lost 2 "friends" over wedding drama

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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857 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I would cut my losses and move on in regards to both of them, don’t get sucked into the stupid drama and just enjoy your wedding day/honeymoon.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I wouldn’t waste any energy on these so-called friends. Move on and enjoy your wedding.

Post # 5
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111 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Weddings show you who your real friends are.

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Agreed w/ PP. Move on, without them. 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I said i wished she informed me and thanks a lot! i told her she is so classy and friends dont do that to eachother.”

If you talked to *me* that way, especially on social media, I wouldn’t have given you the courtesy of a phone call. She sounds absent-minded.

Post # 8
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Newbee

Wow! Just wow! – you are totally not a bridezilla here.. 

 

Everyone I know will tell you that I am the most understanding and forgiving person that it’s almost a fault.. that being said..

 

I realize people have their own lives and all, but these two just seem to have little care for you, to be honest. They at the very least care about whatever is going on with them to be of greater importance than how this will affect you.

 

I’m insecure too, about a heck of a lot of things, but that would never keep me from letting that overlap onto my friends stress of planning a wedding. Good friends don’t project their insecurities onto you and leave you to deal with it! 

 

Second girl is just inconsiderate! You think if someone likes you enough to invite you to a free dinner and a party that’s VERY important to them, you’d atleast remember the date or write it down! Either she forgot or is totally phibbing because shge wants to be at that camping trip more. Which is fine, I don’t care which you want to be at more, just be straight with me! & don’t make plans if you’re that kind of person!

 

Both sounds like jerks to me, good riddance!

 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

@Lov3xbella:   You said your second friend was single, so I’m gonna give her the benefit of the doubt— a lot of people who have never planned a wedding have NO idea how important final head counts and per-person costs are. She probably wasn’t trying to put you in a “difficult situation,” she was probably just clueless. Even people who have been bridesmaids and maids of honor may be clueless, because the bridal party usually isn’t involved in choosing a caterer, venue, etc. I honestly had no idea how much one extra guest costed or how stressful it was to deal with uninvited plus-ones and no-shows before the Bee. A lot of people don’t know until they are brides themselves. Therefore, I do think you should talk to her and, if that is the case, apologize for blowing up on her. How much does it really cost per person? $100? $150? More? Less? The cost of a meal and place setting. Is that $100 worth losing a friend over? Especially a friend who wasn’t trying to be malicious and sabatoge your wedding, but honestly made a mistake.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@ForeverBirds:  That was the vibe I got: if she truly was snubbing OPs wedding, I *highly doubt* she would have been posting about the camping trip (happening the same weekend) where OP could see it on Facebook. No one is that stupid OR mean. This clearly was an oversight, and it sounds like OP jumped her case immediately.

Post # 11
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Newbee

@ForeverBirds:  Seems like it was less about the extra person and more about the guest making other plans on the same day, Which Lov3xbella suspects is because she (the guest) is not allowed to bring the extra person. Lov3xbella seems to feel like the girl was just saying she was comming, and then not show up. Usually when we have these feelings about people it’s because they have a history of being flakey, which I’m suspecting the guest has considering the OPs suspicions.

 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@badabing88:  I had a friend who changed her eRSVP to no for my shower the day of, and then on FB there was post about she was going to the pool with her current boy toy. Some people are just like that.

 

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@jess08:  …but did you get on Facebook, see it, then phone her up and chew her out? I’m guessing you didn’t. That’s where I think OP made a mistake.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@badabing88:  No, I didn’t. People were talking about it at the shower before her sister showed up. Everyone likes her sister too much to call her out on her behavior. Some of the guys have, but none of the girls.

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