Post # 1
This is my first post on weddingbee – I’ve actually been engaged since June 2009…the wedding is set for Oct. 7th, 2010. The wedding planning process itself hasn’t been ’emotional’…but we are now dealing with some somewhat major issues, and I feel completely overwhelmed.
I have lived in NYC for almost 7 years and lived with my FI for about 6, and have moved 5 times within that time – not once, because we actually wanted to move. The first time we were literally kicked out b/c the apt was illegal (a basement studio) – however we were never given this info upon renting it. In the 2nd apt we moved to, the landlady decided to start doing renovations on her home and we were up all hours of the day and night listening to the noise – it was awful. So we had to get out to save our sanity. The third place we lived in together, we ended up just recently moving out b/c prostitutes moved in upstairs (no…really) and again, we were listening to noise constantly. After complaining multiple times and dealing with the mgmt co. extensively, they agreed to help us move to another property that they own. It seemed like a great fit…however, after being there for less than 2 months, we are dealing with an extremely noisy situation again. I’m ready to pull my hair out. I was hoping this engagement period would be somewhat blissful at least, and that we could enjoy being with eachother and having our famililes visit us, etc. At this point, I don’t think we would be able to even have our families over when they come down for our wedding..due to the noise situation. My mother had planned on staying with us. (Both of our family’s are out of state.) And as a side note, we are actually really chill people! We aren’t easily upset, etc…we seem to have the worst luck ever. I don’t get it. It appears we are going to have to move once again….and I’m scared to death. Obviously with our streak of bad luck and the feeling that someone or something wants us out of this darn city, I’m terrified that we will end up in the same situation AGAIN>
At this time, we have booked the church (no fee), the venue for reception (refundable with notice,) my hair and makeup gal, and purchased the dress, jewelry, etc, and have booked our photographer. I’m at a loss as to what to do. We have spoken NICELY several times to our neighbors and asked them to please keep the noise levels down just a bit. We are calling the mgmt company tomorrow. I’m fairly postive after JUST having dealt with the exact same situation, that nothing can be done to change the noise – or nothing WILL be done, I should say. Soooo, I’m contemplating breaking the lease and leaving – going with my FI to stay with my mother in AZ for awhile. Our original plan was to stay in NYC one more year to save up a bit of $$ after the wedding, and then move to the west coast. I feel like we are being nudged (ok..KICKED) to move out sooner than that. I’m not sure I can handle one more move..nor do we have the money to really move again. I don’t have the energy or the sanity to stay though. What would you do? I know this is a broad question – maybe i just needed to vent. You seem like such a supportive community…i just need some reassurance that this will be ok. I’ve considered going to Mom’s, then coming back to NYC for the wedding – we really would love to have it here…but that seems difficult on everyone. Part of me wants to scrap the whole thing and get married at the courthouse and then take a nice vaca…and MOVE! Ok, maybe that’s not realistic…but I’m going nuts here…
Post # 3
I would talk to your management company 1st. Tell them the situation, that your new neighbors are loud. Maybe they’ll work with you… if they were willing to change you out of your other place with them, maybe they have something else with fewer neighbors opening up soon?
Are they extremely loud, like with parties? Or loud enough to wake others up? Cause you can file police reports if they’re loud after 10pm.
Post # 4
Or another thing you could try is if they’re not extremely loud, its just the walls are thin, you could play music at night when you’re sleeping. Point the stereo speakers towards their direction because it’ll help muffle out their noise. Loud enough to drown their noise out, but quiet enough so that you can sleep to it.
Post # 5
Wow, that’s awful! I’m wondering if you and your fiance maybe aren’t looking at the right things when you’re in the market for a new apartment – it’s a little bit of a stretch to imagine that it would be just pure dumb bad luck to keep ending up in unsuitable apartments. I can understand how if budget is the primary factor it could be tempting to just take whatever you can find, but you should be pickier. I don’t think I would have stayed with the same management company after having so much hassle with them in the first place.
That being said, if the only thing keeping you in New York is your wedding, and you could change the wedding location without too much trouble, I would just pack up and move out West. It sounds like you’re itching to leave anyways and if you’d be happier, why not do it now? A wedding in Arizona has to be cheaper than one in NYC!
Post # 6
Thanks for the advice ladies! It’s tough to be picky in this city unfortunately, due to the circumstances we’ve been put in….Because in each situation we’ve had to make a move QUICK. In this city, you can’t start looking too early, only about a month before you need an apt…but sometimes, that’s just not enough time to really look. The apt. we just moved into is on the top floor, in a nice building in a great neighborhood. It was quiet the couple of times we came to view it…and it was quiet the entire day we moved in. Then the drama started! Uggh…so annoying. They play loud music, their child runs constantly through the house, which shakes our entire apt. – the walls are incredibly thin. The child stays up later than we do – he’s maybe 3? We’ve tried to talk to them, but they are not willing to compromise. Our mgmt company did work with us and tried to quiet the neighbors in our previous apt, finally tellng them they would need to leave when their lease was up. However, they had JUST moved in…so their lease wasn’t going to be up until right after our wedding.The laws in NYC favor the tenants. Unfortunately, it’s not necessarily the quiet tenants…it’s ANY tenants. So mgmt can only go so far. The process to have them removed would have been lengthy…we discussed it with mgmt…and we weren’t willing to wait it out..
This whole thing puts my stomach in knots – giving me anxiety attacks, etc. The only thing that’s keeping us here right now is the wedding being here….and the fact that we really didn’t feel financially ready to make a move. But we do have a place to stay with my mom (not IDEAL…but doable), should we need to get out. I’m just so disappointed. This wasn’t the plan! But plans rarely go…as planned I guess!
We will be callng the mgmt company tomorrow and telling them the sitch. Hopefully they’ll have some ideas…or at least be willing to let us out of our lease early. If not, I’m thinking we could find a sublet to fulfill the rest of lease term.