Post # 1
Coming from a couple of teenaged parents, my grandmother was a vital force in raising me when my parents were too ignorant to do so in the early years.
I’m numb. I don’t know how I’m going to function in the coming days. To make matters worse, my g-parents bypassed their children and made me executor of their estate. Does anyone have experience in this department? It might be helpful to read about it from someone who has worn this hat before. Especially when you were so distraught with grief. Coping advice is welcome.
Post # 3
I am so sorry for your loss
Post # 4
I don’t have any advice re: the estate, just wanted to give you a big hug. I’m so sorry for your loss.
Post # 5
Thanks, ladies. I could use the hugs, even if they are via the internet.
Post # 6
I’m very sorry for your loss. I know what it’s like to be incredibly close to a grandparent and have them pass away. I would suggest talking to someone who you are close to about how you feel; know that it is okay to grieve. I still think about my own grandmother very regularly and she died years ago. I find comfort now in knowing that her memory lives in me.
Post # 7
I have no advice but I am really sorry! HUGS!
Post # 9
I’m so sorry for your loss. My grandmother was honestly one of my best friends that I ever had, so I know how hard it can be. For me, what helped was remembering all the happy times. I spent a lot of time looking through old pictures and watching home movies. It made me feel like by reliving those memories, it was keeping her alive in some way. About the estate, my family just went through something similar. We used an estate & elder law lawyer. They honestly did everything for us. I can’t recommend that enough because all that stuff is beyond confusing. Again, I’m so sorry for your loss <3
Post # 10
As someone who was also raised by her grandparents I am so incredibly sorry for your huge loss. I don’t have any advice for the will but I do wish you the best of wishes in muddling through. Again, I am so sorry my heart hurts for you!
Post # 12
Thanks again for the support and the suggestions.
I’ve been meaning to take myself out of the house for some retail window-shopping therapy, but I cannot get out of bed.
Post # 13
I am so sorry! Sending love and strength your way!
You will want to meet with a lawyer and/or also her lawyer to get more of the details. Basically you are in charge of making sure her final wishes are carried out. If you are also the main beneficiary, you will have to deal with the property, bank accounts, assets, etcetera.
As far as coping- take it one day at a time. And let yourself grieve. Scream, cry, laugh- whatever it takes. Don’t suppress anything, rather go through it all. Time is on your side and everything truly does heal/get better with time. Remember the best and be inspired by her love and her life!
Post # 14
Sorry to hear this hun. I too was pretty much raised by my grandmother so I can understand how the loss is unbearable.
Hugs and prayers for strength. Take it one day at a time and know crying and grief are natural!
Post # 15
@StuporDuck: 🙁 I am sorry. My Grampa just died on Friday. We were really close and I couldn’t sleep the whole night, then found out on Saturday morning. I am having a hard time sleeping, and a really hard time getting any work done!
Post # 16
So sorry for your loss, that must be so hard 🙁 As for the estate, I haven’t been through it but a close friend recently did with her father – and it was a very difficult and complicated thing for her to deal with, so I would say just brace yourself and surround yourself with people to support you. It’s hard enough to grieve without having to deal with the legal aspect of an estate. So sorry again – keeping you and your family in my thoughts.