(Closed) Lopsided wedding

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

This Really sucks. I am actually or used to be close to my mother and she is also being so unsupportive of my upcoming wedding. I think because you have a bad relationship with your Mom you may feel differently, in your situation I wouldnt inivite them, if they are making no effort and are indifferent then they dont need to be there, this day is about you and your soon to be husband having people who love and support you coming together to celebrate your love. That doesn`t sound like these family members.

Good luck!

Post # 4
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

my first thought when i read your post… screw them (sorry i have no filter today)

surround yourself and take joy from the people who are happy for you and love you enough to treat you as an adult and with respect.  the rest, well let them be miserable and they will find themselves alone and miserable in years to come – its not your fault they cant share in your happiness because of their own hangups

Post # 5
812 posts
Busy bee

I’m so sorry that you’re having such a time of it. I could really hear the frustration and upset in your post. Gotta say I agree with @eloping screw them – it’s your day and their loss.

Post # 6
6893 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’ve gotta agree with @eloping.  People that don’t bring joy need not attend. Some people are just bitter and ridiculous.

Your mother sounds like a brat and it doesn’t REALLY sound as if there’s much relationship there to bother with, at least not at this point. I wouldn’t get yourself worked up over it. If they don’t attend, they missed out on a lovely, loving wedding and can enjoy whatever they find more important on that day (or not, lol). YOU GUYS will be enjoying your wedding. 🙂

I mean you still have your Dad and his side, he sounds like he’s being supportive and helpful.

Also, FI’s mother’s family is a bit like this. They’re upset that we won’t postpone our wedding because his mother got herself in an, erm, situation we shall call it. We basically told them…come if you want, or don’t.

Post # 8
6893 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

If she isn’t coming then that solves that issue, right? Step-Mom sounds awesome. Yay! 🙂

Also, I agree with you that even if she does decide to show, that she doesn’t deserve to pretend she’s Mom of the Year at your wedding. That’s just insane.

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