Loss Of Sex Drive Before/After Wedding – Anyone Else Have This Experience?

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My DH had this BAD. His stemmed from fear though. For some reason our engagement really changed him, he started worrying more about the future and eating better and really stepped up into the “husbandly” roll. He was SO WORRIED he was going to die before our wedding date for some reason that he would stop and take his pulse if he felt his heart rate go up, and stopped taking risks like riding his motorcycle. Well, that certain “activity” gets your heart going so the entire time all he could think about was dying before we could get married. A mood killer to say the least!!!! Now that the wedding is over he’s okay again, I have no idea what made him so afraid!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I guess it depends on what is going on in your life at the time and how you deal with it.

We’ve been married 7 months and I started a new job a few months ago which sometimes involves a lot of overtime/night work which kills libido. 

Also arguing with DH about certain topics repeatedly also doesn’t help. (such as our TTC timeline, I do not understand his reasoning to continue waiting until the end of the year and as a result I do not respect him for it / get bitter about it / don’t want to be near him until I snap out of it). 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I have noticed that since we started seriously talking about engagement (about a year ago) that our frequency has dropped.  I’m hoping that it’s just wedding jitters mixed with financial stress and being busy with work/kids/life.  Once a week is really just….unsatisfying.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

marie_antoinette:  We were intimate everyday— until the actual wedding planning started.  That, and a couple months before we got engaged he started a new job which requires him to start work @ 4am.  So he’s tires (but doesn’t mind being woken up for fun)– and I was in the throws of planning a wedding in 4.5 months.

So what you’re describing to me sounds exactly what we went through.  

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