Post # 1
So yesterday while being bored and casually browsing through a few photography websites, my FI notcied and told me that there was no need to look at photographers. At first I thought he was just saying this because our wedding is at least 2 years away. So I told him that I was just looking to get an idea of what to expect for prices and to see if there was anyone who stood out to me. But apparently, that wasn’t why he told me not to look. Apparently his father has already taken it upon himself to ask FI’s uncle to be our photographer.
Now don’t get me wrong, FI’s uncle is an amazing photographer. He can take a picture that looks like a freaking painting. But he would also be flying in for our wedding, and so I’m not so sure I’d want him working while there and not being able to actually enjoy our wedding. FI said he told his dad this, but his dad said not to worry because he already asked and got his uncle to agree to be our photographer. All without asking either one of us if it was ok. I don’t know if I should be happy because he’s so enthused about our wedding, or to be pissed that he asked FI’s uncle to do this without either one of our’s consent. Luckily the wedding will be a few thousand miles away, so he can’t pull anything else like this hopefully. But sheesh, we just got engaged less than a week ago and he’s already taking things by the helm. So yep, FI has a dadzilla it seems. Any other bees have a dadzilla or FFILzilla?
Post # 3
That would annoy me. I don’t mind suggestions, but not booking it and not talking to you first. If it were me, I’d have your FI talk to FFIL and say that you’d like to make the final decision on everything, especially the major things! If you end up having him photograph, that’s fine, but I would want to make that decision.
Post # 4
@pmerr: This. Hopefully he’s just so excited that he didn’t think anything of it, but make sure to take back the reins early on to avoid problems.
Post # 5
Yes, I do! My dad has turned out to be the dadzilla. A TOTAL shock to all of us. I mean, he’s like this huge Viking type of man who works as a psychiatrist – level headed is his middle name! However, since we told my parents that we were getting married in Sweden (where they live), not Canada – he has become all wedding gung ho. Like arranging food tastings, dealing with the caterer, wanting me to send him spread sheets… It’s very sweet, and I love him for it (most of the time), but I can’t let go of the feeling that aliens have abducted my real father. 🙂
Post # 6
From what you said, it seems a little early to add the “-zilla” for Dad. Maybe he’s had the idea for a long time so he’s attached to it. It hasn’t happened yet, and in a way he’s removed a major expense/stress for you. Sounds like you’re still early enough in planning that if it is still important to you in a few months, maybe you can bring it up again.
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2014 - UK
My Dad showed a brief spark of enthusiasm when he thought I might have it at his local Rugby Club (because he’d get it free, because he’s close friends with the Chairman), but when that idea got shot down, he lost all interest. Which is fair enough, Mum says he was the same with their own wedding!
Post # 8
@pmerr: Well, I didn’t even know he had decided to book our photographer for us already. He mentioned it when we were at their house, right before they took us out for dinner. But somewhere between then and yesterday, I guess it became a done deal in his eyes. My FI is annoyed by his actions and in his mind since the wedding is a ways away, I think he’s hoping that his uncle will back out and/or his dad will calm down. Ultimately, I’m fine with his uncle being our photographer because he’s a great photographer. The only thing is, I’m not sure I want him to be taking pictures all night when he’s supposed to be enjoying himself. Or to miss a certain shot because he’s trying to balance being a guest and a vendor. That’s my only problem with it.