(Closed) Looking back…what was worth the money?

posted 6 years ago in Recaps
Post # 3
1963 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Thanks!  I’m currently planning my wedding and this post helps alot- particularly the cost of our photographer!

Post # 4
790 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Great post! I can see why your photographer was worth it….beautiful pics. Those trees!! Beautiful dress, and it’s a little hard to see them, but I think I’m in love with your bridesmaid dresses. I love the pic of the two of you dancing! Did you do swing? 

Post # 6
393 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Great post, beautiful wedding πŸ™‚ Congrats!

Post # 7
9216 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

How beautiful and helpful, thanks!  And WHERE is that venue?!  It’s amazing!!

Post # 8
263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

agree with everything stated above (except photobooth) + shoes and dress tailoring 

Post # 9
763 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Beautiful wedding and pictures! 

For me, on my NOT WORTH IT list is: CAKE.  Spent $600 on a beautiful cake that no one ate.  Had to give tons of it away the day after the wedding.  It was great for pictures, but I could have used that money to upgrade our plane tickets to first class for our honeymoon instead…would have been WAY more worth it πŸ˜‰

Post # 11
963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

This is a great thread!  I also agree that it’s not worth it a lot to spend a lot on a dress.  Some say things like ‘DB dresses aren’t good quality,’ but for me, for a dress you will wear once, you don’t need the same level of quality (which I equate with the ability to stand the test of many wears) as, say, you’re favorite winter coat.  Not that I’m endorsing DB.  I got my dress elsewhere for less than what I found at DB.

We didn’t do a candy bar, but having just attended a wedding that did, I also thought it was much better in theory than in practice.  Other not worth its: fancy shoes (another Payless shopper here!), favors (we made ours, and I agree with OP that DIY things are fun if that is your cup of tea), extravagant cake (our cake was beautiful and delicious, but we got a great deal), fancy chairs (so long as they look decent and are comfortable– but chivari(sp?) chairs are so uncomfortable, and not worth the price, and NO ONE will remember your chairs after the fact), and crazy involved centerpieces/flowers.  Also not worth it– getting our hair done at our venue.  It cost SO much more than if we’d just gotten it done at the salon, and none of us were wholly happy with what she did.  Also, I spent SO much time researching how to light our paper lanterns for the reception.  We got married during a heat wave, so we moved the dancing outside, so not many people saw my lanterns, and we don’t have any photos of them in their lit gloriousness.

Worth it: food (we did family style, and it was great; we loved our caterer!), photographer, videographer, fans to pass out along with the programs (married during a heat wave).

The guest shuttle to and from the hotel wasn’t cheap, but guests seemed to really appreciate it, so I suppose it was worth it.

Post # 12
1014 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I agree with all of these!!  It’s too bad we can’t figure out what’s not worth it before the wedding, so we don’t have to shell out the $$$ unnecessarily.  πŸ˜‰  I want to play, too, so here’s my list!

The venue?  Worth it!  It was beautiful, peaceful, and the staff was amazing and kind to work with.

The Dress? Worth it.  I totally went under budget, and ended up with a custom Dolly Couture for about the same cost as David’s. (Not knocking David’s, AT ALL!, they just didn’t have quite the right dress for me.)

Live Band?  Worth it, for us. They cost the same as a middle of the road DJ, and they were awesome.  They played for the ceremony AND the reception, and kept the classic rock tunes coming.  Even those that weren’t big dancers really loved hanging out, and visiting with friends and family while enjoying the awesome music.

Photographer? Worth it x100! Loved loved loved our photographer.  So nice to work with, easy going and a total professional!

Flowers?  Worth it?  Kinda, maybe?  I LOVED how the ceremony and reception flowers turned out.  They were done by the venue, and they were exactly what I wanted.  On the other hand, mine and my girls’ bouquets were done by another florist and I was pretty disappointed.  They were expensive, and not what I asked for.  They certainly weren’t bad, just not what I thought we were paying for!  πŸ˜‰

Yay, reception flowers, love them!

Bride’s bouquet?  Meh. Not bad, after I cut the ugly flowers out!  HA!

Photobooth?  Worth it, if you DIY.  We really wanted a photobooth, but couldn’t come to terms with the cost.  So we used Mrs. Pin Cushioin’s tutorial, and did a DIY version for about $100, yay!

Favors? Worth it, if it’s a consumable.  We made home brew beer favors, and they were a hit.  We’ve been brewing our own for a few years now, so this project was a no brainer for us.  And pretty cost effective.  If we’d had to learn to do it just for the wedding favors, it would have probably been a waste of time and money!

DIY projects? Worth it, sometimes. I think it’s important to only take on projects you can handle, and can execute well.  If it’s going to cause you unnecessary stress or drama, forget about it!!  I’m a master with a home printer, so designing and printing all of our own paper goods was a fun project, not a stressful one.  For me, it would have been sad if I’d had to outsource all of our paper projects, but for someone else it would be a blessing.

Non-Traditional Cake?  Worth it!  We saved a bundle by going with an assortment of bundt cakes, instead of a multi tiered wedding cake.  And we got to have 7 different flavors.  I heard of lots of people trying multiple flavors, and everyone raved about how tasty they were.  Only sad thing is there wasn’t much leftover to take home!


There’s my list, and it seems like I think everything was worth it.  πŸ™‚  Haha, I think I must have come to terms with my not worth it’s before the wedding. Thank you wedding bee for keeping me sane, and reminding me I didn’t have to have all the things!!

Post # 13
3471 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

Thanks! I agree with you on the dress– I absolutely loved it, and everyone tells me I looked amazing in it, but I really feel like for that $1,000 I could have done a lot more.  

I did a last minute bump on the flowers from $700 to $1,000 and it was SO worth it! Having mroe flowers all over really made everything so elegant. 

And my DIY stuff came out so pretty! I was so happy with our whole wedding! 

Post # 14
7420 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Fabulous pics by the way. Congrats. Also, great thread. I hope more bees chime in.

Post # 15
2693 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m not married yet but I love this thread.  I am doing a candy buffet/bar but going simple and not overdoing it… we’ll have a dessert from the caterer AND cake.

Worth it so far: my DIY’s.  They have saved us so much money and they all came out great.


Post # 16
3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Worth it:

Our venue. It was pricey but not horrible by DC standards, but worth every penny and then some.

Nice food. Very worth the price tag. Our guests were raving.

Open premium bar. Very worth the price tag. Our guests were drunk πŸ˜€  Not really, just a little loose, but they celebrated in style.

Our officiant. Dollar for dollar, we got the most value from our amazing officiant. Our ceremony was perfect, very intimate and personal. Everyone cried. Everyone laughed. It was just perfect.

Not worth it:

Flowers. And we went the cheapest way possible except for DIY. Still spent $1100 on flowers that we kept for just a few hours.  Really one of the only things I regret.

Not entirely sure:

The dress. I loved it and loved how I looked but I still can’t get my head around spending that kind of money on an outfit for just one day.

The DJ.  It’s a long story but the short version is that he was very difficult to work with, to the point where we had to have a long “clear the air” type call with the manager of the DJ service, the DJ, us and the venue, and while he was professional for the actual event, he was a handful before it. Plus we spoon-fed him the playlist, which we might not have done if he’d not been such a chore in the days before the wedding. So I’m kind of ticked off at having spent that kind of money to basically pick the music and let the guy push the Play button.

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