I am a new poster here but wanted to ask for some female advice before buying a ring for my SO.
So I have talked to her about what she wants and so far I have:
– Not too big and gaudy (ie solitaire that isn’t too big)
– Not too sparkly
– Low profile (to fit under rubber gloves for example)
So my first question is, is there a good reference (actual pictures, not sketches) of ring size and carat weight? Also, if anyone has a 6-7 ring size solitaire, would you mind posting a pic with carat wt? I’d like to get an idea of what seems reasonable and what looks “too big”.
My second question relates to the sparkly comment. She doesn’t want the stone to be sparkly and rainbow-reflecting, but from my experience, this is what diamonds are cut for and specifically strive to acheive. I am worried if I buy a cheaper diamond trying to make it less reflective, she will either change her mind or have to deal with comments from people about the poor quality of the diamond, even if it is what she wanted.
The reason I bring it up here is because I don’t want to question her choice on non-sparkly if it’s what she really wants, but want to get your opinion on how to go about getting a non-sparkly diamond in the best way. Of course, googling for “non-sparkly diamond” only returns hit after hit of things like “why is my diamond not sparkly” or the like.
Anyway, thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for any advice/opinions.
@skaterzero807: mine is a 1.01 ct on a size 6. I haven’t noticed rainbow colors at all, it does sparkle though. I think there is no way around sparkle when it comes to diamonds! It depends what lighting you are in though. Halogens make it sparkle like no other, and the sunlight makes it sparkle as well.
I don’t have a solitaire, so I can’t show you that but I have a couple of thought as to the sparkly conundrum.
1) The sparkles are really quite captivating in person, so if you want a white diamond I wouldn’t worry about it too much. They are all sparkley. But you could find a setting that lets in less light. Try googling bezel set solitaire. Those are low set and protect the diamond very well. It’s a common choice for women who want a diamond that won’t get in the way. (Also, they are gorgeous too.)
2) A step cut diamond. Asscher or emerald cut.
3) A black diamond. They look pretty rock n roll. A couple of bees have them if you search the forums.
I asked for a lot of those same qualities in my ring. I work in a lab and my ring fits under my gloves and I love it. It’s a 0.33 carat on a size 5 finger. Mine does sparkle quiet a bit but I don’t think it does in an over the top way. I think in terms of sparkle one good quality diamond is a good choice. It’s not too much.
For something under gloves, maybe a bezel setting? Basically there’s some metal all around the center diamond (but not a halo which is little diamonds all around the center).
What makes diamonds so special is the sparkle, but round brilliants (what 85% of people have) are very splintery flashy, perhaps she’s more of a vintage cut, more broad cut and pastel flashes? Here’s a good comparison video:
Their August Vintage is their in house cut of “vintage” but maximizing sparkle. You can find older diamonds or similiar cut online called OMC or OEC, but the “personality” or way it’s cut really range.
I have a Ritani cathedral setting which is elegant and low profile. My stone is VVS1, ideal cut (polish/symmetry/no culet) hearts and arrows style 1.22ct on a 6.5 sized finger. The stone is sparkly but not gaudy. By “too sparkly”, she may have meant “too blingy”, in which case a solitaire would be great for her! Bezel set is typically the lowest profile…
Thanks, I think I’ll go for either a bezel set or a swirl style with a bezel-like setting. Something like this:
They both seem like they won’t snag too much. As for the sparkle, I think I’ll just have to take her to look at some stones, I found looking at them in person is the only way to really know if it is a good stone.
Thirding a bezel set diamond, and perhaps a step cut one to reduce the sparkle. If she’s really totally against sparkle, perhaps you can look into a white sapphire, which does sparkle a but, but doesn’t give rainbow colors.
If you get diamonds around the band, I would recommend looking into baguette diamonds, and channel settings, which reduce the sparkle factor.
This is from MoissaniteCo, but something I had bookmarked as a nice solitaire. It’s a semi-bezel setting, and I think something like this would fit nicely under a glove, because there are no prongs to get caught.
@skaterzero807: “Too big” is so relative that I think you’re going to have to take her to a jewelry store in person and get an idea of the ideal carat size for her!
I think if she’s looking for less “sparkle”, you should definitely look into step cut (assher and emerald cut) stones as PPs mentioned. If she’s partial to the round shape but wants less sparkle, OECs or OMCs have more chunky facets than round brilliants.
Finally I second (er…fourth?) the bezel setting. Super low maintenance and low profile. I wear nitrile gloves and my ring sits nicely under the gloves, no prongs means no snagging or ripping the gloves either.
For reference, here’s my bezel set solitaire, ~1.4ct RB diamond, size 6:
@feufighter: We’ve browsed the web and she does like the swirl designs and some of the more swirl-like ones, I think she’ll be ok with it.
@glitter-girl: I really like the design of this one, I think she would like it and it also is semi-bezel. Too bad it is in Moissanite, which is supposed to be more reflective than diamond? I’ll have to check out white sapphire and see if she likes the look of it better.
Anyway, I think I’ve narrowed the size down to .8 to 1 ct based on the pictures, I’m sure it won’t be too big for her but also big enough she won’t feel it’s too small either.
But definitely I will need to take her to a jeweler at some point to look around. Unfortunately she won’t be coming to visit for a while so I’ll just have to be patient.
Also, anyone with a swirl-like ring have info or opinions on how to get a wedding band to fit? I’ve seen a lot of designs like the one below where the band is just squeezed onto the side and it sortof messes up the neatness of the swirl’s symmetry.