Post # 1
I know we have an unique situation – most people do not need to include 40+ cats when considering a new place to live. In other words, we need acres of land and either a barn or a place to build a barn (the Amish around here can toss one up in 2 days!). Luckily we are already pre-qualified for a mortgage and have the funds for down payment, closing costs, etc.
The problem is that every listing our realtor (a long-time freind of hubby’s) sends a listing, hubby finds something wrong with it and I am beginning to wonder if there will ever be a property he likes. For example, there is one property with a renovated 1850 farmhouse – fireplaces, vaulted ceilings, huge kitchen, huge rooms, etc. Even better, there is an awesome horse barn – huge, heated, with water and electric that would be perfect for the cats. In our price range too! And why doesn’t hubby like it – because there is “too much open ground and it would take too long to mow it”. Augggggggh! I told him I would gladly mow it but he says we must think of the future (we are in our early 50s). I said so we can plant some freaking trees. He replied that we will be dead by the time they are grown. Every property I have liked so far, he finds something wrong with it! He is driving me crazy!
Post # 3
Wow that’s crazy, just hire someone to mow the dumb lawn or let it overgrow a bit, doubt anyone will care!
It’s so tough when you shoot everything down before looking at it in person or for stupid things like paint color that can be changed.
Post # 4
I know! I even suggested making part of it a meadow planting with native wildflowers. Pretty and it won’t need to be mowed right? Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
Post # 5
Tell him you’ll let him buy a ride on mower. Most guys are suckers for those things 😛
Post # 6
It sounds like you guys need to start a good list of what is acceptable and not acceptable. If that one was too much land, say you won’t look at any property that is over that acreage unless its wooded. If he says the bedrooms are too small, then say you won’t look at any houses with bedrooms that size or smaller.
Sometimes lists help!
Post # 7
I enjoy riding mowing, I can think without having to concentrate on what I’m doing. So I pop in some headphones and drift off onto a daydream.
I’d encourage him to write down things HE wants, then discuss any discrepancies and compromise.
Post # 8
You could buy some cows or a goat to eat up all that grass!
Post # 9
@bluespurrs:I think you are giving him too many options. Ask him his top 2 or 3 requirements and find your house. Let him have final veto. Its either property A,B or C. End of discussion DH.
Post # 10
It sounds to me like he really doesn’t want to move at all. Is it someting you’ve both agreed on or is it only one of you thinking it’s a good idea?
Post # 12
Do you really have 40+ cats? My husband complains about the TWO that we have!
Post # 13
@7SEVENJ9: Oh yes. I didn’t bring them here, they are all ferals and dumped pets from the nearby state forest lands. Apparently there is a huge neon sign in the woods that says “soft-hearted sucker lives over there”. It took 5 years of trapping and a whole lot of money to get them all neutered and vaccinated. My daughter was actually the animal rescuer of the family. When she died unexpectedly, I continued on as a living memorial to her. They are not all in the house – I have insulated mini-barns stuffed with straw for warmth, heatedd water bowls, feeding stations, etc.