(Closed) Losing touch

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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2 posts
Wannabee

Congratulations and so sorry about your miscarriage. This “friend” doesn’t really seem like one and isn’t being supportive of you. Maybe your fiancé is right, because this is your day about you and your fiancé and the people who love you! Maybe she really does miss you though, and is just having problems that don’t necessarily relate to you. If you live nearby, grab a cup of coffee and see what’s up! Maybe she isn’t fit to be your bridesmaid, but maybe she’s just having troubles as I said before! Good luck and congrats on your wedding!

Post # 4
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2105 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

It could be that she’s having fertility problems or had a miscarriage that you didn’t know about, and your pregnancy bothered her.  Or it could be that you’re moving on to a different stage of life and you both are just simply growing apart.  It’s difficult to say since we don’t know her or the entire story here, but I don’t necessarily think (based on what you wrote) that she’s a bad person or bad friend… I think there’s too many variables to come to that conclusion just yet.  If you want to remove her from the wedding, just know that it’ll probably ruin any chance of a friendship you may have.

I don’t understand why you haven’t sat down face to face and had a heartfelt talk with her yet?  If she’s that close of a friend, maybe ask what’s going on?  

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Well, then it pretty much sounds like a case of being at different stages in life and growing apart.  It sucks, but I think we all go through it at some point with some of our friends.  You already know that maitaining a friendship with her will be a little extra work after you move (and probably beforehand as well), so ultimately you’ll have to look within and decide if she’s the type of friend that’s worth it or if it’s best for you to move on with your path and allow the friendship to naturally ebb.  Sorry I don’t have more positive advice, but I think it’s basically “growing pains” and it’s a natural part of life and relationships.  Good luck, and I’m sorry to hear about your miscarriage.  I wish you the best from here on out!

Post # 7
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Helper bee

@julietblueeyes you don’t say if you have made efforts to make plans with her or talk to her. And I get putting your sad news on Facebook, but if you don’t call her to tell her I don’t see how you can be hurt when she doesn’t call after seeing it on Facebook. She was responding in the format in which you told her about it.

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