Post # 1
so this wouldn’t be an actual elopement but very small wedding, don’t know where to post. We live in a apparently expensive wedding area. I can’t find any venue I like that we can comfortably afford, the top choices I’ve found around already booked for the fall of 2014. I also don’t want to spend 20k and not have the wedding we have imagined, for me that’s a lot of money to not get what you want. Anyways I found some elopement packages in northern Arizona so thinking about renting a big house, have our close family come up for the weekend, get married and call it a day. I feel really sad about not having that special day but SO and I already live together with 2 kids so we already have the great life that usually comes after the wedding so just want to commit to god and each other. I asked SO what’s important to him an he just said to see me walk down the aisle & his closest people to be there.
If I’m already having doubts do you think I’ll regret not having a traditional wedding? I had just gotten excited about planning to find out venues are booked over a year out is really disheartening.
Post # 3
Nobody can tell you if you’ll have regrets. But I think that small, intimate weddings can be amazing! It’s all about priorities. Sit down with your fiance and make a list of things that are important and things that aren’t important. See if you can fulfill the important stuff with a small get-away wedding.
Post # 4
your wedding sounds amazing. i wanted a small wedding, my mom and FI both wanted the bigger wedding. they got what they wanted…. but i am happy with it and you will be too.
Post # 5
@Allyg: Bigger is not necessarily better.
I too was initially planning on doing the big formal event. Then I thought about elopement. Now I am down to small (very small) guest list of 10. We have rented a lodge overlooking Lake Tahoe. And we are making it a weekend event, with our wedding ceremony clsing out the weekend.
Try not to be discouraged. The more planning I do for 10 very lucky guests, the more I am liking the idea of small but very intimate. I think what I have found with planning a small DW / kind of elopement affair is I have more money to spend on things that I otherwise would of had to scrimp on. For example, instead of the traditional reception, we are hiring a personal chef for our “reception dinner”. Had I had 100+ guests, I would not be able to afford to have a very high end menu.
Like I said big isn’t necessarily better. I am looking forward to spending an OTT weekend with those who are closest to us, and marrying the man of my dreams as those 10 very lucky guests stand in witness.
Post # 6
@Allyg: I think your idea sounds really great. BUT if you really want a ‘wedding’ then keep looking. I was surprised how many of the slightly offbeat/non-traditional places weren’t booked that far in advance. Do some hunting and I’ll bet you can find a compromise, look outside the popular wedding venues in your area. Ours is at an art gallery – they do weddings but they don’t heavily advertise that they do.
Post # 7
Thanks ladies, ya I like small can be beautiful but when I really think about us getting married not having the traditional makes me sad. So back on the venue hunt lol