Post # 1
I’ve seen a few posts about not recieving an invitation and wondering whether you’ve been uninvited to a wedding vs. the invitation being lost in the mail. In my case, I’m pretty sure I’m invited to an upcoming wedding, but my friends have recieved invitations and I haven’t. I’m trying to write an email to the couple to see what’s up, but it’s coming out so awkward! Any suggestions of what to say? The couple has asked me for my address and we’ve talked about how it was too bad that they couldn’t make it to my wedding, but I’m not super close with them so maybe that’s why I don’t know what to say.
Post # 3
Are any of your friends who’ve received invitations close with the couple? Maybe you could have one of them bring it up in passing. If not, hopefully the couple will inquire about your RSVP before too long.
Post # 4
I agree with the last post. It’s hard to wait it out….but if you were invited, you’ll get a call about your missing RSVP. I also think it’s harmless to have your other friends inquire about/mention that you haven’t received an invite. Could it be that they just had to make some last minute cuts? Even if they have had conversations with you about the wedding, maybe they had to make some hard decisions at the last minute. You mentioned that you’re not super-close, right? Either way…hope you get some closure to this situation sometime soon! One more thought is that they might be doing an A-list, B-list kind of thing?? Good luck!
Post # 5
Can you casually ask them if they have chosen invitations?
Post # 6
I would only ask the couple if you received a save the date from them. Otherwise I agree with the suggestion to have a friend inquire in passing, or to just wait until the RSVP deadline passes and they call you.
Post # 7
Maybe call and ask them if they need any help with the plans…like addressing invitations???
Post # 8
i agree with the other posters, they will call you when the rsvp deadlines are coming.
Post # 9
Update: So I mentioned it to a friend, who mentioned it to the couple, who got back to me saying of course I’m invited, BUT, since I wasn’t engaged at the time they made out the invite list a year ago, they can’t invite my husband. Is that normal? I do understand their reasoning having just gotten married myself, and weddings are expensive and all. It just feels weird because I specifically invited them both to my wedding even though I only know one of them…I just thought husbands were pretty much a done deal, and I don’t really like the thought of going to a wedding without him!
Post # 10
Wow, they aren’t including your husband? Everyone knows invite lists change in a year–you may get closer with someone, change jobs, etc. That’s so weird! Are you sure they actually sent you an invite that supposedly got lost?
Post # 11
I think it’s pretty rude of them not to invite your husband because of a year-old list!!
We only gave guests to our friends who were in relationships. A few weeks before we sent out invites, I met the new GF of one of our friends. I made sure to give him a +1 when I sent out the invites!
I’m sure it’s a no-no but maybe you could mention that you’d like to bring your husband and ask if he can come if they get some declines. Otherwise, I just wouldn’t attend. It’s one thing to not invite a BF or even a Fiance, but they really should have invited your husband!!
Post # 12
Oh wow! I thought the rule was if the person is engaged/married/living with someone then you invite them with a guest! Do they know your husband? Maybe they aren’t as close of a friend as you thought and should reconsider going.
Post # 13
It’s pretty much a total faux pas for them not to invite your husband! There’s room for debate about people in relationships, but married folks are a done deal! I guess it’s up to you how to handle it though!
Post # 14
If you are willing to go without your husband, tell them that you would love to come, but please consider inviting him if they get some declines. If not, just RSVP no.
Post # 15
Honestly, I have a feeling you were not really invited, and that now that they were asked, they think one more person is ok, but not 2. I hate to be so blunt, but money was probably tight, and you were probably on the b-list. I would not ask for him to be invited, I would simply decline.
Post # 16
Ummm….they should have just counted on someone ELSE not coming and just added in your husband.
Dude, that’s so rude! You don’t not invite someone’s spouse. I mean, unless it’s a work thing or something. Then I get it, but still don’t agree.
I wouldn’t go. If you aren’t super close…consider it date night for you and your husband. They should be more sensitive.