Looking back, were there any hints or clues that your SO was going to propose?

posted 3 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We never went ring shopping together, the only thing I told him about was that I wanted white gold, so I was in a bit of a different boat. I can tell you I was starting to get super impatient towards the end though and then had a really good talk with my dad. I was starting to look for it every time we were together, “oh this would be a cute proposal spot!!” Etc. Anyways, my dad told me to stop looking for it and to not make him feel pressured into anything or it would make it less special i.e. less of a surprise. So I know it’s still really hard, because I still couldn’t help but wonder occassionally, but I’d say try not to look for any hints or signs. You want it to be a surprise moment when he does it 🙂 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

We went looking at rings a few months before the engagement, but that’s just because he knows I’m picky. I didn’t think he was going to propose anytime soon, I just thought we were looking.

He proposed to me on Christmas day and the whole week before hand he was “having to stay late for work”, finally the 3rd day he had to I thought something was up but he played it off so well. Christmas day came and he picked up a decorative, light up present we had in the living room, with a ring box hidden under it. He said ” you forgot this one” and he got on one knee and asked me to maryy him. It was a TOTAL shock. I really had no idea. but looking back I knew something was up. He went straight to the jewlers after work those days to pick out a ring, customize it, pick it up etc.

 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Didn’t have a clue.

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Cinderella7: No, not really. He rubbed my left ring finger a lot, but he’d been doing that for a while. I did happen to notice that he had a larger than normal balance in his account when I glanced over his shoulder to see what he was doing on his phone so I did wonder if it was for a ring, but that wasn’t really his “behavior”. Then my birthday came and he didn’t buy me anything, which I thought was thoughtless but we’d been pretty tight on money and I had somehow forgotten about the “extra” money I saw. So…. I guess I should have taken that as a hint since he proposed two days after my birthday (I assume thinking he’d bought me a ring and that was enough for my birthday :P).

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Nope. We had never discussed marriage or engagements. He just decided one day he wanted to marry me, bought a ring and proposed.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Still a waiting bee, but my SO already has my ring. My guy does what @MexiPino: mentioned: he rubs my left ring finger often. He also looks at that finger a lot, like gazing and in deep thought. I can tell he’s thinking about it. 

I’ll be able to give a better answer when my proposal comes. 

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Well a package arriving from Las Vegas was a big clue 😉 Him calling me when I was away from home to ask my ring size was a clue… He’s not the most sneaky one! Hell I’ve even let my rings lie around the house on multiple occassions but he just has to be sure…

He did stop talking about engagement two weeks prior. I even had a list with our friends and had been counting how many guests we would have because a friend of ours had 200 and I thought we would have less. And he was like: ‘no, i don’t feel like looking at that right now…’

2 days later he proposed…

Good luck with the waiting period!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We were visiting his hometown and he introduced me to a lot of people I hadn’t yet met, and he kept saying that he was going to spend the rest of his life with me, and calling me his future wife…he was a little more sappy when introducing me and he’s just not like that, but I didn’t take the hint…I thought he was just excited to see all these guys that he hadn’t seen in forever, I HAD NO IDEA that he was going to propose!

Then of course…the proposal was ruined because we got into an argument about two hours before the proposal was supposed to take place, and he showed me the ring and I cried and we fought some more until he issued an ultimatum, and then we were engaged, LOL. The draaaamaaaa.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Hahaha she had a ring she sometimes wore on her right hand ring finger.  I wanted it to get the size right, or at least close.  I couldn’t find it in her drawers, so I told her I saw a necklace that might go with it, and wanted to borrow it to look at them together.  SHe hands it to me, and I looked at it, and was like “gee that’s small, what fingers does it fit on?”  She tried it on all the fingers.  Looked at me with this look that I was sure was an “I know what he’s up to!”  But turns out to have been “yay he’s maybe getting me something shiny and pretty!”  Anyway, I was SURE she knew it was coming, but she had no idea.   Which was good.  I got the reaction I wanted.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Cinderella7:  I had no idea that DH was shopping for a ring. We have been together for quite sometime so he learned over the years what I liked for an engagement ring. And he always said to me that I will never know its coming. It was the biggest surprise of my life. 

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I also had NO IDEA DH was planning on proposing… I thought he might have gone to look at rings while I was out of state visiting friends, but as it turns out he bought one!

At one point, I heard his friend say (one the phone, dude is loud…) “So, you doing it next weekend?” And I heard DH go “I’m not sure yet. I think so.”

And I was like “Tee hee hee, it almost sounds like they’re talking about a proposal! How silly of me to think that!”

…And that was exactly what they were talking about. Total surprise. Had NO idea it was coming!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - A Beautiful converted Barn

@Cinderella7:  i had NO idea! infact, i had pretty much come to terms with the fact that we were going to be one of those couples who stayed together forever and had kids but didnt get married! lol!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Nope – he threw me for a loop.  Looked at rings together and 8 months later there was still no proposal.  I was getting antzy after looking at rings and I thought maybe he changed his mind.  I started talking about it a lot with him and it stressed him out.

I did the shut-it-up pact for about 3 weeks and he proposed.  After the 2nd week of me keeping my mouth shut he got more comfortable and went out and had the ring made within 3 days.   So ladies….shutting up can really work.  He actually told me that once we stopped having so many lengthy conversations about it he could relax and ACTUALLY think about what he wanted.

Post # 16
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Newbee

We went ring shopping together some time mid August, and when we talked about engagement, he threw around a time line that made me think he was going to propose around Thanksgiving. 

One day, he suggested going for a walk by a river nearby where we had one of our early dates, and then going out for a fancy dinner.  The date was for some random Thursday in October (the 17th ;)).  We really don’t go out to eat often, let alone anything fancy, and paired with the romantic walk, the WHOLE time leading up to it I was thinking, “this is SO a proposal type date….but it’s way too early for that, it can’t be.”  Well, it was 🙂  He didn’t give any “hints”, per se, but the fancy date thing WAS definitely out of character for us. 

Happy waiting….I hope you have a great surprise!

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