Post # 1
I thought maybe someone here could atleast relate since I’m driving my husband crazy. Over the summer my fingers got bloated and I put my ring in my purse, it was either stolen or somehow fell out. I can’t stop looking everywhere for it on craigslist in pawn shops I’m totally heartbroken and I just can’t let it go.
The diamond came from my grandmothers aunt so the center stone was a european cut round diamond that was almost flawless and .77k. We had it set in a white gold channel band with a cathedral 6 prong setting and nothing else I’ve found has even come close to it. I was so in love with that ring that I never bothered to get it appraised and just said I’d do it someday because even a year later I still looked down at it all the time amazed not just that I had such a beautiful ring on my hand but that I was finally married.
I had no idea until I went back to the jewler and did my own research that I was wearing a $10,000 ring. I feel guilty about the money we lost and how irresponsible it was of me. Really though I’m heartbroken because that was my ring and it could have been a $8 fake walmart ring and I would have loved it just as much. I lost over 200 pounds right before I met my husband and to be honest I never thought I would be a bride or someone’s wife and a month after my wedding my grandmother who practically raised me passed away. That ring had more value to me than anything I’ve ever owned and I can’t explain how heartbroken I am. My poor husband has to listen to me pull up craigslist and ebay ad’s all the time and I know I’m driving him crazy but I can’t let it go. I feel like I’ve finally reached the end and I will never see it again but it hurts just to admit that. Anyway I just needed to vent and maybe have one last chance at sharing my ring with other brides so I put a picture in this post. I guess it’s time to move on but I needed to vent before I could really start to let it be part of the past and not just something thats lost.
Post # 3
@squirel11: I just wanted to say, I’m so sorry. That is horrible. I can understand why you’d be upset and why it would be hard to let go. Maybe it will turn up randomly one day. Not very helpful, I know.
Post # 4
I am so sorry for you. I think for your peace of mind and your health you need to move on and start looking towards your future and now you have had your vent I hope that you can find closure.
I lost my first engagement ring as well and it takes time but it will get better.
Good luck girl 🙂
Post # 5
I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this.
Are you going to replace it with something similar or completely different? Was it insured so you’re at least not out of pocket?
Post # 6
Thanks for the understanding I figured if anyone could understand how I feel it would be other brides.
@lilsweetie: We’ve replaced it for now with a ring that really doesnt look much like it and at first I loved it just because I had a ring on my finger. It’s a nice ring but I’m starting to resent it everytime I look down at it and of course I feel guilty for that but I can’t help it. We kept saying we’d have it insured and appraised when I sent my rings to be sautered together but I never wanted to have to take them off for a week and send them away so no on top of everything we didn’t have insurance to cover it. I know it shouldn’t matter but I miss having a real diamond it just felt so much different. Anyway thanks to everyone for listening.
Post # 7
WHat do you have right now? Do you have any pictures?
I would have a hard time letting it go too 🙁
Hopefully one day it will still turn up.
Post # 8
@lilsweetie: This is the ring I have now it’s CZ and I feel so guilty because I’m honestly starting to the way it looks and my husband tried so hard to pick out something I’d like. I probably would have but this isn’t my ring now… Anyway who knows maybe it will turn up someday?
Post # 9
When we let go of material attachments, strange things happen. Who knows may be it might even find its way back to you. I’ve heard so many women’s stories who finally let go of their beloved rings or other items, and then miraculously those items would turn up in the most unexpected places. A friends found her ring a year later in the garden when she was pulling some weeds while she lost it in the house.. She has no idea how it got there.
The best thing you can do is to make peace with yourself and with the ring. You’ve made a huge effort to look for it and you are expanding even more energy still being attached to the beloved item. I think you will feel much better and your husband will rest easier if you could find some peace with it. Remember how short life is and cherish the moments that you did have with the beautiful ring. Think of the moments you could be cherishing with your loved ones right now 🙂
Post # 10
I would be really torn up too. It understandable.
I once heard diamonds always find our ways to us.
You can always ask your grandmother to help you find it. Be open to that possibility. 🙂
A friend bought her own Tiffany engagement ring. It was a treasure. It was lost. Years later…maybe 10? She was in a pawn shop and saw a ring. Asked if it was Tiffany, size ___, with such and such inside the band. It was. It was her ring. She found it again.
I wish you the same.
Post # 11
I’m so sorry. I love the idea of asking your grandmother to help you 🙂
Post # 12
Oh no, I’m so sorry 🙁
Also, and I can’t get this out of my head: YOU LOST OVER 200LBS?! GEEEEEEEEEZE! Congrats on that. 🙂
Post # 13
@squirel11: By any chance fdid you try pullin the lining out of the purse to look underneath?
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX
@MissNoodles: I second this idea. I just think of Sex and the City when Carrie finds her Carrie necklace under the lining in her purse.
I’m so sorry for this loss! I don’t even officially have my ring yet (bought ring but BF hasn’t proposed) and I already feel so attached to it so I can’t imagine how you must feel. Good luck!
Post # 15
I know you probably already did, but have you ripped the lining out of the purse you put it in before you lost it? The purse could have a small rip in it and the ring might have dropped into it. I hope it turns up for you, it’s a truly gorgeous ring and complimented your hand beautifully, It’s truly amazing how attached we can be to our rings.
*edit* I just noticed this was wrote a while ago, and like one of the other ladies I immediatly thought of Carrie losing her necklace in Paris :O
*second edit* A bit of hope for you, a couple years ago in my town a lady lost her engagement ring over the side of a dock at the beach, an hour later her husband caught a fish, and when they gutted it her ring was inside!
Post # 16
@taliar93: That fish story is crazy!!!!!!!