Post # 1
My FI has a job currently, he’s held it for the last 5 years, but he hates it. He went back to school to get a certificate in CADD. He did phenomenally, graduated top of his class, perfect attendance, student ambassador, top marks, everything. He loved it and could hardly wait to start working. He graduated in January. He has been applying everywhere and hasnt found a single thing, no interviews, nothing. Meanwhile, other students who he said never truly applied themselves, behaved poorly, did not respect the field, etc. all got jobs.
I feel hopeless and that he’s never going to move on from his current job. I know he has been trying so hard to find a new job in CADD but he has not had any luck. I’m at a loss. If he doesn’t get a new job, we’ll never be able to move out or move on with our lives, let alone save for our wedding. It’s just not going to happen. And he is going to be miserable for the rest of his life. I don’t know what to do.
Post # 3
This is so hard. My husband is going through the same thing and it makes me so sick to watch him go to work every day hating everything about it. He is such a hard worker and deserves to get hired but no one will. It’s driving me crazy. He’s trying so hard to just be okay with where he is but he hates it so much.
Good luck to you and your fiance, I know it’s hard.
Post # 4
@Omgbunnies: It’ll happen. January isn’t that long ago. My sister has a masters degree and hasn’t got anything in her field… and it’s been a year and a half.
Is there anyone he can show his resume to? Maybe there’s something on there that is turning prospective employers off and another set of eyes could help. A lot of people get jobs through contacts.. so keep that in mind.
I think he just needs to keep plugging away. This is obviously frustrating, but it’s not going to be forever.
Post # 5
@Birdee106: it helps knowing we’re not the only ones, but it sucks for you two as well. Stupid economy! I wish we could pick up and move but I don’t know where we’d have any better luck for his field.
Post # 6
Ok, deep breath………do you really truly believe that you both will be in the EXACT SAME SPOT YOU ARE IN RIGHT THIS SECOND when you are both 80 years old?? Really????????
I dunno where you live, but our local economy here is still so bad that people regularly take about a year to find a job. That seems pretty reasonable to me right now. And…crappy people take crappy pay. THATS probably why those guys are getting hired…..they’ll take less money.
The economy is still kind of crap. But if he WANTS it, it will eventually happen. The only way you guys will stay put is if he doesn’t try. If he’s trying, it’ll happen when it’s meant to happen. Hang in there.
Post # 7
@Ivelanded: 🙂 no i guess not forever… That company will tank itself soon I’m sure. But i see what you’re saying. He is definitely trying. I’m just the kind of person who expects results fast and worries too much.
Post # 8
@Omgbunnies: You sound so much like me! It KILLS me to watch FI sitting in a job he doesn’t like. I actually had to tell him once that I couldn’t hear about his job search anymore because it was giving me horrible, horrible anxiety!
Something I’ve learned that helps him a lot is to listen when he needs to vent (I am working on this I swear) but more importantly I am the sunny sally to his disappointment dan. I make sure to tell him that I think he’s unbelievable talented and how much I admire him for putting himself out there, and whenever he gets mopey or extra stressed out it’s my job to cheer him up. So far it’s working for us but man oh man I know how you feel. Watching someone you love be miserable every day? Not fun.
Whatever you do don’t bring up the money thing to him (NOT that you ever would), the poor guy is probably so stressed.
Post # 9
@BrideAliBean: it sure is tough being sunny sally though isnt it? i will try garder though. I’ll make sure to tell him how talented I think he is. And I definitely never would bring up the money issue, thats just my own vent for the safety of the bee lol. Thanks 🙂