- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
some of you might have read my other post regarding my mom
I eloped at age 21 because my living situation at home (i was still living with my parents) was awful and even if we wanted a normal wedding, they wouldnt have accepted my now Darling Husband (or that’s what i thought at the time).
(here’s the link if you want more info)
Since i got married EVERYTHING got better, my dad accepted him and everything, happy family… until my mom started loosing weight, she right now weights I KID YOU NOT 81.5lbs. She doesnt eat, unless there’s someone eating with her.
Everything’s fine, she took a bunch of tests and everything came fine, but she doesnt eat. She only has a super small anemia (according to the nutriologist).
Everyone in the family are trying to get her to improve, we’re taking her to the psychologist about every 2 months (free healthcare) and to a nutriologist every week (private).
Today was her 3rd appointment with the nutriologist and i forgot to tell SIL and brother about it before, so i called my mom to ask her about it and tell her it was at 10:30am and i’ll be going with her.
She insisted SIL was going to go with her, but since i’ve catched her telling me lies about her treatments, i told her i wanted to go with her regardless… she then told me she canceled the appointment because she had “a few days left” of diet, which is a lie.
I called my brother and he got angry at her, he then told me that she doesnt follow the diet unless him and SIL (which both live at my parent’s house) are there watching her eat.
I told him that maybe we should take her to a psychiatrist (she used to go a long time ago because of anxiety, apparently), and he told me that what she needs is to eat Ayahuasca (a strong hallucinogen medicinal plant) or something like that and that maybe he’ll start spiking her food with something. I told him not to, obviously, i’ll talk to him later to be sure he doesnt, so that’s not an issue.
So, im starting to get tired of this, she’s not taking any responsability and she acts like a child, i have my own life to take care of, i cant be taking care of her if she doesnt do her part.
She calls me about 4 times a day and i have other things to do, im so angry that Ive been thinking on telling her: “don’t bother talking to me until you do something for your health”, but i guess that wouldnt do any good.
But i want to do something to stop enabling her to just neglect herself when she’s just focusing on my brother and me, that’s not a healthy relationship, i dont know what to do.
🙁 Can you give me some advice? thank you.