- 3 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
Aghhhh! I’m so annoyed, so please Allow me to rant! My FI has a friend that we hung out with quite a bit when we first started dating. He and his wife were fun, and we loved their two children (daughter 3, son 6mos). Naturally, when we got engaged, we asked him to be a groomsman and his daughter to be a flower girl. After planning our wedding, we decided on a small venue where the max capacity is 130. We decided to not invite children, except for the ones in our wedding party. After letting them know this, his wife wrote a post on fb that said she doesn’t go anywhere without her family of 4 (meaning their infant son wasn’t invited). At that point, instead of making a whole argument over it, we just said “bring the infanT”. I felt that it was really disrespectful for her to put all of that on fb, and there were many other ways they could have addressed that issue. After all of this, I began to notice how negative they are as a couple. The husband is really an Internet troll and constantly posts things to insult people. I normally can just keep scrolling.. But I just couldn’t take it anymore. He put this very long rant about the Catholic Church.. About how all of the “pro church propoganda” things that people were posting were equal to “racism” of all the people the church had turned its back on. I was very insulted as a Catholic who loves the church, and I thought it was beyond ridiculous that he was implying that people like myself are “racist”. So, I responded by saying “I’m not sure as a white man, that you can compare “racism” to someone asking you to sit somewhere else in a church”. He responded by saying that he indeed does know what racism feels like, and have a nice life because I’ve weeded myself out of their life, and he doesn’t want his daughter in “my” wedding. I feel terrible, as these idiots are my FI friends and I feel like I probably should have just ignored it. On another note, I feel like if it wouldn’t have been this, it would have been something else. This man doesn’t speak to his family, constantly posts about how horrible they are.. And is just one of “those” people. There is no making these folks happy. What should I do?!