Post # 1
First time bride at 43/44 and repeat groom. I feel like maybe I shouldn’t have a wedding after all. Everyone expects me to just elope or go to the justice of the peace. I was just starting to get excited about a small wedding but no one is excited with me. My friends are all envolved in their kids and college plans, my daughter is busy with finishing college and my FI has been there done that so his people are not expecting anything. So the only ones left were my parents.
Well, I had been I had dinner at my Mom and Dad’s last night and my Dad said, “just go to Vegas… You’re not rich. Why would you waste all that money.” (I haven’t even set a budget yet so I’m not sure what ALL that money means) When my FI asked if he would attend a desitination wedding my dad said no way in hell. So…now I’m thinking about scraping the wedding idea all together. Elope to an island and make it a wedding moon. Its just makes me kind of sad.
Post # 3
My Aunt(she’s really my cousin) and she, 2 years ago, was a first time bride at 54. She did the whole she-bang! She was going to just get a pantsuit and go to the courthouse, but then her sister pointed out a nice white dress …. and she went from there. She had a nice wedding with the reception at the same place on a golf course with over 100 people. She had a blast, and so did we. She waited so long to get married that it was so much fun to see her be the center of attention for once. She was over the moon the whole week up to it, and the day of.
Doesn’t matter your age, do what makes sense for the two of you, if you want the dress and the wedding and the party… do it!
Post # 4
Aww you deserve a wedding. Some people might disagree but for me my wedding is about just my FI and I. It isn’t about our families and it isn’t about our friends. Yes, we want them there, but the entire event revolves around us. Maybe that sounds selfish, but whatever. This isn’t about anyone else. If you want a wedding then you should have it.
We are having a small wedding. Both my family and my FI’s family wanted us to have a big one. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard, “oh you need to invite this person,” “oh why not just have a big wedding!? A huge celebration!” “why bother having a wedding at all if its going to be so small” etc etc. Well dear family, because that is what we want!!!
Do what makes you happy and don’t stress over the unnecessary and unwanted opinions of others. People will have something to say no matter what you do.
Post # 5
I spoke with my daughter today and she is all about having a wedding. She gets home from school in a week. Hopefully she will be able to relight my desire to start planning.
Thanks for the encouragement.
Post # 6
@BooBooBee: I am 42 and this is my first wedding also. Maybe you could go someplace to have the wedding that is very public and you would get to spend the whole day in your dress and be congratulated by total stangers all day. They would be sure to share your happiness…why wouldn’t they. Maybe a busy beach or downtown area. Sometimes it’s fun to be anonymous and just share with you and your FI. Don’t deprive your self…get your groove back! You’re gettin MARRIED girl!!
Post # 7
@BooBooBee: You deserve to celebrate your day the way you want. Don’t listen to anyone else. It is not about them, it is your day….enjoy the way you want to xox
Post # 8
I don’t give people a chance to be downer. A few people early on asked me if we were having a “wedding.” I replied, of course-why wouldn’t we? I’m so excited!”
Everyone loves to give their 2-cents. I am in planning oblivion. But, I do have my FI to share with, and I selected a MOH that was as excited as me.
Your excitement will feed your daughter’s. You two will have a blast!