Looking for some encouragement re my choice of ring

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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878 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

No. I don’t think it’s crazy. I’m gonna wear FSILs 3.1 carat (each) diamond earrings on my wedding day possible! My engagement ring is like .4 carats in the center! Your ring is probably beautiful and t means a lot that your FI bought it. 

A family friend of ours couldn’t afford to buy his wife an engagement ring when they got engaged. She is just now getting one and she is in her 50s, as t hasn’t been a priority even though they have been successful for years! People are gonna notice less than you will notice

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

On my wedding day I wore just my band without an e-ring. No one cared about my band and no one asked about the carat weight (it’s around .30ctw I think). 

Post # 4
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1517 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I don’t think I would give it a second thought. You are so very lucky that you have family that will help you with your wedding plans. Wear that ring proudly, it is the true symbol of your love and marriage.

Post # 5
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16 posts
Newbee

no your not horrible, besides even if you had an extravagant wedding paid for by someone else it wouldnt change the fact that you couldnt afford a huge engagement ring on your own. that being said, men dont like to upgrade or get a new ring later on, so you need to be clear with him that later on, you want a nicer engagement ring

Post # 6
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878 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

shirl195:  I feel like this depends on the man! My mom got her ring reset and my dad couldn’t care less. A family friend got a new ring after 30 years of marriage. Some men find it insulting, so embrace it

Post # 7
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1154 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Just tell him!  If you want a new/bigger ring just get one, they are only objects so I say go for it if you want one and can afford it! 

Post # 8
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288 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I completely understand what you’re saying. It’s not YOU who thinks your ring isn’t “good enough.” You’re worried OTHER PEOPLE won’t think it’s good enough. I hate that we let other people’s opinions (or potential opinions) cloud our judgement like that but we all do it!

I love the story of how you got your ring with you both understanding that this what you wanted and could afford right now and that someday you’ll get something bigger, better etc. to add on to something already wonderful.

Honestly, no one at my wedding even asked to see my ring so I wouldn’t even worry about it. We brides place more emphasis on the rings than anyone else does and we love being complimented on them. Just be proud of your union and happy on your big day. Everything else is just accessories 🙂

Post # 9
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399 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I wouldn’t worry so much about other people’s opinions, just stick to your original plan and get a fancier ring when you have the money. Yes you will wear it forever, but that means you can also update/change it whenever you want (whereas once the wedding is done it’s too late to change any of those details). The ring is just a symbol of the amazing commitment you are making to your fiance, my MIL has one like that too, which is actually just a plain band, because they were poor when she married my FIL and she’s only looking to upgrade now! Their marriage is still one of the strongest I have ever seen 🙂

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

this is what i’d say to anyone with negative opinions: “fuck you”.

it was what you wanted, right? don’t let anyone make you rethink it.

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