Post # 1
who arne’t having a big wedding
okay i’m not having a big wedding open bar or even really food because we’re not interested in the big party, we don’t dance, and none of our family and friends are hardcore party/drinking ppl
*now then before anyone tries to say bad things towards me about this i’m not saying it’s wrong to have that type of wedding we’re not bc we don’t want too*we don’t want/need the stress as we plan to relocate and i’m finishing college we need to be tight with our money right now but it really is the wedding we want!
we’re having a church ceremony and church reception at 2 pm with cake and punch and just spending time with ppl we care about.
so anwyays are there other brides out there who are doing something similiar? i hope i’m not a lone also what are you doing to give your reception more body…games, opening gifts, etc. I’d like to hear other ppls ideas bc I don’t want everyone to eat their cake and go home even though i know it won’t be a huge reception i’d like it to at least last an hour vs 15 minutes *and please no flack about how if i want it to last longer I should spend more money/have more food/bar etc it’s not happening*
so please share ideas of what you’d do to make it last longer thanks in advance
Post # 3
We had a very small intimate wedding with only 18 guests. Of course, it was also a destination wedding in Florida. For our reception, instead of renting out some banquet hall to try and recreate the classic wedding reception party, we had dinner at an amazing restaurant and spent over 4 hours eating, drinking and enjoying being with our very closest friends/family. The smaller wedding allowed us to spend more on our guests, but we definitely could have done it by spending even less so I think small weddings are a great idea. It was an amazing time and we wouldn’t have changed a thing. Good luck!
Post # 4
How many people will be invited, and is the cake and punch thing going to be held at a backyard or something? If your not having a large guest list and it is held at a backyard, maybe you can do games like horseshoe, croquet, bocce ball, etc. Then you and the groom can join in on the fun too! I think it would make for great pictures. 🙂
Post # 5
Make sure you have plenty of refreshments on hand to keep people mingling longer. What about a non-alcoholic juice/punch bar? Something like this can be done fairly cheap, I know places like Marshalls, Home Goods, and Costco sell the jars:
I would also put light background music on and maybe have a photo slide show continuously showing.
Other ideas: trivia cards (about you and the groom) to get people talking to each other, detailed guest book pages to fill out, family wedding photos scattered throughout the room.
I think as long as you have a comfortable atmosphere your guests will be willing to stay longer. Don’t forget lots of water and enough chairs for people to sit!
Post # 6
i don’t think there’s anyone who’ll give you any flack for that! we did have the grand wedding/reception/paid WAY too much…and while I am very proud of our wedding and loved every second of it – what i didn’t like was the final bill (and the scary thing, we got a TON of deals due to my husband being the manager of a catering company…so it coulda been MUCH worse!)
Seriously – if what you want is a small intimate wedding – then do it! a good friend of mine at work had a gorgeous small/intimate wedding “thrown together” in the matter of two months. It was a friday night wedding – and their ceremony and reception were actually in the same room in their church – all of the tables were set up for the ceremony and right afterwards, there was cake and punch. no dancing. no alcohol – but nice background music and it was beautiful.
plus – again – just think of all the money you’ll save and NOT worry about afterwards!
good luck and I wish you the best!
Post # 7
@babyboo: Love the punch bar idea!! I think I’ll just have to steal this idea. So much better than iced tea and soda.
Post # 8
we had 30 people at our ceremony, and 90 at the reception. 90 isn’t that small, but it was very casual with no dancing. and we had dinner. people stayed a lot longer than i thought they would, it was nice just to be able to sit and mingle with everyone.
Post # 9
@babyboo:those are all great and fairly inexpensive ideas thanks
Post # 10
thanks ladies sorry i wasn’t assuming ppl would give me flack it’s just when i usually tell ppl that i’m not into spending a ton of money everyone assumes my wedding will be cheap or tacky and why would anyone want to attend those ppl aren’t invited lol
our guest list is at 150 right now but we believe about 100 will attend. i love everyone’s ideas and encouragement
Post # 11
I’ve had backyard bbqs before with 20+ people and trust me, our friends stay for HOURS. Like, 5+ hours. Mostly we stand around, sipping some brews and chatting, but if someone sets up some washers or cornhole, usually people are off doing that. I think it’s great to offer some fun games because it gets your guests socializing and gives them stuff to do, since there isn’t dancing. Obv you need some space for 100 people, but you get the idea. If something like this was offered, I’d go play! And i’d grab some guests to go with me. If you have some nice jazz in the background without a dance floor, that’d be nice, too.
Post # 12
How about playing the “Shoe Game” like Mrs Pug? Or making memory boxes like Mrs. Creampuff? These things are interactive and don’t involve dancing, drinking or eating! Good luck!
Post # 13
For our civil ceremony, it will be just us (and maybe a few friends), then we will probably head out to a swanky restaurant for dinner. For our actual ceremony next year, it will probably be bigger (roughly 30 guests…or a bit more, lol).
Post # 14
By far the majority of weddings I’ve been to have been cake and punch (and always the little bowls of the pastel mints) in the fellowship hall of the church. Weddings are about celebrating the way YOU want to, and as long as you are with your Fiance and people who love you, it will be lovely.
The shoe game and trivia cards are great idea.
Post # 15
those are some good ideas i might tweak the shoe game to have my guests answer the questions itd be hiliarous to see what they say
Post # 16
We just did a cake and dessert wedding, with no music (we planned to, but just didn’t have time to put together the playlist) or speeches or anything like that. But it still lasted a couple hours, just because of people visiting with each other. As long as your guests will know each other, I think you’ll be fine 🙂