Looking for my 6+ TTC'ers…but all are welcome :)

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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1734 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

I’m also in cycle 10, so hey 😀 Sorry that we’re in the same crappy boat.

I don’t get what it is with people. I’d kept my mouth shut about trying until we had our first RE appointment, and then mentioned it off-handedly to my mother. That was a mistake. A lot of, “You just haven’t been trying long enough…your SIL took 3 years (O.O)…this person has been trying for 4 and still isn’t pregnant…” It was not what I wanted or had hoped to hear from someone, but wasn’t altogether unexpected.

 

I think people have a very difficult time wrapping their minds around someone who’s relatively young having a fertility problem. For better or worse, I think most peoples’ minds are warped to think that it’s something you *only* encounter when you’re over 35 or even 40…or even older. It’s not a comfortable feeling for the rest of us, who know something is very likely wrong, and yet we don’t get any help or support. 

In our case, I have had an LPD in the past, but have managed to get it to around 11 days generally since taking B6 (last month was a fluke…only 9 days). We took two at-home sperm count tests and both were negative, so I’m fairly confident at this point that it’s him. 

Our RE’s been well worth the money. We’ve been the ones stalling…he was ready to go. 

I hope there’s still a chance for some 2014 babies for us.

Post # 4
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509 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Peffy:  Ya people suck especially when it comes to TTC or difficulties with TTC. I know they mean well most of the time as I’m sure you do. Reading these boards show me that ignorance comes in many shades of annoying. 

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

We’re on month 7.  it’s been a difficult journey but we are really hopeful this month. We got bumped up to 100mg clomid and after not ovulating last cycle, things feel much better this time. It’s been so difficult because as soon as we started trying it feels like every other day someone is announcing a pregnancy. I’m ready for it to be our turn. Fingers crossed its all of our turns this month!!!!!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I hear ya OP.  My SIL told me and my DH that the trick to getting pregnant was just to have alot of sex.  Ya think?!  Oh well here we are in cycle 6 – month 8 – and still not pregnant…and yes we are having alot of sex…

Post # 8
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714 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@AnotherAnonyBee:  You were able to get clomid on cycle 7? when did you go see a dr? Did you have a pre-existing condition? We’re on cycle 7 too and it’s so frustrating. Some doctors only want you to come in after a year of trying

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Peffy:  I hate comments like that and also constant comments about “when’s the baby” and this is comes from strangers all the time.. like where do they get off? It’s like… WE’RE TRYING!!!!!!!!!! 

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@octoberbaby:  this is actually my third month on it. I have not been diagnosed with anything-tests are all negative, but I’m in there all the time for  tests and appointments due to extremely irregular cycles. At one point I went almost two years with no period. Obviously I’m still having issues, even on the clomid. I’m just getting really impatient, and yes,  as you you all have had to hear, as well, were doing the BD a TON!!!!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

Yeah, we’re going to go in for an actual SA with a doctor. I have just given DH lots of warning that it’s happening, so it’s not like I’m springing it on him within a week. I told him that if I start my period this cycle (next 2 weeks), it’s time to go in and he’s on board. We’ll probably start taking care of his first…then, maybe in a few months, move onto bloodwork for me. Trying to get the most bang for our buck, giving one solution time to work before getting onto the next. 

I am starting to wonder if something isn’t up with *one* of my ovaries. Roughly every other month (I know, I know, the labor isn’t exactly equal and it can shift from month-to-month, but the pattern is suspicious), I’ll get a positive OPK for two days, then a clear temp shift. Then…the next month, I’ll get a positive OPK for a day or two. Goes negative on day 3. Suddenly positive again on days 4 and 5. Negative again on day 6. Temps shift up gradually, but don’t always seem *good* enough for post-ovulation. 

Who knows at this point. I hate this crap. Also regretting the years of birth control I paid for in the past. Clearly didn’t need it. 

 

Post # 13
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714 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@AnotherAnonyBee:  I’m sorry you’re having trouble with irregular cycles.. I’ve heard so many success Clomid stories so FX for you 🙂

Post # 14
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632 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I hear ya ladies – month 8 cycle 6 for us.  I had gone to the doctor last week because of the long irregular cycles and massive amounts of acne on my neck and back since getting off the pill.  They are speculating PCOS but will get official testing done in a few weeks if AF ever shows up.  Its just frustrating because people just don’t get it.  I was telling my one girlfriend about it and she was like well you should be like me and not have kids then you wouldn’t have that problem.  Seriously!!!  Obviously I want kids hence the testing.  Or like my grandma – god bless her – every time i calls asks if I have news to share about being pregnant and I say no and she is like well just relax it will happen when you least expect it.

Post # 15
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352 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

We’ll be moving into the 6+ month club if this last cycle is unsuccessful. I’ll know in a few more days. So yeah – the TTC boat is not that fun. 

It’s especially not fun when you have friends who seem to magically get pregnant with no problems (and they start AFTER you). Or you have a mom who tells you over and over how it only took her three months to get pregant with each of her three pregnancies AND that the reason so many women are having trouble is because they’re waiting too long. I turned 35 in October, so I know this is her direct, indirect way at telling me it’s my fault.

I also can’t talk about it with my sister because she had four miscarriages before she just gave up altogether. She’s so sensitive about the subject that she won’t even broach the subject with me and I feel horrible talking about MY problems with TTC when she’s struggled so much.

Another friend of mine who recently had a baby has a husband who, every time I see him says, “You guys better hurry up!” I HATE HEARING THAT!

Anyway…it definitely helps to be able to vent here and talk among women who understand the ups and downs with TTC. 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Peffy:  I’m sorry for your friend’s boyfriend’s stupidity. I am on cycle 8. I get so tired of hearing people tell me to relax and it’ll happen or it’ll happen when it’s supposed to. It doesn’t help. At all!

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