Looking for some opinions

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
8850 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

No, once you start planning around other people it turns into a slippery slope. I’d get married where you want to. Ultimately it’s your wedding. It’d be different if the place they all live is where you’re from and you had connections to it – but if not, you shouldn’t have to get married there just because they live there. If they’re reasonable folks, they’ll understand 🙂

Post # 4
42117 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Is it really impossible for her to travel? I have an aunt who is a quadraplegic and she travels the world.

If it’s really impossible, I would have her skype into the wedding.

As the pp said, you can’t make all your plans around one person. What if someone else can’t get the time off to travel and wants the wedding where they live?

Post # 7
7030 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

In a sense this doesn’t sound too dissimilar to the situation with a very elderly relative, and I’m thinking of my (now deceased) grandmother and my brother’s wedding. Elderly grandmother lived interstate and could not travel for my brother’s wedding. But it would have been crazy to travel to her state, because my brother had only a small connection there, and his fiancee had none. So they had the wedding where they lived, grandma sent her regrets, and some time after the wedding (a few months I think) my brother and his wife made the trip and visited her.

So I suggest you do something similar: have the wedding where it is most convenient. Perhaps your brother can travel without his wife, perhaps he can’t. Either way, visit your brother and his family soon after. As in my brother’s case, it makes no sense to move the wedding for the sake of one guest.

Post # 9
117 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Its sad for a family when one person can not be included because of illness or other reasons, but if it were me, I do not think I would want everyone else to bend over backwards just to include me. Maybe your brother can still come and he can Facetime or skype the ceremony for her… Its a little weird, but that is how my family included me in my nephews 1st bday party and it was really nice for me, because I have memories of that day! There is also a great photo of my sister holding the ipad with my face… Again, a little weird, but I did feel included!

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