Post # 1
Our little girl has her first wiggly tooth. Truthfully, she is kind of a softy with pain because she gets herself all hyped up often times over nothing. That being said, our first wiggly tooth very quickly went from being exciting to her being really freaked out by the soreness. To the point where she has been saying it hurts too much to eat (even soft foods, even cold things to soothe). Not as an attention ploy either. She has willlingly given up dessert two nights in a row because she didn’t want to eat.
I had a talk with her telling her that it hurts, but that it is supposed to feel that way: it hurting does not mean that anthing it wrong. She seemed to absorb it for the moment but MAN this little girl gets herself riled up in her head about things.
So… my tough love advice for myself would be to tell her that if it hurts too much to eat it then it is time for the tooth to get pulled out and just hold her down and do it.
But I don’t want to traumatize her. She has plenty more teeth to lose in her life, and life I said she is not the “toughest.” Eventually the thing will fall out on its own.
Anyone experience similar with their children? I am concerned because I want to make sure she is EATING. We still possibly have a week to go of this.
Thank you thank you than you ladies. You guys always have clever ideas.
Post # 2
Are you serious that you would hold her down and pull it out? If my ex’s gitlfriend/wife did that, I would never allow my child over there again.
Take her to the dentist and let them try to work it out.
She will eat if she’s hungry. She isn’t going to starve to death.
Post # 3
freshflowers: To my recollection, wiggly teeth didn’t hurt..the only one of mine that hurt was the one that there was a problem with (which was actually my first) my new tooth came up behind the baby tooth so it didn’t get wiggly enough to come out on it’s own and I did have to have it pulled (which was traumatizing and instilled a fear of dental needles in me that lasts to this day…26 years later). Please, do not hold her down and pull her tooth, it will fall out when it’s ready. I would take a look and see if you can see the new tooth at all – if you can see it behind/in front of the baby tooth, she should go to the dentist.
I would also clarify with her – does it HURT or does it feel weird. Sometimes kids don’t know the right word so they say sensations they don’t like ‘hurt’. Eating with a wiggly tooth can cause a weird sensation but it shouldn’t HURT.
Post # 4
The tooth will fall out on its own. I hate pain too. Just don’t feed into the fear and let her know “you’re ok. it will fall out. if you want it out, eat an apple then the pain will stop.”
That’s it. There are no tricks to this. Just don’t feed into her fear.
Post # 5
freshflowers: Give her soups, smoothies, and soft foods. Don’t traumatise her.
Post # 6
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freshflowers: I had to have 6 of my baby teeth pulled out by the dentist because they wouldn’t fall out on their own. If you’re worried about it then instead of holding her down and ripping it out of her mouth, why don’t you make an appointment with the dentist to make sure it can actually come out on their own? In the meantime there is nothing wrong with suggesting that she wiggle it to help it fall out faster.
Post # 7
Of course it can hurt, as the roots that have dissolved /resorbed have sharp edges and can cause needle like sensations with any pressure. It can also hurt if she has gotten any food stuck under the loose part of it, and again, when biting into or down on something it will hurt.
Please don’t try and pull it out yourself. You’ll traumatize her, especially since it is already hurting her. It will come out when its ready to come out, and you’ll have to put up with her whining for awhile, sorry to say. Make her some milkshakes in the meantime!
Post # 8
mtbikelover: Lol, the way I wrote that sounds way more intense than I meant it to. I just meant telling her that it is time for it to come out and having one of us pull it out for her.
Post # 9
Pulling it out will not tramatize her. One of my very first teeth to fall out was because my adult cousin asked if she could take a look at it. I said “okay but don’t pull it out” and she said sure and then wiggled it a little before pulling it out. I was, and am, totally fine and actually love all things oral health related and going to the dentist. When she finds out that she gets something from the tooth fairy afterwards she wont think of it as a negative experience. Also like PP have said, she wont starve to death. I would encourage her to wiggle it lose (you will be able to tell if it actually hurts or just feels funny by her expression when she does this) and maybe get some books to read to her about losing teeth and the tooth fairy. Get her excited about it and get her to pull it out on her own (kids never complain if it was their idea).
Post # 10
I would just leave her alone. Very few children have ever intentionally starved themselves to death by refusing to eat. Have soft foods available. Her tooth will eventually come out.