Post # 1
I know a lot of other people have gone through this, but wow does it ever suck. I’ve had two friends that I’ve been close with for years, although recently we stopped being as close. I was really excited to ask them to be my bridesmaids and they both seemed so excited about it but now I’m left feeling like crap. BM # 1 decided to step down 3 weeks ago. She was perfectly polite about it and we’re still on good terms, but it really really hurt. Well BM #2 and I just had a talk after she found out BM #1 had dropped out and she tells me that after finding that out, she thinks it would be a good idea for her to drop out as well :(. I know she has a lot of other things going on that would make it hard for her to be a BM and I’m respectful of that, but for her to say that she thinks it’s a good idea to stepdown because someone else did really really hurt my feelings. I don’t know what to do now, my wedding just feels like a mess. I still have 2 BM and my MOH who have all been really supportive so it’s not like I have nobody up there with me, but I hate that I have to feel like this about my wedding 🙁 My FI feels awful and is trying really hard to make me feel better, but I don’t know how. I know it’s a good thing that we’re still on good terms but it’s hard to talk to them knowing they feel that way. How did everyone else who’s gone through this type of situation deal with it?
thanks for listening bees!
Post # 3
*hugs* I haven’t been in that situation *knocks on wood* but, at least you know the people standing with you will truly want to be there. If they don’t want to be BM’s and you want them to be involved in the wedding still maybe they can do a reading or something?
Post # 4
hi, i dont know how to help you, but being a bride to be who lost 2 bridesmaids 2 weeks before the wedding i know how much this really sucks.
at the end of the day – just remember that the party must go on and you’ll have a beautiful wedding full of people who truly love you so dont fret. just stay positive and smile. 10 years down the road, this wont even be one of the things you remember most about your wedding.
Post # 5
agree with redhead. it’s better that they step down now and you can move forward with a more supportive group that really wants to be there. plus, look on the brightside – it’ll be cheaper since you wont have to buy as many bouquets and stuff! 😀
Post # 6
thanks guys, you’re all awesome! I know it’s for the best and eventually that will be more obviously. Just in a sad mood today I guess. But I am glad I have the people who really want to be there with me now 🙂 thanks!
Post # 7
Coming from someone who lost 5 members of our bridal party shortly before our wedding. I’m sorry and know it sucks.
But when that day came I was so glad of the people who were standing there with us and never once thought about those who dropped out of our wedding. I ended up with a MOH, Best Man, 3 BM’s, and 3 GM’s and couldn’t be happier. It was less stress to have less people and the people who were involved were so happy to be a part of our day that it made everything that much more special.