(Closed) Losing My Waiting-Bee Mind

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
451 posts
Helper bee

I’m confused.  You proposed, he said yes, but he’s making you wait to get your ring just because?  Even though you are already engaged?  Why does he want to do that?  Why does it matter to him that you wait if you are already engaged?  Does that have something to do with not wanting it to go public yet, maybe? 

I don’t want to get you upset, because it’s exciting!  And I know it can be tough, too!  I’d want to see the ring!!!  But I’m still confused.  

Post # 4
Member
99 posts
Worker bee

Kudos to you for asking him! That’s awesome. I understand how it’s the norm for the guy to ask the girl so I can see how he would want to wait. Is he worried that people will look down on him for not asking you?

Post # 5
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1404 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@Perfpersnickety:  Firstly congratulations! But sorry, I’m a little confused. Why is he making you wait when you’ve already proposed to him? Does he want to plan his own proposal? And if so, is it because he doesn’t want anyone to know you asked him first?

Post # 6
Member
317 posts
Helper bee

I totally understand where you are coming from. I have to be in control of everything as well. My FFI is usually agreeable to letting me do my own thing except on this issue, he wants the proposal to be a surprise. We had the ring custom designed together and it should be ready in 2 weeks, but other than that all I know is that it’s coming before the end of the year. As for softening the blow of the surprise factor (I hate surprises), I just dropped an excessive number of hints about the type of proposal I did NOT want then a few preferences about what I would like and he got the picture. I actually got him to respond to one of my hints because he said he had something similar to one of my preferences planned so now all I’m worrying about is how did the ring turn out!

Post # 9
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86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

thats so cute! haha I told my FI that after his accident while I was in the hospital with him that I wanted to propose to him with a mcchicken sandwich but since he had planned an engagement already and was teasing me with it, I didn’t want to ruin it for him. Sounds to me he may be a little traditional since he doesn’t want to announce it til YOU have a ring. Plus maybe his family will ask where your ring is and he doesn’t want people saying/thinking things about not getting you a ring? He wants to marry you, and it also sounds like he might propose to you before the year is up and the last comment he made, honestly I think he knows how anxious you are and he is teasing you with it. 

 

Just relax and let him enjoy this and good news! since you already planned everything out, you two are getting married! and yes post pictures. you two sound adorable 🙂

Post # 10
Member
86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Perfpersnickety:  I am not into knowing either but my FI did the same thing and told me I will know when I know and told my family first and showed them the ring sneakingly before I could say anything. he is very good at planning surprises and keeping them secrets thats for sure. 

Post # 11
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811 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

waiting is HARD but try to be patient, you know it’s coming

I blew it with my fiance, had a huge meltdown and it spoiled things a bit

I wish I had kept my mouth shut

Post # 14
Member
811 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

it all turned out ok because he’s patient and he knows I get emotionally irrational sometimes…but if I can help anyone else avoid making my mistake, I’ll share my story.
Good luck to you!

 

Post # 15
Member
81 posts
Worker bee

@Perfpersnickety:  Did you happen to do it on leap year day aka Sadie Hawkins Day?! Thats the ‘ladies choice’ day and the ladies get to propose haha I teased my SO all day that day that I was going to pop the question at any moment lol

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