Post # 1
I recently lost my job as a Leasing Consultant for a large luxury apartment and townhome complex. I have never not had a job. I wake up and have to remind myself not to drive to work. I am freaking out because of the financial situation we are now in. It’s not like we’re going to starve, but six months out from our wedding is not a good time to “change career paths”.
The circumstances in which I lost my job are what bother me the most. I am a workaholic, I get overtime until corporate yells at me and tells me to go home. I come in on my days off, I check my work email at home, I do marketing when I am not even on the clock. I never stop. So when I had someone very dear to me lose their battle with pancreatic cancer, I thought my boss would be just a little understanding. I am also not a very emotional person, and when I am literally bawling at my desk (I received THE CALL at work), I would expect someone to feel even the smallest amount of human sypathy because a life was lost and now the people who loved her are grieving.
I asked for the day off to grieve and she yelled at me. She literally raised her voice and stated she couldn’t stay all day because she had to go to her grandson’s soccer game later. Really? So I stayed and cried the entire day. I answered phones, greeted my potential leasers, talked to current tenants, all while choking back tears.
The next day I called her and told her I NEEDED a day to grieve and that I hoped she understood that I never got to say goodbye. I cannot afford to fly out for the funeral, and on top of that my job wouldn’t allow me the time off. When I came in the next day, I was asked to clean out my desk and leave.
I am so incredibly angry and hurt. I worked my butt off for them and this is how they thank me? Is anyone else recently jobless? Are you freaking out?
Post # 3
@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: *hugs* I am so, so sorry for your loss.
But look on the (small) bright side. You wont be working for a devilish bitch of a boss anymore.
Something will come around. Until then however you’ve got your family, your Fiance and us of course.
*more hugs* Hang in there Honey.
Post # 4
Ummm.. that’s not somehow illegal? That strikes me as not just morally wrong, but seriously illegal!!!
Post # 5
Im sorry that youre going through this. Seriously ridiculous on their part! You sound like youre extremely motivated and you will be on tour feet in no time.
Post # 6
I agree with @Mrs. Puffin: It doesnt seem like they could legaly do that… Well maybe you can atleast get unemployment until you find another job?
Post # 7
@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: Whoa, something seems seriously wrong here that you wouldn’t be granted some sort of bereavement under the circumstances, and considering your work ethic/history and request for *a* day off. Is there an HR department you can speak to? Terminated on what grounds exactly? This just isn’t right. I’m not sure how long its been but perhaps it is worth it to get to the bottom of it now that the heat of the moment has cooled off some.
Geez, I’m so sorry this is happening now. I hope that you can either: a) regroup and call these suckers on their wrongdoing or b) regroup and find another job elsewhere. Sending you blessings.
Post # 8
My heart is breaking for you. I am so, so sorry for your loss, and even more sorry for how you were treated. I really don’t see how firing you was at all justified or legal. Is there a Human Resources department or someone in a superior position to your boss that you can lodge a complaint with? Unfortunately, I have had a similar situation happen to me, however, I had gotten so overwhelmed with the abuse I was receiving that I simply quit.
I wish I could ease your mind, but at the moment, all I can say is that letting you go is a complete loss and detriment to their business, and you are too smart and motivated to work with such a “little” person. Take some time to breathe and have confidence in yourself. Things will look up soon! My thoughts and prayers are with you! All my best, Mrs.ChubbyBunny!
Post # 9
Mr. ChubbyBunny and I checked on the legality of the situation because I was so angry and it turns out that “Bereavement” follows a strick guideline. You may take bereavement leave for the death of immediate family members as follows:
parents, step-parents, siblings, step-siblings, grandparents, children, step-children
The woman I lost was my old roommate’s mother. She was my “mom” at a difficult time in my life (my mom abandoned my brother and I young). She taught me how to be a woman. But because we weren’t blood I was unable to grieve her death.
Also, if they are an Equal Oppotunity Employer they can release you at any time, for any reason, and they aren’t required to give you one when asked.
Because of the circumstances, I am eligible for unemployment and will receive payments starting in about a week. I just hate not working and being a productive member of society.
Thank you for all the support and kind words, it means a lot.
Post # 10
@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: I am so sorry. This literally breaks my heart for you. And I am very sorry for your loss, it is never an easy thing to deal with or hear under normal circumstances, much less trying to hold it together at work all day.
I will totally whoop her if you want me to.
Post # 11
There is a protocal for termination. A documented verbal warning, followed by a documented written warning, is required. The exceptions would be a situation where you were grossly neglectful or did a no-call, no show to work. The good news is, the fact that they terminated you, especially without following protacal means you would qualify for unemployment. File for that immediately, ‘cuz it can take a few weeks. In the meantime get your resume together, and hand it out to all of your former competition.
I am sorry that you lost your job, but I hope that within a few days, you see this as the blessing in disguise that it really is. This will give you extra time to focus on your man, and on your wedding. Plus right now, the sky is the limit, you can do anything you want. You might look into becoming an independant leasing agent. I know they exist because I’ve dealt with them. There are many property owners, who don’t want to be hands on, and need someone to show their properties, or deal with things like collecting rents or fielding calls. You can do that. A perfect example of someone who started off is Barbara Corcoran. She started her business showing apartments for landlords and now she is a multi-millionaire. Read about her. At the very least, it will make you feel better.
Post # 12
I am so so sorry for you. I lost someone very close due to pancreatic cancer last year, and it was just so sudden and shocking and overwhelming.
As for the evil terrible working circumstances, I actually understand all too well where you are coming from there too. I used to work for a centralized leasing company, and while I was an incredibly hard worker and consistently their best employee both in numbers and customer feedback… I have never been more miserable. hopefully you will find a job that fulfills you and allows you to heal from this terrible loss by piecing yourself back together in a supportive and loving environment.
my thoughts are with you dear.
Post # 13
So sorry for your loss, but sounds like they don’t deserve you anyway.
Post # 14
I’m so sorry for your loss!
I’ve been unemployed (working part time) for awhile now and it sucks. I won’t lie. I would suggest sticking to as much of a schedule/routine as you can. That’s been something that I find to be very comforting, as I’m someone who needs to feel like I have a routine. I know losing your job after just getting married isn’t great (I lost my job 2 months before the wedding) BUT, you have a supportive Darling Husband to help you through this tough time, so that’s the bright side! You’ll find something better and being unemployed can build character and give you time to explore new things in life.
Post # 15
@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: *hugs* I’m sorry 🙁
I’m not sure how it works over there but here in Aus we have Bereavement Leave, Where you get at least 2 days paid work off.
Post # 16
Awww so sorry that this happened to you. I really hope you find something sooner, but bright side is, hopefully it will be for a nicer boss this time. I’m sure with your experience, it won’t be hard for you to find the same type of job, fi that is what you are looking for. ((HUGS))