- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
ok. so i wrote a like crazy post about my sister & how mad I was at her. but I never said anything to her. I smiled kissed, hugged, congratulated, and all that jazz when she got engaged (1 week after me & is having her wedding before me…which it was really close–but she ended up moving hers closer cause her fiance didnt want to wait & i pushed mine back bc i wanted a fall theme.) anyway. ive been like ultra snowed in (that means every body else in the world can get out but me bc I forgot to get new tires before the winter so my tires are soo bald they slide on dry road…) ok so my sister comes over & says lets have a girls day and we’ll all go wedding shopping! so all my sisters load up & off to the mall we go (: I’m thinking why this is wonderful. This is going to be a sister bonding moment. We can talk about our weddings, share ideas, etc. So its all going well–until we walked into the mall.
so we get there…and first store we’re in she’s like “do you care if we look at shoes?” I was like no thats fine I need to find some for your wedding. So we look at the shoes & I’m like trying things on, pulling shoes here and there. and I notice she’s just looking I’m like…ok? is she going to try on shoes or not? well she looks thro her size of shoes & I guess doesn’t see anything she likes & just heads out the door!! leaves me there in the store. doesnt say a word. I’m like well…i guess we’re goin. same stuff happens at other stores! Im serious! the whole time. She was like I want to look at this “stuff” so i go with her & when she doesnt find something she likes I literally say “hey do you care if we look at this fall stuff its on clearance!” and she stops and looks at me and says. “dont you already have all the centerpieces you need?” I was like “yeah…but that doesnt mean that im done shopping for decorations?” & instead of answering…she walks away! my back is toward this woman & she walks away. so I’m talking away to her…I asked a question. no answer. i turn around and the lady’s walking out the dab blurn door! so i run to catch up with her im like “hey!! I was looking at that stuff!! you coulda told me where you were going instead of leaving me there to talk to myself like some kinda nut.” I said it with a smile like I was kidding no big deal but Im honestly getting mad
she had an apt to get her hair done. while she was getting it done–she asked me to look for shoes for her at a certain store. Well–went there. (after stopping at a few stores along the way with my other sister) by the time I get there she texts me & tells me she’s done. Well I just start looking at the shoes when she gets there. I dont see any I like..so I stay with her until she decides theres nothing she likes. So this store is like a bridal/prom/pageant store. So I was like “do ya care if I look for some dresses for my wedding?” She says sure. So the shoes are in the back of the store. I start looking at the dresses. Not really looking hard–just browsing. Well we get from the back of the store to the front of the store, which is one aisle, she starts going out the door! while I’m rounding the corner. I realize I’m talking to myself again.
ok. so this is rude, correct? The girl kept friggin leaving me in every store!! well I wrote her an email (bc i hardly see her) and basically told her I felt like she didnt care about my engagement and wedding. and i knew it was farther away than hers, but she could at least let me look at stuff for like 5 minutes. I told her it hurt my feelings and I felt like she just didnt want anything to do with with me & SO’s wedding. (ive asked her if she needed help with anything. ive called her & sent her pictures of things i thought would be cute for her wedding. etc.) I didnt even hear from her about wedding stuff til she wanted to go shopping.
she replies with some big long email saying that im so jealous. and that shes sorry her wedding is first but thats just something im going to have to eat. she said “when i asked you to go shopping i said shopping for MY wedding stuff. and I figured since I brought up the idea of shopping, I said MY wedding stuff, and I drove to the mall. you would get the idea that this shopping trip was for ME.” wtf? seriously. all i try to tell this woman is that she hurt my feelings and she goes off on a rampage. then she says “I didnt let you look at anything for your wedding because you never once asked to look at stuff……” really? then at the end she closes with “if you dont think you can find it in yourself to not be selfish for the few hours of my wedding maybe you should reconsider being in the wedding party. because i dont need someone who doesnt support my marriage in my wedding party.”
I NEVER SAID THAT!!! AHHH!! i never said i didnt support her marriage. i never said i wasnt happy for her. but i did say I wanted to look at stuff for my wedding. at almost every store!!! growl!! and I didn’t hear her say go shopping for MY wedding stuff. I just heard wedding stuff. ): ga.
what I dont get is why it matters whos wedding stuff we look at? our themes aren’t even close, the weddings aint even close it’s not like im going to steal her ideas or im worried about her stealing mine. its about sharing ideas so we both can have good weddings. so what does she care to spend some extra time in a store? sorry had to vent. seems to just be ridiculous