Post # 1
One of my bridesmaids is my cousin’s fiancé, who I only initially asked to be in the wedding because my cousin and I are close, and FI and I were supposed to be in their wedding. Long story short, they split up, and she is out of the country with no return date in sight. The wedding is mid-march, and here I am in almost January, short a bridesmaid!
I’ve been thinking about it for a few months now, but just got the ‘final word’ that she’s not coming back. I have a few options, but none are real close friends or anyone who I would have asked to begin with. There are 7 groomsmen, and I really wanted them to be even.
Would it be better to leave it uneven, or ask someone to join? Getting the dresses in is no problem, but is it unfair to ask someone to be in the wedding with such short notice?
Post # 3
I had an uneven bridal party because DH and I didn’t just want to put people in it just because. I would leave it as is.
Post # 4
@jwill4591: i wouldn’t stress about adding someone. if they weren’t close enough to have been asked at the outset, they shouldn’t be in the bridal party. i don’t really understand the obsession about “even.” i’ve never ever ever seen a bad bridal party picture because of the number of people. bad photographers, yes. ruined because of the number of people in the photo, no. relax and enjoy your day.
Post # 5
I say leave it uneven. Im having an uneven party. One of the guys couldnt make the wedding so we are going to have my MaidOH and MatronOH walk on each arm of the Best man.
Post # 6
I don’t think it’s unfair to ask someone at short notice. 3 months of planning for a bridesmaid is nothing compared to 3 months of final planning for a wedding.
I also totally understand wanting to have an “even” bridal party. I don’t understand picking the bridal party based on how close they are compared to others. My FI and I want a fairly average sized bridal party (three attendants each), and if one of my gals drops out or one of his guys drops out, we have plenty of other friends who are completely worthy of stepping up. If we picked all our like-aged friends who were “worthy” of being in our bridal party, I think we would probably have 10 or 12 people, which overwhelms our 50 guest wedding.