Post # 1
I’m so excited because my SO and I started looking at rings this week, and I picked out one that I really like. I’m pretty sure he is going to get it. We also picked out his wedding band. I almost can’t believe it! Sometimes I wonder if this is all just a dream that I’m going to wake up from, but thankfully it’s not! It is real life! And all my dreams are going to come true. 🙂
Now it’s just the anxiety of waiting until he proposes. So…how do I keep from thinking about it? How do I keep from being clingy or dependent or from asking too many questions? I know I need to keep myself busy….
Is there an average amount of time that passes from when the ring is picked out and purchased to when the proposal actually happens? Or does it just vary greatly?
Post # 2
Congrats! Such an exciting time!! I remember being over the moon after we went ring shopping, and yet it all felt surreal. I’m not sure if there’s an “average” amount of time, but I can share how it went for me… FI suggested we go ring shopping one day late last May, then he went back and bought it in July ( I didn’t know at the time, but had an inkling), and he proposed in early November. He says he had planned to proppse in Sept-Oct, but couldn’t because of scheduling logistics, as we’re currently long distance. Our two year anniversary was last July.
I know how hard it can be to contain things, but I tried to keep it between me and a couple close friends and talked to them about my excitement so that it wasn’t like I was rushing him on it. We both knew that it would be sometime before the end of 2013. I had convinced myself it would be around the holidays, but got surprised a little early! 🙂
Post # 3
berrynuttyfarm: oh exciting!!
I have no advice as I am not even there yet, but i am happy for you!! 🙂
Post # 4
We shopped for almost a year before he purchased the ring! So, anything can happen, try to put it out of your head!! I’d say there is no ‘average’ time, everyone does it differently. He wouldn’t purchase the first ring we found that I liked, he wanted to be sure it was perfect, hence the shopping for almost a year. It took forever, but I love what we picked out so much more than the first one i found that I liked!
Post # 5
berrynuttyfarm: the waiting can be excruciating but it’s also fun. Remember at the beginning of your relationship when you’d get all excited/nervous about whether you were going to kiss etc? It’s like that but a million times better! The trick I have found to be most helpful is to not get to convinced it’s coming otherwise every time he is nice or acts a little different you will be disappointed he didn’t propose.
Also, congratulations! 🙂
Post # 6
How exciting first of all! We’re somewhat in the same boat. The boyfriend and I are picking my stone this week. I feel calm about it…I think that when you get to that point, it’s time to let go and let him do the rest…it’s clearly coming soon and the end is in sight! Just enjoy what’s going on now and know it’s almost time!
P.S. – If it doesn’t drive him crazy in front of him to do it, or if you prefer to do it in secret…Pintrest or something…it kinda helps you at least get an idea for what’s soon to come! I’ve found my fella is receptive to the ideas a bit more now!
Post # 7
berrynuttyfarm: How exciting!! My best advice is to try to focus on other things- I think it varies a lot. Some people get engaged the day after ring shopping, and other people may wait years. We got engaged about a year after we went ring shopping for the first time (I was pretty picky about rings). And I wouldn’t recommend asking questions- you will kick yourself later if you spoil a surprise!
Post # 8
berrynuttyfarm: Sounds like my first post on WB. : ) You’re probably not going to like this, but he didn’t propose for nearly a year after ring shopping. We even looked at wedding bands for him! The time between the actual purchase and the proposal was about 3 weeks, though. It flew by. I spent a lot of time on Weddingbee, and I felt like we had this romantic secret. Just try to enjoy your relationship. For me, the initial ” OMG WHEN ” stopped a couple of months after the ring shopping, and I felt relaxed about the whole thing.
Post # 9
OMG. I can’t imagine waiting 6 months to a year like some… Fortunately, it’s pretty certain we are getting married in August, so he won’t be waiting too long to propose. I’m guessing it will be within 1 to 3 weeks after he has the ring. Actually rings…plural…since he’s going to buy my engagement ring and his wedding band at the same time. LOL.