Post # 1
I never thought the day would come when I would question whether my best friend of 10 years was going to be in my wedding or not. Sadly here I am.
My best friend is a wonderful, sweet, intelligent woman who is just a little bit behind on the growing up part of life. She is super non committal. Long story short, we are in two very different places in our lives in regards to school, work and relationships. I dont always approve of the way she lives and she feels the same about my tied-down, fiance-revolving world. She feels like he controls me, he is just my best friend and I will always ask for his advice on everything.
Anyway we are at a cross roads right now. After a recent tiff we have reached a point where we need to decide if we have grown up and apart or if we are going to hold on to this friendship. I am not worried about filling her spot in the wedding, but I am so sad when I think about the hole there will be if my best friend is not next to me on my very special day.
Just a very bummed bee. Any similar experiences out there?
Post # 3
I just wanted to give you a big *HUG*! While I didn’t have this happen with my best friend/MOH, I have had this happen to me with other friends in my life. It’s never easy to feel like you’re at that crossroads with a friend. Best of luck to you!
Post # 4
What does fiance-revolving world mean? How are your lives different?
Maybe you both need to realize that you are different people, but that you can still be friends. Sometimes the friendships you’ve had for years and years end, but sometimes you realize that despite the surface differences, you and your old friends know each other better than anyone…My maid of honor is one such friend. She and I have known each other FOREVER — like since I was 1 and she was 2. There was a time, during the end of high school and when I was in college, that I thought she and I would drift apart. When I came home to visit I wouldn’t even see her, and I just kind of…figured it was natural. But in the past five years or so we’ve gotten closer and closer. She is like my sister. We can like different things and have different lives, but we are there for each other.
Eh, my point is it can go either way.
Post # 5
Aw I’m so sorry that you two have come to this realization. We always hope that we’ll be friends forever with our best friend, but like you said, you just grow apart!! I had a best friend of 10 or so years, and not long ago, she wasn’t there for me when my aunt was on her deathbed in the hospital (thank God my aunt is okay now!). She never checked on me, called me, got in contact with me to find out if my aunt, who is like a second mother to me, is okay. So! I stopped being friends with her! I tried to reconcile not long after but she just blamed me the entire time and never even apologized for not being there for me. It was sad because I always imagined her as my Maid/Matron of Honor but she’s not even in my life anymore.
Then I met my other best friend about 4 years ago. I asked her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. She got engaged a few months after me and it showed me the type of person she really was-stealing all of my ideas, she even had the same ring as me (I have a swirl ring, very unique), she never asked me how I was, constantly talked about herself, and put everything I said down. In the end, I had to discontinue our friendship and I am MUCH happier for it! Now my cousin is my Maid/Matron of Honor and I’m happy!!
Post # 6
@pengoala: Aww thank you girl 🙂
@peachacid: It just means that my life with my future husband revolves around us. Our decisions, our money, our life. She is still single and I dont think she gets it.
@MeeshelleMyBelle: Im sorry you went through that. Im glad your happy now! We will just have to see how it goes with us I guess.