Post # 1
I’m losing interest in wedding planning. Being mid -forty something and SO hitting 50 it’s like why bother. I buy all the magazines , go to wedding shows and look at the whole industry that cater to only 20 something brides to be.
It’s like I should be ashamed to even be planning anything when I’m at this age. First time around for me and second time for SO, we both are just feeling it’s too much headache. I want to have the bridal/ wedding experience but dont care anymore and feeling I am just too damn old.
Not sure if gong to JP is the best option and go home, crack a bottle of wine and call it a day
Post # 3
@diamondsforevershine: IMHO small weddings without the predictible hoopla are classy and memorable.
What things ARE important to you in the “bridal experience?” A dress? A pretty venue? You don’t have to go to weddings shows and do all of that time eating stuff like tastings and etc. Just figure out who you really want there, pick the venue, buy a dress, find an officiant–and tell your guests when to show up.
Book a restaurant for the reception and let the pros handle it–it’s not something that you have to invest yourself in every little detail. So not worth it, you are onto the truth.
Post # 4
Why do you need to go to expos / or read the mags? I planned my entire wedding without any interest in these things.
Focus on yourselves, not on the industry.
Post # 5
@diamondsforevershine: awww hun..HUGZ. I seriously don’t bother with expos BUT love the magazines full of ideas. Age is no barrier at all unless you make it one. You have the wedding you want no matter what you do,despite your age. You deserve it. Don’t concentrate on all the details, just remember you are marrying your man, and he loves YOU.
Post # 6
You ladies are all correct. I really just wanted to have the bridal experience that quickly lost its appeal by the heavy industry focus mainly for younger gals half my age . SO and I want simple. He refuses to do JP cuz he thinks I deserve the experience of a ceremony wedding. I see us doing a destination at this point. Just us n immediate famz
Post # 7
@diamondsforevershine: I agree with him. You DO deserve a bridal experience…YOURS.
Step away from the planning for a bit. Refocus. Clarify your top 3 priorities, not any industry.
i’ll be 36 when I marry for the first time. I am soooo grateful I am an older bride. It’s perfect for me. And it will be for you, too.
Post # 8
I am your age… and I felt the same way for a very long time. I didn’t feel like having a wedding but so many of my friends were so excited that I am getting married – and were dying to come to the wedding. I also knew it was important to my parents. And FI wanted it too. So I slugged through it all very reluctantly… but no mags or wedding shows… just the books and common sense.
Now that the wedding is approaching… I’m gettin more excited. Your wedding is quite a ways away… you don’t really have to do anything now. You may get more excited as it gets closer.
Post # 9
I’m 37, he’s 29. He wants whatever will make me happy and I’m completely sick of ruffles, frills, pink….. wedding crap! Honestly, with my deep love of punk I try to go off main stream for wedding inspiration like this pic
Remember, the two men who started butthole surfers are 55. They rocked a concert last year so completely I was too tired for the encore. These guys ROCK!
Mick Jagger? That man is 69! He could probably teach the kids a bit about how to rock.
Mick Jones from The Clash? He’s 55 and this is still to this day my favorite band ever.
Lady, the 30’s have been my favorite time of life. One of the most rockin’est women I know is 41 and she says that is awesome.
Don’t get discouraged by this wedding is for the young. The two of you have more life wisdom than they will ever have. The two of you will have a fantastic wedding, it will be yours and you should enjoy it. You deserve this! Make it yours, you’re age makes you more amazing.
Post # 10
If you’re not feeling the vibe of a “classic” wedding, maybe you and your fiance should think about doing a quick religious or nonreligious ceremony with immediate family members and close friends present–or just the two of you!
Post # 11
@diamondsforevershine: I recently went to my neighbour’s wedding. It was the second time for both of them. Her son is 23 years old and he has 2 older children. So well into their 40’s.
She looked stunningly beautiful in an ivory floor length gown, simple, fitted with no train and some beautiful flowers in her hair. They had the works, their children were the groomsmen/bridesmaids, they had flowers, a great cake, first dance etc. etc.
It was very sophicated and elegant. Have your day, you deserve it.
Also I am 56 and will be wearing a strapless red dress for my daughter’s wedding in 25 days time You need to own it and rock it.
Post # 12
Im so sorry to hear that you are getting disheartened. I have one piece of advice for you…DONT!!!!! Reguardless of age, you absolutley have the right to have a bridal experience! Try to remember that there is no set “experience” that you have to have. If you arent feeling the bridal shows then dont do them, rather focus on whats important to you!
Post # 13
@Aussiemum: Love the idea of a red dress!!! 🙂
Post # 14
I’m 44 and just got married. I wanted somehting more than the jp but less than a full on wedding. We ended up getting married in San Antonio as a part of a surprise family reunion for my mom’s 70th birthday. We got married in a hotel, had flowers, cake & punch. It was small (18 people total) and nice.
It’s your wedding, do what YOU want. If you want the full on experience go for it and to hell with the wedding industry!
@jilleeann: I was a part of the Dallas punk scene, deep ellum in the 80’s. My husband and I met outside the Twilight Room/Circle A in 1985 and that’s where he proposed. He had a radio show on KNON but you’re probably to young to know it. We also run a small record label putting out punk & metal bands, which he’s been doing since 1987….cool to see a fellow punker here
Post # 15
@diamondsforevershine: That’s weird. I am 49 and have never been treated that way throughout the whole wedding planning process. If anything, I get the feeling that people are less likely to try and mislead me than a younger bride. I don’t know where you are from but maybe it is the area?
Post # 16
I think a lot of people – even the young-uns in their 20s – experience wedding planning fatigue after being bombarded with so many images that have been Photoshopped, cinched, plucked, and crinkled into THE PERFECT WEDDING FILL-IN-THE-BLANK. It can be disheartening when you’re initially SO excited and then for whatever reason – age, budget, family issues – your bubble gets burst and you get that sinking feeling that you’re not going to get to have the “perfect” wedding. There are lots of solutions that involve refocusing your thinking – but my main point is that you’re not alone.