apart until the wedding, i say get married sooner. I honestly wouldnt worry about the weather unless you are wanting an outdoor wedding, but if so maybe compromise for indoor!
Plus side on a long engagement if you have more time to discover your look, shop, find deals and save!
Post # 7
We’re getting married in July 25th 2015! So our engagement will be almost 2 years long (1 year 11 months). Pretty long-ish engagement I guess.
Post # 8
six month engagement. never been one for wasting time. Ring on please!
Post # 9
ruphiolis: we were engaged from June 2012 to October 2013, for a total of a year and four months. looking back, i would have made it one year. i started to get ants in my pants and had a couple of months of downtime that i was not a fan of.
venues will be cheaper in January, and yes it will be cold but if you’re having your wedding indoors and there are great places indoors to take pictures (or you would like to wear faux-fur shrugs and muffs, so cute for a winter wedding!) i say go for it. if you want to do tons of DIY stuff and aren’t typically a super-organized person, or there are a limited number of venues still available in January to choose from, then wait until May.
Post # 10
We got engaged October 2013 and our wedding is August 2014. I didn’t want to wait, if we could have done it sooner without me losing my sanity I would have!
Post # 11
We had a 5.5 month engagement, and we aboslutely loved it. We have said over and over again, if we could redo it, we would stick with the short engagement. For us it was kind of the same, short engagement to get married when we did, or wait ayear on top of that. (DH is a phd student, we have to work around that schedule, and we got married in Minnesota, and didn’t want to deal with snow) Would you be open to a later fall wedding, like October? It would be early enough that snow shouldn’t be an issue.
Post # 12
May 2015 is not far away at all! I would go for it, it will have great weather as a bonus 🙂 Plus gives you plenty of time to plan everything. FI and I are over 2 years into what will probably be a 5+ year engagement, so just over a year is short in comparison!
Post # 13
I’d go for May, it’s not much that longer than MArch!
Post # 14
- Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church
ruphiolis: Honestly, I would go ahead and get married sooner. It would have been much more convenient for DH and I to wait an extra 9 months to get married but we decided to go ahead with it at the earlier date and I am SO GLAD!
Post # 15
I would get married when you want to get married- don’t worry about types, and you can’t control the weather anyways. I’m getting married in July, when yes there are lots of gorgeous in season flowers available, but it will likely be scrotching hot. We choose all indoor venues with AC for just that reason, but even outdoor pictures will be difficult. There are some dresses I drool over that have many layered skirts, and lace sleeves- but in July I’d have a heat stroke if I attempt that. Even though for me it isn’t the most ideal time weather or theme wise (I’d probably prefer fall)- that is what made most sense for our schedules. I teach at a university and am a PhD student, and we wanted to get married out of state, so summer monthes were our only options. Plus- he has some relatives that are school teachers and cousins and siblings still in school that would be unable to travel during the year.
One of my closest friends got married in January in the south (and she got engaged only the previous July). The weather wasn’t gorgeous, but it was a lot better than where I am from in the North, so everyone was excited to go. She had a gorgeous gown with a large skirt, and had a beautiful fur shawl that she wore for her exit and entrance. She looked like a winter goddess. Her wedding was so fun, because in the dead of winter there often aren’t many events, so everyone was just excited to be out celebrating.
Long story short- choose the earlier wedding. If it weren’t for the season, it is when you would like to be married. I definitely wouldn’t want to wait if my fiance lived seperately in another state!! You can have a beautiful wedding at any time. Yes, there is snow, but places that have a lot of snow are good with dealing with it, and it is only very rare that it really greatly affects travel plans. And bad weather can happen any time of the year.