Post # 1
I don’t get the idea about losing weight specificallfor a wedding. Now before I get some critical responses, here me out. I have had friends and family get married and some have drastically lost weight and others haven’t. Almost every person I have known to have purposely drop weight before the wedding eventually go back to their weight within a month or two. They literally just drop the weight for the wedding and then go back to normal. This seems like a total waste of your effort and time. Don’t get me wrong, I plan to tone up a bit for the wedding, but I realize these are areas I need to work out to be healthier and plan on continuing working out after the wedding.
For example, FI’s sister just got married in October last fall and got engaged in the December before. She lost about 50-60 pounds in that time. When we saw them for Christmas two months later she even mentioned that the work she put in was just for the wedding.
Women shouldn’t have to feel like they have to lose a significant amount of weight. I’ve seen friends just kill themselves for months striving for that weight and they are miserable. Why are we adding stress to ourselves at this already stressful time. If an impending wedding gives you the boost that you need to make a permanent lifestyle change, great! But I find it hard to watch when women and men for that fact work just for the wedding?
I would love to hear what you guys think, agree or not! 🙂
Post # 3
@Fmjxn: people dont want to change their lifestyles of overeating. “working their butts off” means being a normal person for a few months and being healthy. there isn’t a lot of incentive anymore b/c it’s so easy to be a “healthy overweight” person with modern medicine.
Post # 4
Well I think most (if not all) brides intend on the wedding to be their “motivator” for making permanent life changes… and then the wedding is over and the pressure is off. I agree with you, there is no point to lose weight for the wedding and then gain it back soon after, but I don’t believe anyone does it on purpose. You know we all drown ourselves in pictures of beautiful brides in magazines or on pinterest and in our minds, we are comparing ourselves to each and every one of them. And you’re right that we shouldn’t stress ourselves out about looking “perfect” when we should just look like ourselves.
Post # 5
@Fmjxn: I think it is perfectly understandable that a wedding can motivate a woman to lose some weight. There is no other occasion in our whole lives when we will be in so many pictures.
I don’t think it is any different from any other reason that people choose to lose weight. For the vast majority of people, weight loss is temporary, but you just never know when it might be the impetus for permanent change.
I have lost weight many times over the years, but never kept it off until about 5 years ago when I decided to do it for me- to be healthy and just to feel better about myself. I lost 110 pounds with Weight Watchers and have kept it off.
In an ideal world there wouldn’t be the pressure for brides to lose weight. But in an ideal world, we wouldn’t be overweight either.
Post # 6
I’ve always thought it was silly to work hard and lose weight for just one day. I totally get wanting to look and feel your best for your wedding, but why wouldn’t you want to continue that as a way of life. To me, if I had lost weight for my wedding, then gained it all back, I think that’d make me more depressed. To see my wedding pictures and to think that I had that for just one fleeting moment and was never able to keep it up. I just wanted to look like me for the wedding, nothing changed.
Post # 7
I have been trying to get down to my healthy weight (-20#) for months before the ring and I am still working towards that goal. I would certainly say that I am doing it for the wedding, but I would be so disappointed in myself if I put it all back on.
I want to feel beautiful and sexy on my wedding day and honeymoon, and I don’t feel that way when I am 20# overweight.
Post # 8
@Fmjxn: I agree with you about women (and men!) putting themselves through something that really is only for one day. People who are at your wedding love you for YOU, no matter what your size. Are you going to look back at your photos and think “damn, I looked so healthy, I wish I could still be that way…” I would think, yes you would. Maybe that’s just me.
I’ve been steadily losing weight for about a year pre-engagement. I knew I was getting heavy and unhealthy, and knew I needed to seriously think about what implications this would have in my future. I would like to potentially lose those “last 10lbs”, but quite honestly, I am happy with toning up instead, and would be content with the weight I am now on my wedding day.
Losing weight for vanity’s sake, no matter what the occasion, is unlikely to stick around long term. Developing healthy, sustainable habits to ensure your body will keep up with you, extending your life, and the life of your now (or potential) family, is something I condone 100%. I’m not saying anyone has to be a particular size, height, BMI, whatever; but everything in moderation will ensure your body gets the proper nutrients to function to the best of it’s ability.
Post # 9
I’ll definitely be losing some vanity pounds (less than 10) that I’ll probably gain back afterwards just to make sure the pictures look good. Even though I’m small, I get some double chin or chunky arm pictures sometimes if I’m not careful. It’s worth it for me to lose just a little extra for the sake of pictures, but I won’t be killing myself at the gym for it. I’ll probably cut out something from my diet a few weeks before the wedding and just go to the gym like normal. But losing 50 pounds JUST for a wedding ….? That’s crazy sauce
Post # 10
Oops just realized I posted this in the wrong place! Can anyone tell me how to move it over to the wedding related area?
Post # 11
The key thing is whether you are losing weight to look good at the wedding, or using the wedding as motivation for a long term lifestyle change you want to make for yourself.
Post # 12
- Wedding: November 2014 - Mauritius
I have been samll and I;ve been big. I lost a lot of weight last year, than put it pack on. I now have my wedding as a goal and hope to get to my ideal weight by then and keep it off. I want it to be a lifestyle change but the wedding is just the motivation.
Post # 13
I agree that people should be putting less stress on themselves to look as perfect as possible on their wedding day. Wedding planning is a stressful enough time as it is.
That being said, I agree with PPs that most people who lose weight for the wedding, intend to keep it off, but that rarely happens. I think part of the reason for this is because people want to lose as much weight as possible by their wedding date, so they make unsustainable changes to their life that they don’t keep up after the wedding. I think people would be far better off using the wedding to make sustainable lifestyle changes and accepting whatever weight loss there is at the time of the wedding rathar than trying to meet a specific goal by the wedding day by using unsustainable lifestyle changes. You may not lose as much weight by wedding day this way, but you’re far more likely to keep it off long term.
Post # 14
@Fmjxn: I’ve made a permanent lifestyle change, partially motivated by my wedding. But honestly, if there’s one day in your life you want to look great isn’t it your wedding? I don’t want to look at pictures of a fat version of myself for the rest of my life. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with working your butt off before your wedding, even if you scale it back after. Although I agree that yo-yo dieting is unhealthy and it’s better to just make a change and stick with it.
Post # 15
While I cannot gurantee I can keep it off and I’m still working on losing weight. Lost 10lbs and another 10-15 lbs in the next three months…. I have to admit, once I feel comfortable… I gain it all back easily.. not that I did it on purpose..
It just so hard to stay that way when the FI/husband encourage you to eat with him ha ha and constantly remind you to eat. That’s my case. I lost 18lbs in 1.5 months 3 years ago, I kept it off for 6 months and gained it all back due to stress from work + school + pills. I lost 7lbs right the way after I am off pills… I was at 139lbs last summer (that’s my heaviest record …), as of this morning, I’m at 128.8lbs….
Hopefully by mid April, I will be at 116-118lbs (my orignal weight 3 years ago) when I do my engagement photos 🙁
Post # 16
maybe when these girls gain the weight back, because they couldn’t successfully change their habits & lifestyle, their excuse is that they “just lost weight for the wedding”? maybe to feel less embarassed?