Post # 1
Hi! We are doing both a traditional and non-traditional registry. We are in the military, so they move us around a lot and we will have to rent homes until he retires, and we live far away (Hawaii) so all gifts will have to be mailed too… so the standard registry won’t work for us as well as a honeymoon fund for more than a few reasons. I am looking to figure out a way to word our greeting, can anyone help me? 🙂 This is what we have so far, but I want to point out how the military affects things too.
“Hello friends and family,
We are so honored you will share our special day with us. We’re lucky to have a nice home full of everything we need, so we’ve set up this honeymoon registry to help us fulfill a dream of going to India!
Thanks for visiting!”
Post # 3
I detest mentions of honeyfunds. I just would not register. It makes the point clear and you can always clarify your living situation if asked about the lack of registry. Your guests know you and your situation and would probably assume to send $$ anyway if you live far and are constantly on the move.
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse
if it’s difficult to word so that it doesn’t sound tacky…it’s tacky.
Just don’t make a registry and people will get the hint. The whole concept of a registry is to help a family set up a household – not send them on vacation.
Wants vs. needs
Post # 7
@theshannondee: +1000000! You’re going to get a lot of these I suspect 🙂
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Meh, I wouldn’t mind. I’m not a clutch-my-pearls etiquettey type though.
And I don’t know where you live – but in these parts, if you don’t register, you get a lot of what people think you would want for your house.
Post # 9
I am always happy to purchase and give what the bride/couple want, for their shower/wedding. I prefer registries of any type and never go off-registry, unless it’s with cash/check. (not even a giftcard, which they may not use).
Post # 10
I am a HUGE fan of honeyfund!! We have been living together and we already have everything we need to live comfortably. We don’t need 2 toasters and 4 blenders. But what we do want is a vacation and we would never be able to afford one on our own. We just wrestled with this same problem. We decided to just print a small paper. One side has the hotel block info and the other side simply says for more info go to honeyfund.com/blahblah.
I don’t know if it’s tacky but frankly i’m tired of worrying about tacky. I’m just being honest and direct. 🙂
Post # 11
I am also a fan of honey funds. Times are a changin and couple are moving in together before marriage and already have homes set up. People are planning on giving you a gift so what’s the difference between a waffle maker you don’t need and monetary gift towards your honeymoon? I think the wording sounds good, it is not tacky and India sounds like a great trip!
Post # 12
You mention you are “honored” that they are there, and then you flat out ask for cash. Wouldn’t make me feel very “honored”.
Post # 13
@theshannondee: here’s another +1000!
Post # 14
@alexysmyzpha: IMO these are no different than asking for money. If you don’t need anything at all for the home or to start you out in married life, then my feeling is you must be in great shape to be able to either afford your own luxury vacation or to save up for one.
Post # 15
Wow, who knew people would poop all over this post? Sharing your opinion of honeyfund is not what OP asked…
@alexysmyzpha: This is how we decided to word it on our website:
“While we still have a traditional registry, we decided to add a little something different into the mix! Not only will we be beginning our married lives together in Venice, one of Europe’s most romantic cities, we’ll be able to think of our friends and family throughout the trip who helped make it possible.
In the link below for Honeyfund you’ll find an assortment of activities that we’ve chosen together to make our honeymoon experience truly memorable.”
Post # 16
@alexysmyzpha: we registered on travelersjoy.com and everyone that has heard if it loved the idea. Obviously not everyone on here agrees with it, but honeymoon funds are definitely getting more popular. We have two reg registries (Macy’s and BBB) and then the honeymoon registry. Our wedding website lists all three options. If u want to check out how I wrote out either site msg me and I’ll send you the links