Looong engagement – planning timeline?

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 2
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878 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Cupcakenurse:  I also plan to get married in 2016 (tho I want a long engagement and It works with my medical school schedule) I picked what caterer I want (they have a taco bar, I literally only want a taco bar and I would die happy lol) other than that I’m mostly just idea gathering! If you are decisive why not book?

Post # 3
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594 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - Nazareth Hall

I would say book your venue asap, there are some venues we looked at 1 1/2 years out (May 2013) that were already booked into 2015. Asking the bridal party can be done now or later, dress shopping I would hold off on until the year mark (styles and trends change), booking a photographer and videographer you’ll want to do about a year out, or a year and a half out. For right now, I would suggest focus on being engaged, tour venues, go to bridal shows, get an idea of an overall style idea. Since I got engaged in March of 2013 I think I changed my mind 4 times on what I wanted haha. I don’t want to assume you are young, therefore having a long engagement but in the chance that you and you FI don’t have a place to live together I would maybe work on that? I don’t know your situation and if your culture/religion/parents approve of living together before marriage but I know searching, purchasing and remodeling our home took up a lot of downtime and was a way to focus some energy instead of going crazy wedding planning. 

 

Enjoy this time, and welcome to the bee 🙂

Post # 5
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123 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Cupcakenurse:  Do you live my life ??? I read your last comment and it felt like you described it in details, even the age(s):D (except for the moving out part, I think we’ll stay at the current place). I’d follow that thread as we’re also planning on a long engagement 😛

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 7 months ago by  cinderella2.
Post # 6
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1275 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I had a 2 year and 9 month engagement!  Haha.  It’s not so bad!  I feel like the time is flying, but I’m almost to the finish line now I guess.

One piece of advice: I asked my bridesmaids about 14-15 months before the wedding.  Don’t do that.  I still love these girls but since graduating college we aren’t quite as close as we used to be and I feel like I’m bothering them with wedding stuff =/

And yeah, start touring venues.  Figure out your budget.

Post # 7
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1891 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I will have a 2 year and 3 month long engagement. Surprisingly, time has flown by! We are only 4 months out. All that is left is the suits and bridesmaid dresses. Soooo much changed along the way. I was able to book many things way out. I would suggest that you think really carefully about your decisions and take your time. I changed my mind on everything from the venue to my bridesmaids. The best part about a long engagement is that you will be able to make your wedding vision a reality without the stress of time constraints. Best of luck to you!

Post # 8
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767 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Cupcakenurse:  We booked everything pretty much as soon as we got engaged and we had almost the same wait time as you. Now we are sittin back and relaxing/waiting and only taking care of the little stuff. 

Post # 9
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3201 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

My FI and I initially started off at Oct 2016…and then bumped it up to Feb 2016…and then finally bumped it up to Oct 2015. We were having a really, really hard time getting any vendors to take our reuqests seriously or even agree to talk figures with us. I even had one venue tell me they simply couldn’t book us yet because our timeline was filled with “too much uncertainty.” Talk about frustrating.

Well, when we started looking around we had a twenty month long engagement. The very first thing I booked was the venue, because, to me, that is really where I could base everything off of. After we had a date in mind and a venue, I asked my bridal party if they wanted to be apart of our special day. Right now I am still trying to find a caterer and am booking our photographer in the upcoming week. I bought my dress ridiculously early, but am so happy with it!

My suggestion would be to try to get most of the “big ticket” items out of the way as quickly as possible: venue, caterer, photographer, rental company if needed. After that, things like DJ, dress, accessories, etc. are things you can select closer to your wedding (within fifteen to twelve months out). Anything to do with the details I would try to wait until closer to the wedding unless you know FOR SURE what elements and style you want at your wedding. I have already changed my color scheme like three times, but have stuck to an overall “theme.” I also booked our room block at the hotel because I was super paranoid it would compeltely fill up–and luckily I did! The woman I spoke with said that those rooms fill up a year out.

Congrats and good luck!

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